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Yeah, detangling is a bit of a chore when I take them down, but even if I finger combed or combed every day it would still be a tangled, matted mess, so I might as well leave the work for for one or two days out of the week, plus I ain't got the time.
This is how I feel, too. You might try keeping your hair in braids or twists for a few days and if it really is starting to loc on you then I'd say cut out the moisturizer and stick to oils or butters. Water helps our hair lock.
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Girl, I know, I KNOW!!!
My video looks just like yours! I call it connect the knots. Cuz you got a hair that's involved in one knot, but then another hair from that knot is caught up in another knot and so forth and so on. There are things we can do that will help a little bit. If we do all of them it will help a noticeable amount, but I don't think it will ever go away. There are some textures that I just believe were meant to be locs or twas and if we decide against those options, it's going to be a lot of work for us. The things that would help me (but which I don't want to do all the time cuz then my hair would be boring and/or ugly and/or gross as h3ll) are:
Lay low on the humectants. Everybody wants humectants, "moisturize" is the word of the day. Like I said, water helps my hair lock. This is not really bad in a humid environment like Chicago's summer, but in a dry environment adding moisturizers essentially means I wet my hair, it dries, I add more thus getting it wet again, it dries. Oils don't seal in doodly, once that hair dries it's going to
dry. And the fastest way for me to lock is to wet my hair and let it dry over and over again without detangling. So during those times I stick to butters or oils.
Keep my hair in a position where it can't move. the more the hair can move around the more it's going to tangle. After detangling, put my hair into something that keeps the hair from moving around. twists are best for me. braids take too long to put in and take down, and like you, i can't keep them in long enough to justify all that time because after a short time my hair still wants to knot and tangle. It's a delicate balance, because if you leave them in for too long the individual hairs want to mesh together. for me the optimal time is once to twice a week to take them apart. Or you could do banded ponytails, those might be easier and work best for you.
I know you are relaxed, but a lot of texture is still left in your hair, and that texture looks like mine. can i ask, how much time does it take you to finger comb daily?
About the finger combing, I want to take it up, too. I find that I can thoroughly detangle with my fingers, but it takes much longer than when I use a comb. I usually use a pick. I tried the Denman and even after detangling with a pick that sucker ripped my hair OUT! The better brush for my hair texture is the Goody Styling Therapy add shine brush. The bristles are soft and pliable, but it still works at getting shed hair out. My hair still broke off, but not nearly as much. Following the advice of others I tried detangling more frequently. I used a shower comb and detangled every day to every other day with conditioner loaded hair. It is true that detangling became easier, i was able to do it in 10-20 minutes compared to my regular 45 minute minimum. But I was also tracking my growth with pictures every few days and I lost 1/2" of hair in two weeks before I decided that combing my hair that often was breaking my ish off! Maybe you can try detangling with a comb every 2nd to 3rd detangling and see how that goes for you, but if your hair is like mine, combing through thoroughly all the time will soon have you bald.
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but some people dont trust that brush as mucch as i do). Maybe the low manipulation doesnt work for your hair. I know it def doesnt work for mine.
