Stop Calling me Macy Gray!!

I've been called Macy Gray too as well as Lauren Hill.

I went to a picnic (Old School Picnic for you Chicagoans) I had my hair in a puff. As I walked by a group of men one of them said, "I suddenly have a taste for pineapple." I gave him the stank eye but I laughed on the inside. It was kinda funny.
 
Guy at the gym: Excuse me, (shy) I was just listening to Lauren Hill on my iPod and I think you look a lot like her. I think she's very beautiful. I'm Joe (extends hand)...

Me: (Giggle, but thinking I look NOTHING like no Lauren Hill).

He was a nice enough guy so I didn't give him any flack.

I was called Tatyana Ali once in high school, but I didn't understand how or why.

Thankfully, I don't get many accidental celebrity sightings.

see that's a very un-annoying way of doing it and kinda cute.
 
To each her own. OP, I can understand why you feel like you do:yep:. This is the honest to goodness truth of how I deal with stuff like this IRL. I do not respond to anyone who calls me out of my name.:look: No, really. A few years ago BM did not refer to BW as B****** or H***. I know most of you were born after that time period though. Then (after the rise of certain artists) it was nothing to be at a club and have some dude call you out of your name. Then it became cute to do it out and about. Then it became cute for women to refer to each other this way. If you don't respond to ppl, they get the message loud and clear w/o violence:lol:. So, just like I would never turn around to address a man calling out "Hey H*", I would never acknowledge anyone referring to me as **insert random celebrity or well-known persona** either. There’s an old adage that says if the shoe fits wear it. On the flip side the h* or b**** shoe never fit so I don’t respond to that. I think at your age I would feel the way you do too but as I’ve since learned not to let my feelings lead me b/c they change too rapidly from situation to situation. Like Ronnie said up post I've found life has so many real things worth being upset over. This is not one of them.:hug2:
 
YES! I GET THAT ALLL THE TIME! It really pisses me off because I realize they're CLEARLY not even looking at me when they say it. They're looking JUST at the fact that I'm Black with natural hair. When people look at ME, I actually get some good ones, like Vanessa Williams or, for the last couple years, Stacey Dash.

That's exactly what it is. That's why its offensive. I am my own person. Don't generalize me.

What is bolded is exactly my point!!!
 
To each her own. OP, I can understand why you feel like you do:yep:. This is the honest to goodness truth of how I deal with stuff like this IRL. I do not respond to anyone who calls me out of my name.:look: No, really. A few years ago BM did not refer to BW as B****** or H***. I know most of you were born after that time period though. Then (after the rise of certain artists) it was nothing to be at a club and have some dude call you out of your name. Then it became cute to do it out and about. Then it became cute for women to refer to each other this way. If you don't respond to ppl, they get the message loud and clear w/o violence:lol:. So, just like I would never turn around to address a man calling out "Hey H*", I would never acknowledge anyone referring to me as **insert random celebrity or well-known persona** either. There’s an old adage that says if the shoe fits wear it. On the flip side the h* or b**** shoe never fit so I don’t respond to that. I think at your age I would feel the way you do too but as I’ve since learned not to let my feelings lead me b/c they change too rapidly from situation to situation. Like Ronnie said up post I've found life has so many real things worth being upset over. This is not one of them.:hug2:

YUP!!!:yep::yep::yep:

I was going to post this too. I DO NOT respond to anything other than my name, when it comes to strangers. It would be plain rude if I called other people names that are not theirs, so I don't accept it from anyone else. To say someone looks like a celebrity is one thing, to call a person that celebrity (regardless of how "cute" they may be:look:) once or anytime you see them is just rude. They would get an ignore from me.
 
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Strangers never really call me any celeb names. They usually say i love your hair or something.


Now friends n family i gots those comments like sideshow bob or angela davis, ms. badu etc. i just :lol: all the time. Doesn't bother me
 
Shoot I have kokack: Kojack, Pepe kale, Jackie Chan, Chaka zulu and the witch in the film, Olajuwan, Mutombo, Derek J, Coolio, buckwheat, Mo Vaughn, amber Riley, Gabourey, Delta Burke, Mimi from The Drew Carey Show and Chaka Khan. :lol:

My family started this along with other not so nice names and descriptions so I just tell them "HA! Good one. :lachen:" and KIM. I have developed thick skinned because I know people would get punched for some of the things people say. On top of that I am self deprecating so...
 
Since I started wearing Shelly by Beshe, the yt people at work have said that I look like Whitney Houston and Aretha Franklin. I just take it as a compliment, because it must mean I look like a diva. :lachen:
 
I don't think she's attractive. That's why i get upset.
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How about these pics? :look: :grin: I tried to find some relatively good ones of her...

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You're overreacting.

I've been called (and chased on a train) everyone from Mel B (scary spice) to Kelis to Beyonce all because of my hair style/colour. I take it as a compliment and a way that people use to identify with you, they pick whoever they know/think is hot and associate you with that, its not serious.

but Kelis, Beyonce and Mel B are cute.

There's nothing complimentary about being compared to an unfortunate looking person like Macy Gray. :lachen: #IMJUSSAYIN. I guess its just on how people perceive it.
 
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Let's see, recently my brother likes calling me Angela Davis, Jill Scott, Lauren Hill, Macy Gray and Erykah Badu.. When I was younger he used to call me Rudy Huxtable, Moesha (cuz I wore the braids), and people at school used to call me Whoopi (there is a difference from braids and locs people!).

