Sex: Can He Handle You or Is He a Lwimp?

Guitarhero

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This is an idea I got from the OT regarding erotica classes..or something. I can't open up the website now. But, I was wondering if your present or ex is, was able to handle you sexually? Are you more advanced than him? Does he color like watching paint dry?


My ex-husband is another culture than me, foreign-born, from a very conservative culture. I can distinctly remember many instances when he couldn't rise to the occasion for very much time, even complained a few times about my bravado and intensity. :look: I think he felt insecure about his love-making skills. Maybe his old world cultural values wanted me to lay there practically voiceless and still. Hmmm :look:

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What I'm saying is that, in the moment of reaching climax, he would fizzle down to a noodle and then complain after the fact that I asked him to **** me hard and faster.

Let's talk about men who are kinda weak in that department. What gives? Are they intimidated by their women? Can they break out of it and upgrade?
 
I forgot to explain...like he felt I thought he wasn't up to task and it too away his momentum. LOL. He said I was bossing him around. Um....hmmmm...don't most people say that at a precise moment? :lachen:
 
One of my ex's was a wimp. He was interested in only one position, missionary. I had to put us in a situation where he had to do doggie. And even then, it took some convincing. I was fine with it, he was good.

Another one of my ex's was open to anything; but he was badder than bad.
 
So did you know this about him when you married him? That would really bother me.

So I'm guessing you would be **** talking during sex and he'd take what you said too seriously/personally?

:perplexed

Is this why you divorced him?
 
I would share stories but I'm not experienced enough to really know classify someone as a wimp. If anything, I'm the wimp :lol:
 
ive had it where the man talked sooo much junk about how great he was, how he could go for hours:rolleyes: and was a freak. turned out that i had more endurance and required a little bit more...eh hem "diversity" in coloring than what he was giving.:grin: My gullible behind believed his hype...it was so disappointing and i was left ....uncolored while he was breathing all hard talking about how much i surprised him:lachen::nono:
 
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mallysmommy said:
ive had it where the man talked sooo much junk about how great he was, how he could go for hours:rolleyes: and was a freak. turned out that i had more endurance and required a little bit more...eh hem "diversity" in coloring than what he was giving.:grin: My gullible behind believed his hype...it was so disappointing and i was left ....uncolored while he was breathing all hard talking about how much i surprised him:lachen::nono:
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I've found that those who like to brag, disappoint. Those who are quiet, are quite surprising, and in a good way!.

As for responding to the OP. I'll plead the 5th, ....hoping ot look a little more innocent. ....While I'm thinking of the guy who tried to compensate with his Cunnilingus skills.......'twasn't enough!
 
Theo said:
So did you know this about him when you married him? That would really bother me.

So I'm guessing you would be **** talking during sex and he'd take what you said too seriously/personally?

:perplexed

Is this why you divorced him?
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Obviously not. **** talking? :lachen: No, "*** me" talking. :lachen::lachen::lachen: How could you take that personally? :lol: Well, no, that's not why I divorced him. But I should figure out ways to discuss this type of issue before marrying someone else cuz I don't wanna go through that again and I will not be testing the sexual waters before the marriage. I think it wreaks of insecure man. I'd think that any man would be happy to know he drove you crazy.,..once.:look:

As for experience, I'm basically talking about orgasm. You don't need a lot of experience to know what it is and demand he freak you until you pass out. :giggle: But this is the same one who called me "acting like man" because I made a better financial decision and put my foot down regarding a situation from hell. Weak man. Maybe finances and poor sex go together.:perplexed
 
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Guitarhero said:
Obviously not. **** talking? :lachen: No, "*** me" talking. :lachen::lachen::lachen: How could you take that personally? :lol: Well, no, that's not why I divorced him. But I should figure out ways to discuss this type of issue before marrying someone else cuz I don't wanna go through that again and I will not be testing the sexual waters before the marriage. I think it wreaks of insecure man. I'd think that any man would be happy to know he drove you crazy.,..once.:look:

As for experience, I'm basically talking about orgasm. You don't need a lot of experience to know what it is and demand he freak you until you pass out. :giggle: But this is the same one who called me "acting like man" because I made a better financial decision and put my foot down regarding a situation from hell. Weak man. Maybe finances and poor sex go together.:perplexed
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Sounds like he was weak.

To answer your question, I have had a weak man, more than one actually. Maybe I'm too aggressive though. I really get into it and they can't hang. It's disappointing, especially if otherwise they are pretty decent. But usually in those same instances, I had too much control of the relationship and in the end I resented them for being "too nice".
 
I think that the overall character of a man carries over into their sex life. This is especially true with men with insecurities. The tricky part is when all of the other areas of the relationship are in tact and yet they could not put it down. I had a weak one before I knew what weak was:lachen: This was at a time where I was less experienced and so I thought his sub par performance was ok UNTIL i had the real thing:yep:
 
I like to use the 64 color crayola box when coloring. My ex was only interested in the box with 8 crayons. (just a metaphor... I don't think I actually use 64 uh.. variations)
 
Ummm yes the I can't wait until he leaves so I can pull out the Jack rabbit guy. I only stuck in there so long because he was good on paper otherwise.

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I have yet to be disappointed in that way, and I hope I never am :nono:

Always been blessed in the variety, vigor, determination and enthusiasm of my men in bed :look:

What has been a consistent issue for me though is frequency. I always seem to be up for more sessions than my boos, not by so much that I feel grossly unsatisfied, but just enough that I could say I wish we did it a bit more often.
 
