daydreem2876
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I will share my experience later. Please share you stories, this could be valuable information to someone else.
SPINOFF: If you were in a DV situation, how did you get out?
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queen928
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He had moved in with me when we started dating. We were together for almost 5 years and since he had lived there for longer than 30 days and was receiving mail at that address he was considered a resident. The landlord could put him out but I was too embarrassed to get them involved and the police were of no help. Even though I didn't want to do it I left my apartment and moved back home with my grandmother. Since I (the leaseholder) was moving he had no other choice but to leave (with nowhere to go) then after a few months I moved to another town.
GV-NA-GI-TLV-GE-I
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??? Why share later? People will begin to suspect your reasoning to ask
. But why not see a lawyer (for the person who's in need of this info)? That's the first place anyone should go.
Denise11
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Come on, you can tell us what's wrong.
daydreem2876
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??? Why share later? People will begin to suspect your reasoning to ask
Oh no... its not like that at all. i was at work and did not have time to type it all out bu6t I was thinking about it and wanted to get the thread started. So here we go...
The first thing I did was pray for good judgement and safety.
We were together for almost 7 years. He was basically a undiagnosed paranoid schizophrenic, very violent, very paranoid, very bipolar. If you can imagine walking on eggshells for almost 7 years, everyday not knowing what to expect, constantly on the defense, never having a moment to fully relax because when I was at home I was constantly monitored his mood, and when I was out in public it took all I had to maintain the front. Did I mention I was the only one working consistently? Exhausting.
So when my landlord said they would not renew our lease due to him disturbing the neighbors, I knew I was done. But I had about two months until the end of the lease. About that time I told him it was over and that I would not get sign another lease with him. He played his mind games, told me things would change, called me and my mother everything but a child of God, trashed the place, told me I would never be anyhting with out him, took everything*i mean everything* out of the apartment. He put him hands on me and that ended with my knees in his chest and hands around his throat while he having an asthma attack. *Mind you he was 6*5 and 275lbs.
But he finally realized I was serious when I told he would have to snap my neck or let me walk out of that door, but either way I was leaving. I told him I did not need or want s*** from him and he could have it all, it was just s*** and s*** could be replaced. And even if I would be nothing without him that was better than being with him. The funny thing was I was calm, no screaming, no crying, no begging, no fear.
He left me alone after that probably figuring I was crazier than he was and at the time I probably was. This was almost two years ago and havent looked back since.
miss Congeniality
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Got an order for protection, moved and changed phone number.
daydreem2876
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^^^^^ That's OK... Someone may be helped the short time it is here 
pinkchocolatedaisy
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I was already getting to the point where I felt like I HATED him...and I was taught not to use such a strong word. I was afraid I was going to be killed or maybe I'd do somethng drastic to him in self defense. I'd already gotten a PO box and a cell phone (we lived together for5 months and have a daughter).
The last time he put his hands on me, I called the cops. They talked to my daughter. She told them what she saw him do to me. I packed all my stuff and went back to my moms. I got a restraining order the same day and let my supv and cowkrs know what was going on. I called the gas/electric company and told them to shut off the power (it was in my name) while he was in jail. He came back home to a dark house.
the end... well not really but I'm not w/him anymore. Last I heard he's the same way with his current GF. Sad thing is she just barely turned 20 and he's 37.
The last time he put his hands on me, I called the cops. They talked to my daughter. She told them what she saw him do to me. I packed all my stuff and went back to my moms. I got a restraining order the same day and let my supv and cowkrs know what was going on. I called the gas/electric company and told them to shut off the power (it was in my name) while he was in jail. He came back home to a dark house.
the end... well not really but I'm not w/him anymore. Last I heard he's the same way with his current GF. Sad thing is she just barely turned 20 and he's 37.
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