I think my positive attitude and chatty nature has helped me a lot.
I don't believe in asking guys out since I don't want to be the one with the bill ![Lachen :lachen: :lachen:](/smilies/lachen70.gif)
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but I also think that if a guy is interested in you, he'll make an effort. I wonder if I'm having a higher sense of how I'm doing? Maybe they aren't as interested in me as think I am?
I agree. Don't chase.
There are ways to SHOW a man that you're interested in him w/out chasing him. Smiling is number one. Touch is probably number two.
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My problem is though, that I tend to get nervous/shy around guys that I may actually be interested in, so I don't do half of these flirty little things w/him even though I might actually be interested!
i also think that guys should do the asking and if they like you, they will make the effort. i don't think women should do any chasing or give men any options. call me old fashioned but i just don't think it's natural!
It's NOT natural! Trust me, I've done it before (by accident) and it did NOT end well.
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I told myself never ever again will I try to "make things happen" with a guy.
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Nope! Not me!
LivingDol1 I agree, I think guys like the chase,so to speak.
OP I think if you be yourself and think of being friends with this person rather than trying to get into a relationship with them you will find a more fulfilling relationship with this person when you eventually find them. If it's meant to be, the relationship will come in its own time and it will be so much better than just getting into a quick relationship (based on your physical attraction) with that guy without actually getting to know him first and ensuring you actually like him.
So if you want tips on how to meet new men, I would say go to places where you are interested in whatever is happening, maybe art galleries, or whatever you like and be bold and talk to people (men and women) but don't go with the expressed interest of getting into a relationship. That will come in time.. just be yourself so that when that guy comes along you'll have presented the true you and he won't have any surprises.
SideNote: Only take this advice if you really want a relationship that can potentially last.
I really REALLY like this advice.
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And I think it's actually a revelation I've come to myself. I recently noticed that usually the guys that I had the most "success" with in the past were the guys that I had no romantic interest in and therefore just treated as "friends". I can't tell you how many guy "friends" have confessed their feelings for me.
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I think the difference between these guys, and the guys that I'm interested in is that I was treating these guy friends as just that....FRIENDS! I didn't have any ulterior motives, I was being relaxed, being myself, smiling, having fun, maybe even being a little flirtatious (perhaps unknowingly), and therefore they ended up liking me as a result. It took some time (meaning, it didn't happen over night...they weren't trying to start something with me after meeting me in other words), but over a course of some months or even a couple of years these guys eventually told me how they felt, or showed me how they felt.
So, I think really that is the key. Just be YOURSELF, be friendly, outgoing, engaging, and genuinely interested in guys in general and I think you will have much better success in the long run.
Wow....I just realized that I was looking for answers myself, but I think I just answered my own question...with the help of
JustDoIt
SO yeah...just go out, have fun, mingle, and show genuine interest in other people. I notice that when I engage men in conversation (no ulterior motives at all...just making light conversation), they usually end up wanting my number or wanting to continue the conversation somehow.
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So...go figure!
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