So you meet a new guy. At the time you arent necessarily looking for a guy but you say hey whats the harm in getting to know him when he's obviously pursuing you. Its not like your gonna fall for him or anything. Yet you go out with him and you find out that he's charming, cute, witty and everything you ever wanted in a guy. He says the most perfect things at the most perfect times. You think to yourself what does he have that every other guy doesnt. So let me tell you why your not attracted to the good guys and your stuck on this so called player...
There is a chemical called oxytocin and another chemical pea chemical that is released with these charming players...
If you can remind yourself that no normal man does this then you will save yourself a bunch of grief, normal men dont say it they let there actions speak of how much they desire you, the words are to get the chemicals in your brain *oxytocin and pea chemicals* in your brain ADDICTED to his words, everytime he gives you a dose of admiration, everytime he says I want you, I miss you, I need you to be my girlfriend you get a dose of these feel good chemicals, its like a drug and your body is getting high doses of them EVERYTIME he says certain words and thus you will become dependent on the person that is releasing these chemicals in your brain, thus you become addicted to him and believe the addiction is love because it feels like love and you will begin to phase out every guy that cant create these chemicals in your brain, you will need him to feel good...
Now back to the original story... He courts you for about a good month or two telling you he cares about you...your this and that...blah blah blah...Then the rollercoaster ride begins, the yo yo back and forth begins, the guy that once said he completely loves you, wants you and gotta have you has CHANGED HIS MIND, he just wants to be FRIENDS, he PULLS OUT, he ignores you and thus you begin to CRASH LIKE A DRUG ADDICT WHO NEEDS A FIX, you will seek him out to get a fix and he will not be found, he will become mean, cruel, he will ignore you and make you crash heavily, you will become confused, why is he acting like this? Why does he just want to be friends? He said this and that and now he ignores me? You will feel its love that your after but its really the feel good chemicals that he released in your brain, you will become a love addict and then he will come back and give you a temporary fix a temporary high, he will apologize, say he didnt mean to do this and that, give you a bit of attention and you will associate that to being in love WITH HIM and then he will pull out again, ignore you, disappear and you will crash and then he will come back again and feed you more effects of love and you will feel temporarily better and it goes on and on and on and on...this is the worst case scenario, some women get out before its that bad
So the point of this,is that he's a LIAR, he knew he had some side chick from the beginning, he knew that he didnt start with you as friends but yet when things seemed to get a bit serious he had to slap cold water in you face to wake you up from the dream he created, you seem confused by it all but he never was confused, he knew EXACTLY what he was doing because he does it ALL THE TIME to unsuspecting women who believe in him, women who believe they have found the ONE, he cant keep up the fake phoney mask so he eventually has to back pedal and wiggle his way out of getting to the next step of the relationship, he's not worth the effort, he really isnt, you will be the one investing and he will watch you invest on the sidelines, he will always say well I told you we are just friends, why are you acting this way? The other woman doesnt believe in him, she doesnt fall for his phoney lines of love and thus she cant be conquered which means she will always play an important part in his life, she will be the girl that he could never have which makes him believe he's in love, he's invested tons of energy trying to capture her heart and he cant walk away from it. As long as this girl that he cant have is around, NO WOMAN will ever be able to have him because he's stuck on her which means he's more than likely commitment phobic and the other woman is a covenient reason not to get heavily involved with woman that want him..
He came into it COURTING YOU, he came into it with this ideal that he wanted more only to throw it in your face what his TRUE INTENTIONS was which is friendship, thats why you will never be able to trust men like this, his backward *** behavior made you believe in him, he's manipulative and he's a low self esteem NOBODY and thats what he doesnt want you to FIND OUT
In the BEGINNING there was no other woman and there was no talk of friendship, he was going with the flow as if things were fine and once the next logical step came up then he has the I just wanna be friends talk, AFTER spending tons of time with you allowing you to emotionally connect with him then it's talk of the other woman, then there's talk of friendship, I'm sure if he had been honest with you from day one that there was some obstacles involved with dating him you would have been able to make better choices and guard your space as to not allow yourself to fall for him in a way that you would get hurt, you wouldn't be on this roller coaster ride of a relationship, yet he hid those things and brings them up once he feels you may be catching feelings and men who do this is his attempt to manage your emotions and manage the relationship (control the direction of the relationship) There is a chemical called oxytocin and another chemical pea chemical that is released with these charming players...
