MrsHdrLe
Well-Known Member
I was reading Zaynab's thread on BW and the Mega Black Church (sounds kinda like a bed time story ). Anyway, it got me to thinking about things I learned/heard while growing up in the BC.
One thing that stood out was on the subject of being "unevenly yoked", or in secular terms, matching up with someone who doesn't have the same spiritual beliefs as you (this could mean faith, religion, life-style...). I struggled for years with dating because I believed that I had to be "evenly yoked" to even consider someone as a mate. So ensued the viscious cycle of meeting a boy, dating a boy, dragging a boy to church with me, and being disappointed when "boy" doesn't join on that first visit, then soon after breaking up with boy b/c "we're unevenly yoked".
Well, my DH's family is not religious (reformed Catholics from what I understand) and most if the marriages in that very large family seem to stay together, love, respect, and work together for many, many years. Then I look at my own family, full of faith-filled Bible toting Christian women and no men any where in sight. I had to make a decision, I chose, I married.
So are you "evenly yoked" with your mate? Has it been a point of contention in your relationship?
If not, have you/will you end a relationship if you find out that he was not spiritually in sync with you?
I want honest opinions about what you did/would do, not judgements about what other should have done please. Thanks
One thing that stood out was on the subject of being "unevenly yoked", or in secular terms, matching up with someone who doesn't have the same spiritual beliefs as you (this could mean faith, religion, life-style...). I struggled for years with dating because I believed that I had to be "evenly yoked" to even consider someone as a mate. So ensued the viscious cycle of meeting a boy, dating a boy, dragging a boy to church with me, and being disappointed when "boy" doesn't join on that first visit, then soon after breaking up with boy b/c "we're unevenly yoked".
Well, my DH's family is not religious (reformed Catholics from what I understand) and most if the marriages in that very large family seem to stay together, love, respect, and work together for many, many years. Then I look at my own family, full of faith-filled Bible toting Christian women and no men any where in sight. I had to make a decision, I chose, I married.
So are you "evenly yoked" with your mate? Has it been a point of contention in your relationship?
If not, have you/will you end a relationship if you find out that he was not spiritually in sync with you?
I want honest opinions about what you did/would do, not judgements about what other should have done please. Thanks