yep. i'm not even sure when my last relaxer was. '95? '94? but it's just too permanent for me, even if I did want straight hair. And I decidedly don't want straight hair most of the time. So I'll just keep on keeping on.
I have my moments of frustration with my curly 4b hair, but then I flash back to my last trip to a stylist that relaxed my hair and burned the hell out of my scalp, I calm down. lol.. I'll never be a relaxed head again, now texturizing I may consider doing myself. Just enough so it's a little easier to comb.
awwwww how come?
My hair is too hard to comb. It won't retain any moisture, won't stay straight and the styles are limited. I am really tired of thinking about "doing" my hair daily. Its just too much effort.
I do remember when I was younger and it was natural and long it was a lot of work for my mother to take care of it. A LOT.
My relaxed hair took 4 hours from wash to flat iron because of thick ness. Multiply that by two and half for my natural hair and that was just APL-BSB length. Not the hip length I know I can reach.
I think I can handle my hair...but it's thick in strand AND in density and doesn't break for nuthin'....
To be honest, I really don't know.
I'm at the point where I'm trying to figure out what works for my hair and it's costing a lot of money and time.
I was previously natural for about 2 years and got a pretty good amount of growth (though I wore braids, wigs and weaves the entire time) so I'd like to, but I can't say for sure. Some days, I really do feel like it was much easier to deal with when I was relaxed.
To be honest, I really don't know.
I'm at the point where I'm trying to figure out what works for my hair and it's costing a lot of money and time.
I was previously natural for about 2 years and got a pretty good amount of growth (though I wore braids, wigs and weaves the entire time) so I'd like to, but I can't say for sure. Some days, I really do feel like it was much easier to deal with when I was relaxed.
I'm staying natural. Relaxers made my hair so hard to grow. It would grow fast as it would shed out which kept me ever so shy of APL. I would get to APL then it would shed away to shoulder in about 8 weeks. Then a bald spot on the side of my crown would appear shortly afterwards. I would slather on that stuff they call "hydrating formula" products with little or no improvement. You can't pay me to go back to that. I'm now APL unstretched and it's getting better. I know, I'm long winded!
only you can decide whats right for you
but I think it still takes work to maintain relaxed hair, maybe not as much for detangling sessions but to keep it up and healthy
much more complicated than natural hair to me
its like if you slip up on a lil something with your natural hair you dont have to worry so much about it going downhill so easily
1 inch and 1 day at time is a perfect planMost likely no. Don't get me wrong, I had relaxed hair for 15 years and I loved it...my hair was fairly healthy, I had versatility, and I was blessed to not really have a problem with growing it out. But nothing compares to this mess of coils, kinks, and curls that I have growing on top of my head now, lol! I'm still in a TWA phase (got a little growth obsessed for a hot minute), and I am looking forward to what more length will bring, but I am really concentrating on making sure that my hair is healthy and strong so that when the length comes, nothing can stop me. I've found that the more I leave my hair alone, the better it looks - when it gets longer, tweaks in the regimine are bound to occur. I plan to take it one inch and one day at a time
I'm 22 years old, and I have a lot I want to do with my hair before I die.
1. I want to prove that I can rock my natural 4/b kinkiest of the kinky hair and grow it out for as long as I want it. Probably to SL.
2. I want to prove to myself that I can have long (never passed SL) healthy relaxed hair as well and grow it to MBL. Relaxers weren't my problem, it was the lack of knowlege on how to care for my hair.
3. I want to get my hair highlighted.
4. I want to get a cool cut with bangs and long layers
5. I want to do a long 1+ year transition back to natural (I didn't get to transition this time, I just chopped)
6. I want to rock a blonde TWA
7. I want to try a texlax
7. Then Repeat all steps above in various order.
I guess I'll stay natural when i'm 50 and ride it on out, probably keep it short bc I know I'm too lazy to deal with long hair. Who knows what I might do next...Honestly, it's just hair to me. It grows. As long as it's healthy, I could care less if it's relaxed or natural. I love MY hair. BC it's mine.