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Serious question! My daughter attends parochial school and some kid at her new school (we moved, I do not know these sets of parents well), a boy, is having a "hot tub" party. A what???? It's basically a pool party and they have a hot tub. Okay, maybe I'm too old school, but yesterday at the pool with her girlfriends and two of us parents chilling, the girls were giving the sketchy details. Of course, like most kids, this was a texted invitation, through word of mouth. I have yet to contact Nikko's parents about it. This will be a party in which the kids are wearing swimsuits...coed!!!!!!!! At 15. Other kids are supposedly confirmed to go...but I don't care.
My daughter is angry with me for not letting her go. Sorry, I don't know these folks and I am not responsible for the behavior of the other kids. I do not want somebody to do anything to my child...neither do I want her to be tempted. She does not date (we don't do that). She's angry that I "don't trust her" but I explained to her that it's the other kids and situation I do not trust, but I trust her indeed.
Okay, so yesterday, when the girls went back to jump in the pool and leave us parents to talk, one of the parents (all our kids attend church school elementary together with 2 h.s.) with only elementary age girls tried to coax me into "trusting" my daughter with her spiel, "oh, when they aren't allowed to do things, they will rebel...blah...blah...I grew up in the 70's with free love, alcohol and free sex." I just sat there listening like erplexed on my face. What the huh?? Lady, there are rules and then there are relaxations of the rules...sometimes with no relaxation of rules whatsoever.
So, I'm not allowing my kid to attend. I explained to her that there are rules and one of them is no last-minute stuff, no parents info so I can call?, no go. She knows these rules. She also knows that this is NOT OUR CULTURE!!! The Coppola's mother, a feisty Scicilian MD ain't allowing hers either! I don't give a rats tuchis what these other kids are doing tho...this is my daughter and I'm not allowing her to go to anybody's co-ed last minute party with hormone-laden laddies eyeing near-naked 15 year old bikini clad bodies and g-d knows where the parents are going to be in that mansion of a house...many rooms, 2 parents, 25 kids....uuuuhhhhhh, NOPE!
So, anybody else? I'm just shocked with the response of one of the parents to "trust" my daughter. What this mother of non-teens doesn't realize yet is that you have to mistrust OTHER teens around your children sometimes. You never know who's got alcohol, rohipnol, drugs, condoms and a mindsent to just take it as they want it. Thing is, and I'm divorced myself but not because her reasons....but she's trying to lecture me and she wears clothing that is borderline Fredericks of Hollywood to Mass. He's still divorcing her. Being overtly sexy ain't keeping a man ifn he wants ta gonono: And then the revelation that she grew up around free sex and drugs. In comparison, my father was a "rabbi" and my mother was "mother theresa." Heck no.
My daughter is angry with me for not letting her go. Sorry, I don't know these folks and I am not responsible for the behavior of the other kids. I do not want somebody to do anything to my child...neither do I want her to be tempted. She does not date (we don't do that). She's angry that I "don't trust her" but I explained to her that it's the other kids and situation I do not trust, but I trust her indeed.
Okay, so yesterday, when the girls went back to jump in the pool and leave us parents to talk, one of the parents (all our kids attend church school elementary together with 2 h.s.) with only elementary age girls tried to coax me into "trusting" my daughter with her spiel, "oh, when they aren't allowed to do things, they will rebel...blah...blah...I grew up in the 70's with free love, alcohol and free sex." I just sat there listening like erplexed on my face. What the huh?? Lady, there are rules and then there are relaxations of the rules...sometimes with no relaxation of rules whatsoever.
So, I'm not allowing my kid to attend. I explained to her that there are rules and one of them is no last-minute stuff, no parents info so I can call?, no go. She knows these rules. She also knows that this is NOT OUR CULTURE!!! The Coppola's mother, a feisty Scicilian MD ain't allowing hers either! I don't give a rats tuchis what these other kids are doing tho...this is my daughter and I'm not allowing her to go to anybody's co-ed last minute party with hormone-laden laddies eyeing near-naked 15 year old bikini clad bodies and g-d knows where the parents are going to be in that mansion of a house...many rooms, 2 parents, 25 kids....uuuuhhhhhh, NOPE!
So, anybody else? I'm just shocked with the response of one of the parents to "trust" my daughter. What this mother of non-teens doesn't realize yet is that you have to mistrust OTHER teens around your children sometimes. You never know who's got alcohol, rohipnol, drugs, condoms and a mindsent to just take it as they want it. Thing is, and I'm divorced myself but not because her reasons....but she's trying to lecture me and she wears clothing that is borderline Fredericks of Hollywood to Mass. He's still divorcing her. Being overtly sexy ain't keeping a man ifn he wants ta gonono: And then the revelation that she grew up around free sex and drugs. In comparison, my father was a "rabbi" and my mother was "mother theresa." Heck no.
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