I don't think your overreacting. It used to get me so pissed off when people called me Whoopi cuz I didn't think she was that attractive and of course I didn't look at her at all. But I didn't necessarily get used to it, I just realized that 1) they are probably envious of my hair and 2) they are ignorant about hair and the comments didn't bother me anymore. (with my brother we go back and forth and it's said with love so it doesn't bother me at all).
 
I think you have to pick your battles. You can't waste the time, effort and energy it takes to get mad at a bunch of random people. I got called Brandy all growing up, and now at 32, I STILL get called that, even though I have NEVER in life worn braid extensions. Because I have a "bubbly" personality, I got compared to Blossom from way back in the day, and she's white. I've on occasion been compared to Kelly Rowland, which I really don't mind :look: because we have similar body shapes. I personally don't think I look like Brandy, I don't find her particularly attractive, but I presume it's always been meant as a compliment so I choose not to stress over it.

You don't need to defend yourself or your hair to anyone. Eventually I think it'll stop bothering you, but it may take more time. Just do you, KIM, and stop stressing. There are PLENTY of things in life to stress about, this just isn't one of them, IMO.

@Ronnieaj, you and I are so no the same page. I didn't enter this thread earlier because I don't let stuff like that get to me and just didn't identify with any of the complaints. I think part of why this doesn't bother me is I just have this thing in me of not thinking of folks as ugly. They may be plain-looking, but they are human and wonderfully made...and so being told I look like one of them doesn't really bother me coz it doesn't mean it's fact--because the one commenting isn't necessary author of the gospel. I can choose to believe it and feel flattered or insulted or I can just determine that it's not true and ignore it without reacting one way or another.

I was called Macy Gray once when I went to work with my straightened hair in mini braids and undid them with the intention to style--I used to get to work 2-3 hours before anyone else. I had meant to comb my hair and style it only I forgot to carry my comb and only realized it after finger undoing my braids. :wallbash: I panicked and didn't know what to do. I tried to make-believe that I planned on a braid-out and faked the funk by trying to make it look like a style.

When my boss came and saw me, she excitedly cheered and said, "OMG you crimped your hair! I love it! I'll call you Macy Gray!" I wasn't expecting that reaction. I thought I'd sheepishly have to tell my lame story of why my hair was looking unkempt and how I planned to get a comb from CVS at lunch time or a scarf from Target to hide the mess. But she actually thought it was a style! :giggle:

I have no problem with Macy Gray or her appearance at all, so I didn't mind at all. TBH, I can't think of any black person (male or female) I'd be offended if I were told I looked like them. I guess I don't put a lot of stock in what folks say, so very rarely will stuff people say get to me because I sorta already have an opinion about myself and I believe it, so it takes a lot to convince me otherwise.
 
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I think it's not that serious. It is annoying but not that serious to ME. I think when it's all said and done they really are just trying to compliment me. I don't think I've gotten Macy but I have gotten Jill Scot and Erykah. Erykah is a bad B, Face, body, yes so THANK YA! LOL. No but I feel you it is annoying but try not to take it too serious to the point where you want to punch random strangers. If anything give them a look like "Umm not today fool" Or just a look of confusion. Maybe try enlightening them or telling them you don't like that. IDK.
 
I can't recall ever being called a celeb name because of my natural hair...but I got peekaboo blond highlights and my friends called me Rihanna for the longest time. At first it really annoyed me, at an irrational level. They'd ask when my album was out, how the tour was going and I never knew WTH they were talking about (bc I'm slow like that). Eventually, I just rolled with it and requested "my song" when we were out. My hair is back to all one color so they let it go.
 
I've been called African Mama, and Lauren Hill, Erika Badu and all kinda names, people giving me the power fist and telling me something that always has to end with "sista", quite annoying...all over an afro. Smh..and of course right after asking me if it's real, since for some odd reason people in the area I live in don't think afro's are real and are surprised by any sort of "afro-textured" hair.
 
I went from Whitney Houston to Magic Johnson to Lion King. The Lion King thing gave me an identity crisis. He's yellow and he's not human and he's blond!
(lol)

OMG HILARIOUS!!! I laughed forever in the coffee shop earlier today when I was reading this!!
 
I've been called African Mama, and Lauren Hill, Erika Badu and all kinda names, people giving me the power fist and telling me something that always has to end with "sista", quite annoying...all over an afro. Smh..and of course right after asking me if it's real, since for some odd reason people in the area I live in don't think afro's are real and are surprised by any sort of "afro-textured" hair.

That's exactly how I feel. I am not a gimmick.
 
i'm waiting for the day someone callls me sideshow bob -i'll probably thank them for comparing me to my longtime hair idol
 
i'm waiting for the day someone callls me sideshow bob -i'll probably thank them for comparing me to my longtime hair idol

LOL @andromeda. I do have to agree that he has a banging do. Do you think it's a twist-out?

I've already claimed and owned the Lisa Simpson do... and I was so proud of it because while I didn't plan it and it just happened, I thought it was adorable and call it my invention--but we shan't let Lisa know this of course; plus I'd argue mine is not done with blond hair, so there! I can't wait to pull it off again. I was so thrilled when someone christened it for me and I embrace the name. :up:
 
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Umm yeah, I second Daeuiel on that one. When nonblacks get me with the 'oh, I'm going to find one black girl that has your skin color and say you look JUST like her' kind of thing, I choose the WORST possible half-way look like and call them that lol.

One girl was Khole K for a whole week when she told me I look JUST like this 'one black girl on the bus. She was light brown and everything too!'

Lol no kidding...Hit 'em with the WORST celeb clone! (sorry, but it makes people stop! lol!)
 
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