Nayna
Unbothered
My friend is going through some things with her SO and I'm not the best person to give her advice cus I can be a sucker, lol. Plus our SO's are friends so I'm already biased. So, our boo's are merchant marines. Recently hers has been doing overtime so she hasn't seen him lately. He was gone for maybe 2 weeks and wherever he was shipped to had bad service so his phone was off the entire time. When he regained service he did not call her right away because he received info that his father was hospitalized outside of the country. So I'm assuming he was busy calling family and all that and calling her to let her know he was back was not a big priority for him.
She basically reached out to him finally and then he told her about his dad. She let him know that she was not pleased with the way he handled the situation but she didn't stress it because he sounded upset as it was. So a few days pass and he lets her know that he is leaving to see his father and that he will see her before he leaves (they haven't seen each other in a a month or so since he was on over time). So she tells him her availability and he doesn't respond. A whole day passes before she finally gets in contact with him and then he tells her that he left the country already.
This angered her greatly. So what she's saying to me is that yes she's disappointed that she didn't see him but she's really pissed that he did not bother to even give her a heads up when he was leaving. I agree that he should have said something. So they were going back and forth and he is saying that she is beefing about seeing him when he is trying to make sure he sees his father. Almost like he's purposely ignoring the part where she said she's upset that he did not bother telling her he was leaving. So there was no apology or anything from him because he is basically holding on to the fact that his father is dying and he just had to go.
So that was Friday. I told her that I don't know what I would do in the situation cus while I may be mad I'd still be supportive. He isn't going on vacation he's going to see his father- btw his father is an 80 plus year old diabetic about to have open heart surgery on a small island in the Caribbean. Idk; I wanna tell her to let it go. They haven't spoken since they argued. I understand she feels slighted and left out, but if his dad dies and she wasn't supportive at all I just don't think it's a good look. They also have been together less than a year.
What do you guys think?
She basically reached out to him finally and then he told her about his dad. She let him know that she was not pleased with the way he handled the situation but she didn't stress it because he sounded upset as it was. So a few days pass and he lets her know that he is leaving to see his father and that he will see her before he leaves (they haven't seen each other in a a month or so since he was on over time). So she tells him her availability and he doesn't respond. A whole day passes before she finally gets in contact with him and then he tells her that he left the country already.
This angered her greatly. So what she's saying to me is that yes she's disappointed that she didn't see him but she's really pissed that he did not bother to even give her a heads up when he was leaving. I agree that he should have said something. So they were going back and forth and he is saying that she is beefing about seeing him when he is trying to make sure he sees his father. Almost like he's purposely ignoring the part where she said she's upset that he did not bother telling her he was leaving. So there was no apology or anything from him because he is basically holding on to the fact that his father is dying and he just had to go.
So that was Friday. I told her that I don't know what I would do in the situation cus while I may be mad I'd still be supportive. He isn't going on vacation he's going to see his father- btw his father is an 80 plus year old diabetic about to have open heart surgery on a small island in the Caribbean. Idk; I wanna tell her to let it go. They haven't spoken since they argued. I understand she feels slighted and left out, but if his dad dies and she wasn't supportive at all I just don't think it's a good look. They also have been together less than a year.
What do you guys think?