If you can remind yourself that no normal man does this then you will save yourself a bunch of grief, normal men dont say it they let there actions speak of how much they desire you, the words are to get the chemicals in your brain *oxytocin and pea chemicals* in your brain ADDICTED to his words, everytime he gives you a dose of admiration, everytime he says I want you, I miss you, I need you to be my girlfriend you get a dose of these feel good chemicals, its like a drug and your body is getting high doses of them EVERYTIME he says certain words and thus you will become dependent on the person that is releasing these chemicals in your brain, thus you become addicted to him and believe the addiction is love because it feels like love and you will begin to phase out every guy that cant create these chemicals in your brain, you will need him to feel good...
Now back to the original story... He courts you for about a good month or two telling you he cares about you...your this and that...blah blah blah...Then the rollercoaster ride begins, the yo yo back and forth begins, the guy that once said he completely loves you, wants you and gotta have you has CHANGED HIS MIND, he just wants to be FRIENDS, he PULLS OUT, he ignores you and thus you begin to CRASH LIKE A DRUG ADDICT WHO NEEDS A FIX, you will seek him out to get a fix and he will not be found, he will become mean, cruel, he will ignore you and make you crash heavily, you will become confused, why is he acting like this? Why does he just want to be friends? He said this and that and now he ignores me? You will feel its love that your after but its really the feel good chemicals that he released in your brain, you will become a love addict and then he will come back and give you a temporary fix a temporary high, he will apologize, say he didnt mean to do this and that, give you a bit of attention and you will associate that to being in love WITH HIM and then he will pull out again, ignore you, disappear and you will crash and then he will come back again and feed you more effects of love and you will feel temporarily better and it goes on and on and on and on...this is the worst case scenario, some women get out before its that bad
So the point of this,is that he's a LIAR, he knew he had some side chick from the beginning, he knew that he didnt start with you as friends but yet when things seemed to get a bit serious he had to slap cold water in you face to wake you up from the dream he created, you seem confused by it all but he never was confused, he knew EXACTLY what he was doing because he does it ALL THE TIME to unsuspecting women who believe in him, women who believe they have found the ONE, he cant keep up the fake phoney mask so he eventually has to back pedal and wiggle his way out of getting to the next step of the relationship, he's not worth the effort, he really isnt, you will be the one investing and he will watch you invest on the sidelines, he will always say well I told you we are just friends, why are you acting this way? The other woman doesnt believe in him, she doesnt fall for his phoney lines of love and thus she cant be conquered which means she will always play an important part in his life, she will be the girl that he could never have which makes him believe he's in love, he's invested tons of energy trying to capture her heart and he cant walk away from it. As long as this girl that he cant have is around, NO WOMAN will ever be able to have him because he's stuck on her which means he's more than likely commitment phobic and the other woman is a covenient reason not to get heavily involved with woman that want him..
He came into it COURTING YOU, he came into it with this ideal that he wanted more only to throw it in your face what his TRUE INTENTIONS was which is friendship, thats why you will never be able to trust men like this, his backward *** behavior made you believe in him, he's manipulative and he's a low self esteem NOBODY and thats what he doesnt want you to FIND OUT
I call these men assclown liars because he has an advantage, he already KNOW he's UNAVAILABLE, he already know he is emotionally ill equipped to be in a relationship with anyone but that doesnt' stop him from chasing and pursuing women and top of that, the woman doesn't know that, she deems him acceptable based on how much time she spends with him, no worries, no problems, no signs that there is a problem and then out of nowhere it's the I just wanna be friends crap after he's done all the courting moves, you can't be expected to not feel any feelings, people aren't objects, they can't just stop liking and loving someone...let's say he's not a liar, let's say he just failed to show his full self, he failed to show you who he really is...What do you call him
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