Guitarhero said:
No bites huh? Real sex talk.
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Guitarhero Chile please...I am right there with you. Most guys are not very broad shouldered metaphorically speaking. If you exhibit any annnyyy masculine qualities at all which are considered telling them how you like it, head hold while *yeah yeahing*, initiating first and wanting seconds...all of the above it affects their longevity big time.

Now why is that? Why is their self esteem so connected to their stamina and why do we have to tip toe around that fact like it's our fault. Girl don't get me started. :lachen:This is the quickest way to become an ex with me...act like I gotta lay there and pretend I don't like it. That is a quick bye!
 
mallysmommy said:
ive had it where the man talked sooo much junk about how great he was, how he could go for hours:rolleyes: and was a freak. turned out that i had more endurance and required a little bit more...eh hem "diversity" in coloring than what he was giving.:grin: My gullible behind believed his hype...it was so disappointing and i was left ....uncolored while he was breathing all hard talking about how much i surprised him:lachen::nono:
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mallysmommy ^^^That right there was depressing. This is why I could never ever marry someone with just a hope and a prayer that it was going to be what I wanted and needed.
 
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Ivonnovi said:
I've found that those who like to brag, disappoint. Those who are quiet, are quite surprising, and in a good way!.

As for responding to the OP. I'll plead the 5th, ....hoping ot look a little more innocent. ....While I'm thinking of the guy who tried to compensate with his Cunnilingus skills.......'twasn't enough!
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Ivonnovi Yeah having a license in that , is usually a great indicator of size. What chu trying to compensate for? :lachen:
 
Guitarhero said:
Obviously not. **** talking? :lachen: No, "*** me" talking. :lachen::lachen::lachen: How could you take that personally? :lol: Well, no, that's not why I divorced him. But I should figure out ways to discuss this type of issue before marrying someone else cuz I don't wanna go through that again and I will not be testing the sexual waters before the marriage. I think it wreaks of insecure man. I'd think that any man would be happy to know he drove you crazy.,..once.:look:

As for experience, I'm basically talking about orgasm. You don't need a lot of experience to know what it is and demand he freak you until you pass out. :giggle: But this is the same one who called me "acting like man" because I made a better financial decision and put my foot down regarding a situation from hell. Weak man. Maybe finances and poor sex go together.:perplexed
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Last month I met a handsome, successful guy who's 38 years old unmarried and moved to the US 5 yrs ago. He's rather 'experienced' in the coloring department both with American & European women. One day he explained to me that coloring with European women is a different experience from coloring with American women.

He said the European women were more playful & sweet during coloring and it kept him in the mood. Some of the American women he's been with were more rough and said the wrong statements while coloring. Anytime he colored with a women who said certain things during the act, he knew they learned it from a 'flick/movie' and it would turn him off. That conversation changed my perspective about what certain men need while coloring. It was good insight.
 
ElizaBlue said:
Guitarhero ...act like I gotta lay there and pretend I don't like it. That is a quick bye!
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Afro Puff said:
Last month I met a handsome, successful guy who's 38 years old unmarried and moved to the US 5 yrs ago. He's rather 'experienced' in the coloring department both with American & European women. One day he explained to me that coloring with European women is a different experience from coloring with American women.

He said the European women were more playful & sweet during coloring and it kept him in the mood. Some of the American women he's been with were more rough and said the wrong statements while coloring. Anytime he colored with a women who said certain things during the act, he knew they learned it from a 'flick/movie' and it would turn him off. That conversation changed my perspective about what certain men need while coloring. It was good insight.
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There's your operative word. I think you're misunderstanding my experience. He wanted absolute SILENCE....no groans, certainly no words at the height of climax and, no, you don't get excited and ask him to screw you harder because you watch some dirty movies or had a blazened whorish past. If you can't feel your own g-spot, something is terribly wrong with you. It embarassed him. Why?

Mine should have just given himself a handjob. I'm not a porn star, neither am I some horny king kong gorilla. Sex is an act between a couple of people. If you cannot show you like sex, then why have it? Playful and sweet...who said I am not? :fishslap: European women also tend to be less discriminating than American women and easier to bed. Am I going to assume that just any Euro chick is a ho? Nope. Maybe I've misread your intent for saying such but...I'm not going to be ushered into the corner, doubting that I have the human right to enjoy sex and not just lay there like a dead log. Women do have the right to enjoy it and talk about it without negatively comparing themselves to the fantasy of some stupid little man. As for your friend, I don't like him. Why? He's getting free sex without the ring and he's complaining? :lol:
 
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^^^Thank you. We lived in an apt. at the time. :giggle: But the couple upstairs was full his ethnicity ...and you could hear him having fun...not a peep out of her. :rolleyes: I'd think that if a man were thrusting through the the pipes and they groaned and begged for more, he'd feel like Hercules or something. Talk about complexes! It's a wonder I had 4 kids. :lachen::lachen:
 
Sooo... If your in a committed relationship everything is perfect in every other aspect of the relationship. Youve talked in detail about what you like and how you like it; do you "fake" until he makes it?

My thought process is that if his ego is boosted the s*x must improve, right??

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Afro Puff said:
Last month I met a handsome, successful guy who's 38 years old unmarried and moved to the US 5 yrs ago. He's rather 'experienced' in the coloring department both with American & European women. One day he explained to me that coloring with European women is a different experience from coloring with American women.

He said the European women were more playful & sweet during coloring and it kept him in the mood. Some of the American women he's been with were more rough and said the wrong statements while coloring. Anytime he colored with a women who said certain things during the act, he knew they learned it from a 'flick/movie' and it would turn him off. That conversation changed my perspective about what certain men need while coloring. It was good insight.
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What did he mean by 'playful and sweet' anyway? Can you break it down? Sounds like a couple baking cookies together instead of having sex (lol)

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