So..he talked marriage & meant it...and married someone else

kayte

kayte

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Woah, dodged a bullet with that one...whew! :nono: Thank God for small favors. :yep:

(experiences like these are one of the reasons I've stopped worrying about things working out just like I want and plan. Gotta trust providence--much easier to say than to do, though!)
 
It never even occurred to me one day I'd be doing this:yay:
over not marrying him!

actually -this :superbanana:


no this... :strong:

isn't AWESOME when 40-40 backwards..hindsght
actually works in your favor~~:yep:


Nicola

I am convinced when the Lord has it worked out it
is the sweetest thing...
Love wants and gives the best

Making each other love more and more..extending that ot the world
and able to do great and mighty things perhaps one would not
without that person...that miraculous God powered Boaz -Ruth love
 
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kayte, I'm surprised to be reading this from you after reading some of your post in the Christian forum. I see where you said he was a "Christian male!" as being sarcastic or showing that he was a liar, hypocrite, or whatnot... but what about you? Wouldn't you admit that you were wrong as well for having "intense passionate *&^%" before marriage? What makes you more of a Christian than him? Not trying to be mean or rude here...it just seems like you got what you want in the moment of things with this guy who fed you what you wanted to hear. Just because he talked about marriage doesn't mean it was a good idea to have "intense passionate *&^%" with him.
 
Poohbear said:
kayte, I'm surprised to be reading this from you after reading some of your post in the Christian forum. I see where you said he was a "Christian male!" as being sarcastic or showing that he was a liar, hypocrite, or whatnot... but what about you? Wouldn't you admit that you were wrong as well for having "intense passionate *&^%" before marriage? What makes you more of a Christian than him? Not trying to be mean or rude here...it just seems like you got what you want in the moment of things with this guy who fed you what you wanted to hear. Just because he talked about marriage doesn't mean it was a good idea to have "intense passionate *&^%" with him.
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Don't judge lest ye be judged.
 
SweetNic_JA said:
Don't judge lest ye be judged.
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God bless you...
I made the decision to not answer that

ETA..
I did privately let the poster know I thought her words were unkind...
I've only been supportive to this poster... but anyways..I informed
her that she was being put on ignore

{along with the few who supported her unkind words either in that post or other posts.....}

and I told her I wished her best...
and I do~

after which... she told me she wld put me on ignore and since she's decided to post that information publicly.....I can say..that was a smart decision on her part..:grin:

I look forward to not getting any more of those "confusing comments"..
 
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Poohbear said:
kayte, I'm surprised to be reading this from you after reading some of your post in the Christian forum. I see where you said he was a "Christian male!" as being sarcastic or showing that he was a liar, hypocrite, or whatnot... but what about you? Wouldn't you admit that you were wrong as well for having "intense passionate *&^%" before marriage? What makes you more of a Christian than him? Not trying to be mean or rude here...it just seems like you got what you want in the moment of things with this guy who fed you what you wanted to hear. Just because he talked about marriage doesn't mean it was a good idea to have "intense passionate *&^%" with him.
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Ermmmmm.....I may have read her post the wrong way, but when I read it I got the impression that Kayte did not have any relations with this man. Instead he promised that when they got MARRIED all she would have to do is write, and he'd drop work or whatever and come be w/her. :look:

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kayte said:
EVERYTHING ...Promised when we got married all I had to do was write! and he'd steal away from work and we make
intense passionate *&^% :grin:
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Crystalicequeen123 said:
Ermmmmm.....I may have read her post the wrong way, but when I read it I got the impression that Kayte did not have any relations with this man. Instead he promised that when they got MARRIED all she would have to do is write, and he'd drop work or whatever and come be w/her. :look:

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I got that impression too, because I remember rereading the thread to see if there was any mention of this mind blowing @##$ actually having taken place. There was none.

@ThickHair, perhaps the manner in which the question was asked could have been different. It seemed very aggressive. Kayte is a grown woman and any action she partakes in, sinful or not is really up to her and God to sort out.

I was just reading up on Matthew last night and that's the first thing that came to mind when I saw Poohbear's post.
 
I didn't see the post as being complicated.

Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love. Everything seems wonderful. Boy makes grand promises, but things don't work out. Boy ends up marrying another girl, claiming she's everything and more that the first was, but later on shows that he's just messed up in the head and is incapable of being faithful (and is possibly a predator).

First girl wipes her brow, heaves a sigh of relief and skips merrily on her way, thankful that things didn't work out with Boy.

Is there any reason to make anything more of the post than that?
 
