Steve Harvey's Strawberry Letter 8/31/2011

Wow. That is very sad. Somehow I feel people who feel like that are in danger of opening themselves up to guys who are no good. Like the poster who always insisted a man would drastically improve her life. :sad: those feelings go far beyond just wanting to be boo'd up.
 
I can believe it, I was quite depressed when I was dating because the pickings were slim and also it was depressing when we were ttc. So I can somewhat understand.
 
I just hope who ever this sister is, she gets help and doesn't harm herself. I also feel that we need to get rid of the strong black woman paradigm cause I think it does more harm than good. I think it prevents black women from seeking the help and attention they need thus causing suppression of emotions. I understand it was created to uplift us but truth of the matter is it's been a double edged sword.
 
Wow this is so sad. :( I'm married and while the Strawberry Letter is an extreme case, I would never say it's not hard to be single. It's not so much that you aren't happy or having fun, but just the thought that you might be happier if you were married. And I have to admit that a good marriage is a source of much happiness. I love my life much more now than I did when I was single. It's hard to admit that after I've spent so much of your life trying to convince people that I was perfectly happy being single.

That being said, being single is eons better than being in a miserable relationship. I've been in an unhappy, soul-sucking long term relationship before I got married as well, and being single again after that felt like being in Disneyland every day. So I have learned to appreciate both sides of the fence.

I do think that people in relationships can take things for granted. I remember when my mother was still living, I was complaining to my father about how hard it was to be single, and he just brushed me off. Sadly, after my mother died, in addition to grieving my mom, he also had trouble with adjusting to being alone. :(
 
softblackcotton said:
I listened to that strawberry letter. They did take it very seriously and did not clown even with lavell crawford on the show. this letter really connected with my situation in life right now although I'm 10 years toner than her and I do not desire children. Because not only has she never been married, had children, she's never been in a romantic relationship either. I could easily see myself in the same position in 10 years but hopefully I won't be contemplating suicide. most of the people saying that it's not that serious probably already been married, have children, or serious romantic relationships. It's easy to dismiss the seriousness of her feelings because they just don't understand what out it feels like to desire something so much that seems to easily come to most people but seems impossible for you. Even after trying everything including taking it to God. It's deeper than just getting a husband and having children. it's trying to figure out what exactly makes you so different that you can't possibly do what so many others seem to do so easily. The possibilities of facing life of perpetual spinster hood unwillingly. You seem to try to do everything right but nothing ever works out for you when you see so many others doing everything wrong and still getting the things that always miss you. It's the not knowing why and not being able to fix it. It's the feeling helpless about your life situation.
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Beautifully written.
 
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