SIMPLE wedding in NYC???

[Holla]

My cousin wants to get married at City Hall in NY. They want to do City Hall now and a bigger destination wedding six months later. I want her to do something more special than City Hall. It just seems so cheap and tacky to do a JOP and KIM.

I'm thinking she could get married in a nice park and then have dinner at a nice nearby restaurant for like 10 people in a private room. Surely all of this can be done for less than $1,000???? Yes???? I'm open to other ideas for something simple but nice.

I want to suggest simple options to her so that money is not a factor for her to reject any ideas.

(Some FYIs: no she is not pregnant ....they originally wanted to do just the 2015 destination wedding but decided to marry in 2014 to move in together now and not later. They can afford $1000 for a wedding ....so money is not an issue. First marriage for both.)

 

[LiftedUp]

Do you have a friend/family member with a nice garden backyard that will be willing to loan? They could have a small ceremony and a nice catered meal. Decorations could be done yourself. Simple and tasteful.

I think backyard weddings are so cute! You can hit up pinterest for decor ideas.

 

[Holla]

Do you have a friend/family member with a nice garden backyard that will be willing to loan? They could have a small ceremony and a nice catered meal. Decorations could be done yourself. Simple and tasteful.

I think backyard weddings are so cute! You can hit up pinterest for decor ideas.

I'll recommend that to her. That would be easier.

 

[Menina Preta]

I'll recommend that to her. That would be easier.

Ya, they could probably even do a summer rental for a weekend either out on Long Island (Hamptons area) or upstate in the Catskills and just have a local caterer do a buffet style at the house. Or holla at a restaurant with a garden area.

 

[Foxglove]

It's her wedding. Let her do what she wants

ETA especially if you aren't paying for it

 

[LiftedUp]

Some nice DIY ideas:

http://500dollarwedding.blogspot.com/p/resources.html

 

[Holla]

It's her wedding. Let her do what she wants

ETA especially if you aren't paying for it

Obviously I cannot force her or her fiance to do anything. I just want to give them more ideas in case they think doing anything other than a JOP would be cost prohibitive or time consuming.

 

[lux10023]

giandos on the water...she can have everything there--its off kent st...

great food..greta venue...priced budget friendly...

 

[tmhuggiebear]

Since it's not your wedding, but I want to you to tread lightly when you suggest this. I think it might be a good idea to bring up to your friend in a subtle way that if your friend gets married here some people may take to kindly to a destination wedding 6 months later if they've already gotten married since it might require some people to spend money on a plane and hotel.

Unless she has a pressing medical issues, needs to get on her fiancé insurance, trying to get citizenship etc, I think it might be better for her to just continue saving up for the wedding she wants and do one big thing at the same time.

Otherwise, she can just continue on with her JOP wedding. Another option would be to get married in the park and just host a party outside with food and the closest friends and family. She could still host a budget friendly wedding that's not a JOP at a courthouse. But if that's truly what she wants, you may have to just accept that.

ETA: There is nothing tacky about court weddings. In fact, they can be extremely romantic.

 

[Nayna]

Have you looked at some weddings done at City Hall?

If she intends to have another ceremony in 6 months I don't see the point in doing it twice.

My sister did it very similarly. Went to the JOP and did her wedding about 2 months later (Her hubby came on a fiance visa so they had 90 days to do it). It was wonderful. Why spend money on two events if the bigger event is what she is actually looking forward to?