The 4 Man Plan

[southerncitygirl]

Anybody familiar with Cindy Lu author of the 4 Man plan? This interview with her was interesting:

http://youtu.be/G76tFywEWd4


here's her website:

www.fourmanplan.com

 

[southerncitygirl]

the stuff she speaks of within the interview, is true.....when you go from one relationship to the next that is dysfunctional we are often the common denominator and don't realize it.

she can miss me with throwing out my list and paring down to only 3 things i ain't dating no midgets, uglies, unemployed menfolk or fatties cause i'm highly allergic

 

[Ltown]

Never heard of her, but for me i learn from my and other relationship. I'm good at observing and listening. My problem is i don't have patience i walk out fast. No drama that's something i got to work on.

 

[ambergirl]

Interesting. I likethe idea but I think the multi man dating can be tricky to pull off. I tried it back in the day and was surprised at how many men had serious issues with it and sometimes the best prospects would opt out because they think it's about game playing.

 

[Charz]

^how did they find out?

 

[CurlyNiquee]

'This time in your life—someday you will be married, someday you will have this long term monogamous relationship that you think about…because you’re thinking about it. But what I don’t want people to gloss over, --this is a party; this single life is such a great time. And if you’re missing out on it moping and being discouraged, and being frustrated and upset you’re missing the party. So, get in on the party of being a single girl cause it’s gonna be over in the blink of an eye, it really is and you’re gonna miss it!’

..........

 

[ambergirl]

^how did they find out?

If they asked I was honest about dating others. I also think my personality isn't well suited to dating more then one at a time while some women excel at it.

 

[Flawless_JYM]

Interesting. I likethe idea but I think the multi man dating can be tricky to pull off. I tried it back in the day and was surprised at how many men had serious issues with it and sometimes the best prospects would opt out because they think it's about game playing.

I think most guys that are serious aren't going for the dating multiple people thing. I feel most that are going for that knowingly or only doing so so they can mess with multiple women. I also feel that both sexes whether you tell them or not can sense when your "dating" multiple people esp after getting to know someone.

 

[BGT]

This sounds nice if you're able to get four men openly interested in you at once (not secretly crushing, but actively pursuing), but for women like me, this would never work.

 

[southerncitygirl]

dating one man at a time has never really worked for me.....if i had dated more than one i would have weeded out the bad apples and later met someone worth my while.i have wasted time over the years dating only one man at a time. in nyc there are so many men who play games so dating multiples would work if you are open to it. dating should be fun and sometimes i think women make it too methodical/mechanical.

my problem with overall lack of dates is that i don't put myself out there enough to meet men, i typically work, run errands and go home cause i'm exhausted. when you work 50-65 hours a week you are too tired to date.

 

[Charz]

dating one man at a time has never really worked for me.....if i had dated more than one i would have weeded out the bad apples and later met someone worth my while.i have wasted time over the years dating only one man at a time. in nyc there are so many men who play games so dating multiples would work if you are open to it. dating should be fun and sometimes i think women make it too methodical/mechanical.

This is exactly how I feel

and I dont share that info with them.