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That's what help me the most, is to change my frame of mind about what my natural hair can and cannot do. And I to revisit when I get more length. When my hair was 4-5 inches, wash 'n goes were fine. When my hair reached 7-8 inches, that was a no go
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I no longer can have my hair in its shrunken state, loose and wet at the same time. So I wash and co-wash in loose twists or braids and take each down one at the time to detangle first with my fingers and once in a while, with the Goody Jojoba brush.
If my hair is loose, that means it's streched either with a twist-out or with rollers in a bun. When I do a twist-out (dry hair) I put my hair in big twists at night and can only keep it for a 2-3 days before my hair starts to shrink and tangle.
It took me a while to let go of my wash 'n goes
but I now, I no longer have detangling issues.