jainygirl
New Member
This is a longggg post but it's not every day that i go to a real live stylist so i had to tell y'all everything that happened. First of all i have to say thank you to all you ladies that have educated me on hair care through our own trial and error and genuine concern for the health and length of our hair.
It is SOOOO nice going into a situation when you are informed.
Okay so i'm walking into the grocery store located in the plaza up the road from me. This guy walks up to me and gives me a card goes into his shpeil about hair and that he cares about hair care and not hair styles-- he was saying all the right things so far so i said to myself, "Jainy, let the man talk" Basically he went on to tell me about how short hair should be touched up ever 4-6 weeks at the MOST and that longer hair should be every 6-8 weeks. I told him that i touch up every 12 weeks and he went on to say, "ooohh no that's too far apart, you'll cause your hair to snap off" He went on to tell me what i already know about where my relaxed hair and newgrowth meet up and how i was causing breakage to my hair by not touching up more frequently all of which is not true as long as you know how to take care of your hair.
So i'm just listening to him and nodding my head and smiling and looking really nice and interested. Meantime i'm thinking, "i cant wait to tell the girls about this"
So he gives me his card and i go into the store and realize i left my debit card at home. When i go home to get it i say forget the grocery store and give him a call to get a consultation. So he says" come right on in" I know y'all are thinking "Jainy you are crazy" but i'm just masochistic to an extent and wanted to see what this fool was gonna tell me about my hair.
So i get to the shop and bad sign #1 -- no one else is in the shop except for 2 other stylists. One of which is a friend of his visiting. Bad sign #2 he goes on to tell me how i have all kinds of breakage because my hair in one quarter size section at the crown is 6 inches while the rest of my hair is longer---even after i told him that i'm a hair tugger and this is the area i tug my hair so that's why it's shorter, He insisted that it was breakage because i have bad technique while applying my relaxer. Then he's running his fingers through my hair saying, "Now i know you have split ends in here somewhere...let me show them to you" I'm thinking if you have to go looking for them it cant be that serious. btw-- he never found any
Bad sign #3 he starts telling me that the reason my hair in the back is shorter at my nape area is because of breakage and i told him that's not so because i grew my hair out from a very short cut so of course my hair in back is gonna be shorter because it was shorter when i first started growing my hair out "Duh". Then this is the topper, he goes to show me the weight of my hair. you know where all of your hair has the same length so therefore the area is the nicest and thickest-- for me it's a little past my shoulders so i'm like, "yeah, i know that's where the weight of my hair is because as it grows in it's all starting from that area so of course the hair closest to my head is gonna be the thickest; i plan on gaining more fullness at the ends as my hair grows in and i trim it gradually over time until all my hair has the same thickness"
Then he says he could get my hair looking really great and full in a bob cut -- Okay this is where the girl sitting next to me in another chair-- his friend the other stylist is all like, "yeah, i didnt want to get my hair cut when it was long either but you'll see how worth it is once you get all that cut off"
Now i'm looking at her incredulously like, before you said that you should have at least come correct -- how the hell are you gonna say that i need to cut my hair off while youre looking like a jacked up before picture on a Supercuts commercial. I mean her hair was not looking good at all.
So anyway i'm like"thank you so much for the consultation" -- i mean it WAS free after all. I feel much better now since i know that my hair is in good condition -- not because he told me but because i knew -- i just like seeing a drowning man clutching at straws. He was trying all kinds of scare tactics but they didnt work. It's a shame, because if i wasnt a part of this forum i would be sitting up here crying trying to figure out what i was gonna do with this "disaster" on my head
Okay so i'm walking into the grocery store located in the plaza up the road from me. This guy walks up to me and gives me a card goes into his shpeil about hair and that he cares about hair care and not hair styles-- he was saying all the right things so far so i said to myself, "Jainy, let the man talk" Basically he went on to tell me about how short hair should be touched up ever 4-6 weeks at the MOST and that longer hair should be every 6-8 weeks. I told him that i touch up every 12 weeks and he went on to say, "ooohh no that's too far apart, you'll cause your hair to snap off" He went on to tell me what i already know about where my relaxed hair and newgrowth meet up and how i was causing breakage to my hair by not touching up more frequently all of which is not true as long as you know how to take care of your hair.
So i'm just listening to him and nodding my head and smiling and looking really nice and interested. Meantime i'm thinking, "i cant wait to tell the girls about this"
So i get to the shop and bad sign #1 -- no one else is in the shop except for 2 other stylists. One of which is a friend of his visiting. Bad sign #2 he goes on to tell me how i have all kinds of breakage because my hair in one quarter size section at the crown is 6 inches while the rest of my hair is longer---even after i told him that i'm a hair tugger and this is the area i tug my hair so that's why it's shorter, He insisted that it was breakage because i have bad technique while applying my relaxer. Then he's running his fingers through my hair saying, "Now i know you have split ends in here somewhere...let me show them to you" I'm thinking if you have to go looking for them it cant be that serious. btw-- he never found any
Bad sign #3 he starts telling me that the reason my hair in the back is shorter at my nape area is because of breakage and i told him that's not so because i grew my hair out from a very short cut so of course my hair in back is gonna be shorter because it was shorter when i first started growing my hair out "Duh". Then this is the topper, he goes to show me the weight of my hair. you know where all of your hair has the same length so therefore the area is the nicest and thickest-- for me it's a little past my shoulders so i'm like, "yeah, i know that's where the weight of my hair is because as it grows in it's all starting from that area so of course the hair closest to my head is gonna be the thickest; i plan on gaining more fullness at the ends as my hair grows in and i trim it gradually over time until all my hair has the same thickness"
Then he says he could get my hair looking really great and full in a bob cut -- Okay this is where the girl sitting next to me in another chair-- his friend the other stylist is all like, "yeah, i didnt want to get my hair cut when it was long either but you'll see how worth it is once you get all that cut off"
Now i'm looking at her incredulously like, before you said that you should have at least come correct -- how the hell are you gonna say that i need to cut my hair off while youre looking like a jacked up before picture on a Supercuts commercial. I mean her hair was not looking good at all.
So anyway i'm like"thank you so much for the consultation" -- i mean it WAS free after all. I feel much better now since i know that my hair is in good condition -- not because he told me but because i knew -- i just like seeing a drowning man clutching at straws. He was trying all kinds of scare tactics but they didnt work. It's a shame, because if i wasnt a part of this forum i would be sitting up here crying trying to figure out what i was gonna do with this "disaster" on my head
