Missjae09
The no/low heat and protective styles thing is so popular because it really does work for most people. It's what I did after I BC'd and it grew my hair to new lengths, so I'm all for encouraging that route. On the other hand, it isn't the only way to do your hair and be satisfied with it.
In my experience:
Wearing straightened natural hair, especially when you're first starting out, requires constant vigilance. Barring any extreme incidents, it could take several months, even a year, for your hair to start seeming damaged. Your iron may be too high, conditioner not have the right protein/moisture balance, or whatever for
long-term success, but you may not recognize this right away--simply because the hair you start with is usually really healthy and hardy if you've been taking good care of it. I think that's an important point a lot of people don't take into consideration.
If your hair starts feeling or behaving differently (isn't hanging right, not responding to your usual products the way it normally does), that might indicate something is up. This is likely long before you actually start seeing splits, breakage, hair that won't revert or other obvious signs of damage.
Even though my frequency has stayed the same (I did try going 2 weeks between washes, but my scalp said "no ma'am!"
), over time I have tweaked other things like temperature of the iron, post-wash products, and probably most importantly, the type of pre-shampoo treatments I do. I used to alternate protein and moisture weekly, but now do light/moderate protein every week. My point isn't to say everyone should be using protein every wash, but that as time goes on you should be prepared to adjust things as needed
Good luck on your journey!
I have recently become tired of wearing my hair in natural styles and have been wearing it straight for about a month now (maybe longer). I have been going back and forth with myself about whether I'm setting myself up for a set back but I've been watching my hair closely and it seems to be just fine. I'm still nervous though... and it seems that the vast majority on the forum are preaching, only use heat twice a year and protective style all the time, but I have been blow drying and flat ironing my hair once a week as well. (I know it's all about what works for you) but for now I want straight hair, so we'll see how this goes.