Lady S
Well-Known Member
I was watching the YT video of the white guy talking about his black wife's hair. I replied that I thought it paralleled by own experience where white people weren't clutching their pearls over my 4b hair.
But then I thought about it and wondered how much does gender play a role? I know generation plays a BIG part, but was it just the women appalled or were the men folk freaking out too? Did young black men shake their head in disgust or too busy looking at your booty?
It's not so much wondering how about desire or even attractiveness, but more about negative reactions. I may not think someone is attractive, but not think they were horrific either.
I never had a man tell me my hair looked untidy or suggest I dunk my hair in a big ol' tub of Dark & Lovely. No suggestion of weaves or anything. I did have a couple of female family members suggest that my hair looked uncombed and unkept.
But then I thought about it and wondered how much does gender play a role? I know generation plays a BIG part, but was it just the women appalled or were the men folk freaking out too? Did young black men shake their head in disgust or too busy looking at your booty?
It's not so much wondering how about desire or even attractiveness, but more about negative reactions. I may not think someone is attractive, but not think they were horrific either.
I never had a man tell me my hair looked untidy or suggest I dunk my hair in a big ol' tub of Dark & Lovely. No suggestion of weaves or anything. I did have a couple of female family members suggest that my hair looked uncombed and unkept.