Prudent1
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A few questions from part 3 of Andy Stanley's series called The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating. The message is medicine for all relationships (single, married, divorced, separated, etc) but is especially good for those desiring to be married. I feel compelled to share these rhetorical questions with you. You don't have to answer or comment but please take time to really think about your answers. I believe you will be changed. Here is the link again (posted about part 2 in another thread) in case you want to watch it yourself- http://www.northpoint.org/messages/the-new-rules-for-love-sex-and-dating.
Myth we've all heard before- As long as no one gets pregnant, hurts anyone, or gets a disease, it's just sex.
If sex is just physical-
Why is it that when a child is sexually abused and they have become an adult who can connect the dots of what has happened to them, why is it so difficult to shake that off? Why is it that that is often something that follows a person throughout their entire life and in some cases keeps them off kilter enough that they struggle and remain off balance? Why don't we hear abuse victims say stuff like, "Yeah, some dirty old man touched me and stuff but hey, it was just sex. Imma' just shake that off and KIM"?
Why is it that rape is so much more devastating to a woman than being beat up? Why is it a woman is more likely to report physical abuse but remain silent concerning and thus suffer alone quietly when raped? If sex is just physical then it's just like being beat up. You report it, get out of the relationship, and move on.
Why is it that men with the deepest sexual issues (addictions, committment issues, etc) have fathers who are missing, distant, or who were otherwise uninvolved in their lives?
Why is it that most people's deepest, greatest regrets are sexual in nature? When people approach you and say, "I want/need to tell you something that I've never told you or anyone before," or the like, it's usually sexual in nature?
Things that are purely physical in nature do not profoundly effect our emotions that way. They do not touch us at our very core.
Myth we've all heard before- As long as no one gets pregnant, hurts anyone, or gets a disease, it's just sex.
If sex is just physical-
Why is it that when a child is sexually abused and they have become an adult who can connect the dots of what has happened to them, why is it so difficult to shake that off? Why is it that that is often something that follows a person throughout their entire life and in some cases keeps them off kilter enough that they struggle and remain off balance? Why don't we hear abuse victims say stuff like, "Yeah, some dirty old man touched me and stuff but hey, it was just sex. Imma' just shake that off and KIM"?
Why is it that rape is so much more devastating to a woman than being beat up? Why is it a woman is more likely to report physical abuse but remain silent concerning and thus suffer alone quietly when raped? If sex is just physical then it's just like being beat up. You report it, get out of the relationship, and move on.
Why is it that men with the deepest sexual issues (addictions, committment issues, etc) have fathers who are missing, distant, or who were otherwise uninvolved in their lives?
Why is it that most people's deepest, greatest regrets are sexual in nature? When people approach you and say, "I want/need to tell you something that I've never told you or anyone before," or the like, it's usually sexual in nature?
Things that are purely physical in nature do not profoundly effect our emotions that way. They do not touch us at our very core.
. You lose the ability to feel and to truly love and well, that's just sad. It's like eating your favorite foods with no taste buds and no ability to smell. It sneaks up on you and so when you meet someone you really are serious about you discover there's no off button for that part of your life. That's when the struggle begins.
