I have just started to get relaxers. This past Saturday was only my second relaxer. And it was just a touch up, or was supposed to be. I have an amazing stylist who is about healthy hair and not just styling. She is a Spanish woman (from Nicaragua I think) and she is phenomenal. I fell in love with her when a woman came in with super short, broken off, damaged hair and she asked for a relaxer and my stylist refused. She said "No mami, let's wait 3 months and see. Yup, I was impressed. She has another girl in there - a black stylist that does braiding and weaves but I'll get to her! So I get to the salon and my lady was just sitting down to lunch when I came in. To be fair I just walked in so I couldn't be too upset when she suggested that I let this other chick touch me up. What was I thinking when I said ok to that? But I expressed all of my concerns to this woman.
As soon as I get in the chair she starts asking my stylist all of these questions and I gave her the side eye. She says "I know what I'm doing, just wanted to be sure I mixed it right" Yeah, sure. So I tell her that I had stretched to 12 weeks so I did not risk overlapping and I wanted her to be careful. She just nods like I didn't say a thing. She bases my scalp and I notice that after she does each section she relaxes the edges in that section too instead of waiting until the end. I speak up and say "Excuse me, you are supposed to do that last" All she could say was oh sorry Then she starts smoothing the relaxer and spreading it almost to the tip. Yeah! Overlapping! I speak up again. "enough with the smoothing, you are going to overprocess me." So she stops. After she was done she puts EXTRA relaxer on my front edges because she "based my scalp a little too much". WHAT?! I stop her immediately and since she is already done I tell her I will wait for my stylist to rinse me and finish me up and that I would wait for her from now on. She was visibily offended but I do not care.
After some time I ask my stylist to rinse me and this black stylist gives her two cents saying "It isn't ready" I said I am not after bone straight. I am good to wash out now." She opens her mouth again saying if it is burning then she will spray some hair sheen on it and if it isn't burning then I should just wait. Huh?! So again I say I do not need bone straight, thanks. She says "when your new growth grows in you will wish you had bone straight"erplexed How does that even make sense? I ignore her and my stylist does as I ask - the way a stylist should!
After I was rinsed everything was fine. But now I am noticing that my hair seems to be "burned off" in the front. Sort of like when a guy gets a really low hair cut and you can feel the little peach fuzz growing back. That is what the front of my hair feels like! That means burned or singed off hair doesn't it? I can't see a difference even though I am looking closely. But I still feel it. What do I do? The peach fuzz feeling is making me crazy and I am so mad! Help!
I am so upset that this stylist basically ignored my concerns. And then afterward tried to give me advice! Ugh! While I am sitting with the reconstructor in my hair she is asking me if I sweat and trying to give me advice on my hair. While she is sitting there with over processed, colored hair sticking out of a raggedy weave. Can you believe this? Why are black stylists like this? My fault completely for not waiting for my girl. But when you actually speak up and they still ignore you how do you not punch them in the face?!
As soon as I get in the chair she starts asking my stylist all of these questions and I gave her the side eye. She says "I know what I'm doing, just wanted to be sure I mixed it right" Yeah, sure. So I tell her that I had stretched to 12 weeks so I did not risk overlapping and I wanted her to be careful. She just nods like I didn't say a thing. She bases my scalp and I notice that after she does each section she relaxes the edges in that section too instead of waiting until the end. I speak up and say "Excuse me, you are supposed to do that last" All she could say was oh sorry Then she starts smoothing the relaxer and spreading it almost to the tip. Yeah! Overlapping! I speak up again. "enough with the smoothing, you are going to overprocess me." So she stops. After she was done she puts EXTRA relaxer on my front edges because she "based my scalp a little too much". WHAT?! I stop her immediately and since she is already done I tell her I will wait for my stylist to rinse me and finish me up and that I would wait for her from now on. She was visibily offended but I do not care.
After some time I ask my stylist to rinse me and this black stylist gives her two cents saying "It isn't ready" I said I am not after bone straight. I am good to wash out now." She opens her mouth again saying if it is burning then she will spray some hair sheen on it and if it isn't burning then I should just wait. Huh?! So again I say I do not need bone straight, thanks. She says "when your new growth grows in you will wish you had bone straight"erplexed How does that even make sense? I ignore her and my stylist does as I ask - the way a stylist should!
After I was rinsed everything was fine. But now I am noticing that my hair seems to be "burned off" in the front. Sort of like when a guy gets a really low hair cut and you can feel the little peach fuzz growing back. That is what the front of my hair feels like! That means burned or singed off hair doesn't it? I can't see a difference even though I am looking closely. But I still feel it. What do I do? The peach fuzz feeling is making me crazy and I am so mad! Help!
I am so upset that this stylist basically ignored my concerns. And then afterward tried to give me advice! Ugh! While I am sitting with the reconstructor in my hair she is asking me if I sweat and trying to give me advice on my hair. While she is sitting there with over processed, colored hair sticking out of a raggedy weave. Can you believe this? Why are black stylists like this? My fault completely for not waiting for my girl. But when you actually speak up and they still ignore you how do you not punch them in the face?!