Don't get stressed out because we shoulder length-ers are all in the same boat. I think that we are in the toughiest stages, because of our hair touching our clothing and getting caught in our necklaces etc. So what I do, (even with crazy new growth), is twist my hair up in braidouts, but use bbd butter in my hair with neutrogena shine serum and a leave in conditioner. The key is, I get under the hooded dryer on medium heat and let my hair get almost dry, and then let the rest air dir naturally. When I wake up in the morning it is nice and curly when I finger comb the twists . *Try to use something other then rubber bands on your ends to secure. Even kiddie clips will do.