Crystalicequeen123 said:
Ermmmmm.....I may have read her post the wrong way, but when I read it I got the impression that Kayte did not have any relations with this man. Instead he promised that when they got MARRIED all she would have to do is write, and he'd drop work or whatever and come be w/her. :look:

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I'm not sure what this has to do with anything....
I'm NOT the one cheating on my wife...HE IS!:drunk:



but that is the correct intrepretation....
twas what he promised:lachen:
 
nicola.kirwan said:
I didn't see the post as being complicated.

Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love. Everything seems wonderful. Boy makes grand promises, but things don't work out. Boy ends up marrying another girl, claiming she's everything and more that the first was, but later on shows that he's just messed up in the head and is incapable of being faithful (and is possibly a predator).

First girl wipes her brow, heaves a sigh of relief and skips merrily on her way, thankful that things didn't work out with Boy.

Is there any reason to make anything more of the post than that?
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You ought to be a movie script writer :grin:
 
SweetNic_JA said:
I got that impression too, because I remember rereading the thread to see if there was any mention of this mind blowing @##$ actually having taken place. There was none.

@ThickHair, perhaps the manner in which the question was asked could have been different. It seemed very aggressive. Kayte is a grown woman and any action she partakes in, sinful or not is really up to her and God to sort out.

I was just reading up on Matthew last night and that's the first thing that came to mind when I saw Poohbear's post.
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Understood..............Well, if midblowing "relations" had taken place, I would have been curious. Nice story on dodging the bullet. Thumbs up.
 
SweetNic_JA said:
I got that impression too, because I remember rereading the thread to see if there was any mention of this mind blowing @##$ actually having taken place. There was none.

@ThickHair, perhaps the manner in which the question was asked could have been different. It seemed very aggressive. Kayte is a grown woman and any action she partakes in, sinful or not is really up to her and God to sort out.

I was just reading up on Matthew last night and that's the first thing that came to mind when I saw Poohbear's post.
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and for my ex~.
he and his wife will be in my prayers...

I am in Mathew this week!!!!! Just today..actually..
Maybe God intended with that unpleasant post to bring up a sweet coincidence
 
WHOAAAAAA that was a close call. Glad you dodged that bullet it could have been misery on crack with this guy
 
Crystalicequeen123 said:
Ermmmmm.....I may have read her post the wrong way, but when I read it I got the impression that Kayte did not have any relations with this man. Instead he promised that when they got MARRIED all she would have to do is write, and he'd drop work or whatever and come be w/her. :look:

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That's the way I read it.
 
Kudos to you for dodging that bullet. Sometimes we do not know why certain things happen that leave us heartbroken- and it turns out in the end it was the best that could have happened for us.
Good for you.
 
LaFaraona said:
Kudos to you for dodging that bullet. Sometimes we do not know why certain things happen that leave us heartbroken- and it turns out in the end it was the best that could have happened for us.
Good for you.
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I was a lil sad....but in the back of my mind...kept the "what if" store open.....while he was single...

I TOTALLY WOULDA MARRIED HIM

whooooooooooooooooooa:blush:

there are no accidents in the spiritual realm:rolleyes:
his rejection? GOD'S PROTECTION:grin:
 
Volver_Alma_Gitana said:
Just why do guys do that? Insecurity or something. Thank G-d and do the shake your hair dance, Kayte!~!!!
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i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth
i whip m'hair back n forth

I was at this party..this guy blocks my way
and said

WOW LOOK AT THAT HAIR

It's pretty raggedy these days unfortunately
I'm pretty much having to start all over :nono:
 
I am happy for you but sad for his wife. I hope this dude gets help! You did dodge the bullet with him.
 
Lucie said:
I am happy for you but sad for his wife. I hope this dude gets help! You did dodge the bullet with him.
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I dont know how exactly far he's gone with the infidelity
but if you read his favorite phrases.....that's some scary stuff right there.
and encouraging affections of an underage girl on his facebook?

the wife must allow a lot of leniency
guess...tradeoffs are made sometimes in the name of false security

I'm praying for them both but disgusted at his behavior
 
Glad you dodge that...What a clown he turned out to be..A lessen learned every day will keep you ready for anything..God Bless & Good Luck..




Happy Hair Growing!
 
Lita said:
Glad you dodge that...What a clown he turned out to be..A lessen learned every day will keep you ready for anything..God Bless & Good Luck..
Happy Hair Growing!
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I know...right? :yep:


What a clown he turned out to be..
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really:ohwell:



Happy Hair Growing
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sigh....back to the drawing board on that one ..but thanks!!
your hair is slammin and the color is gorgeous
 
You dodged a phat a:censored: bullet. Reminds me of when I wanted to be with my first love forever...long story short he got 3 women pregnant all at the same time and I think one of them has twins for him. I thank God everyday he didn't choose me and that I decided to go into another direction. (whew!)
 
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