Even though this is a type of relationship question, I'm asking in the Christian Forum for a "purely" Christian/biblical perspective.... Sigh....
For the record, I already know what I do and don't want to do.... I was just curious to see some different perspectives. Here's the story....
I saw my "first love" at a mixer recently. He's not the fresh-faced handsome boy-man I remember almost two decades ago. He's thicker, and he's growing some kind of weird sideburns(?) But anyway.... I hadn't seen him in a long, long time.
We talked for some moments asking each other about family. He remembers my entire family, where my parents live, etc. He's still single, no children. Good job, one he (still) enjoys. He has A LOT of nieces and nephews (many of whom I remember when we were dating) and they're grown with their own children.... Time is flying!
A small part of me hoped that there was a spark to remind me that I could still feel romantic/sexual feelings(?!) and that he would say something (get my number or something) that would facilitate us staying in touch.... beyond an obscure email reference, that didn't happen....
Part of me attempted to make a bold suggestion to make arrangements for some...how can I say...personal and purposeful time/contact (sex so I won't be a virgin at age 39).... the words were on the path from my brain to my mouth....but they just didn't come out....(talk about a guard at the lips! Ha!)....
Interestingly, within this month, I have encountered both my high school crush and my first love and clearly, those situations are nice memories that belong where they are: in the past. I hope and believe that the Lord would be so kind to illuminate any lessons/reasons for these encounters to help me advance and make the transition into the particular divine connection that He has promised me....
Looking forward to your responses....
For the record, I already know what I do and don't want to do.... I was just curious to see some different perspectives. Here's the story....
I saw my "first love" at a mixer recently. He's not the fresh-faced handsome boy-man I remember almost two decades ago. He's thicker, and he's growing some kind of weird sideburns(?) But anyway.... I hadn't seen him in a long, long time.
We talked for some moments asking each other about family. He remembers my entire family, where my parents live, etc. He's still single, no children. Good job, one he (still) enjoys. He has A LOT of nieces and nephews (many of whom I remember when we were dating) and they're grown with their own children.... Time is flying!
A small part of me hoped that there was a spark to remind me that I could still feel romantic/sexual feelings(?!) and that he would say something (get my number or something) that would facilitate us staying in touch.... beyond an obscure email reference, that didn't happen....
Part of me attempted to make a bold suggestion to make arrangements for some...how can I say...personal and purposeful time/contact (sex so I won't be a virgin at age 39).... the words were on the path from my brain to my mouth....but they just didn't come out....(talk about a guard at the lips! Ha!)....
Interestingly, within this month, I have encountered both my high school crush and my first love and clearly, those situations are nice memories that belong where they are: in the past. I hope and believe that the Lord would be so kind to illuminate any lessons/reasons for these encounters to help me advance and make the transition into the particular divine connection that He has promised me....
Looking forward to your responses....
"Precious Holy Spirit, what is the answer? Thank you for making it plain / crystal clear. That it won't loud as thunder, nor will it be a whirlwind, but that 'still small voice' that she will hear behind her ear saying, "This is the way, walk ye in it." 
It made me...
It was worth the smile. 
....not even capable of that....
. That's why I prayed. I promise you that you will hear that still small voice and you will know that you know...that you know. 
). Anyway, I think it’s time for you to have a party (i.e. a get together with some friends). This way, you can invite him over and begin the communication to see if there are still feelings between the both of you. You could make it a fun get together, like sushi night, or Caribbean or Latin food—something spicy with a little flair, yet still delicioso
. This way, he will technically still have to “ask you out,” but you made the first invitation. Also, having your friends around may put you at ease, and many Christian women who did not have sex until marriage say this (group dates—I believe Lauren450 did this with her DH). It will discourage any “bad behavior” from him (like trying to put the moves on you)!
