Hi, Coily,
Interesting topics and here are my answers....
Do you believe that Christians should support safe sex (condoms, birth control etc.) ?
By this I take it you're asking if churches should promote it and provide condoms, etc. and teach classes? I personally don't believe they should.
I work with a lot of teens and preteens and most people are into giving them condoms and BC. They say that teens arent going to abstain so you might as well make sure theyre protected.
Well, if the acceptance from any group of people or church is that teens AREN'T going to abstain, any effort to promote abstinence is moot. I believe that focusing on the Word would benefit best..renew the mind/soul, the body
will follow, since God works on us from the inside/out.
What are your thoughts on the matter from a Christian perspective?
I believe Sex was created for marriage, period. 1 Corinthians 7:2 clearly includes sex outside of marriage under sexual immorality.
Do you believe it is contradictory to teach abstainance and promote protection?
YES...
Does is matter if its YOUR child or someone elses (meaning I will not give my child BC/condoms but if I work with teens I would choose to give it to them)?
I would rather promote the Word of God to my teen and focus on what he should do that would please God, rather than what he shouldn't do...he gets enough of all that outside our home. Likewise, with promoting abstinence instead of safe sex. If one is more focused on the former, the latter fades in comparison and won't even apply. To promote safe sex IMHO, is like telling a kid, well if you DO sin, at least sin safely... ??
I don't see how it should be, for those who promote it...would it really matter? Now, if your question is about 'safe sex' within a marriage..that's another story..
Do you think schools should pass these out?
I believe promotion of safe sex in schools sends the message that sex without commitment (marriage) is OK and that's a worldly perspective. They don't pass out Bibles in schools, do they?
What have your experiences been?
I was a virgin until age 21, then had sex and all hell (literally) broke loose after that. I got "sprung" on guys that couldn't care to commit. My self esteem (which I had growing up in church) was shot and I did all I could to please guys, confusing Lust with Love. I created ungodly soul ties that estranged me from God, and like the Prodigal son, I wallowed in selfishness.... but all that was the culmination of falling out of fellowship with God. I'd stopped going church, stopped "believing" and felt I was free to do what I wanted. Lust is a big deceiver...
In
John 10:10 , Jesus said: The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.
I believe the devil uses sex outside of marriage to steal (virginity, good health, etc), kill (deadly diseases, crimes of passion) and destroy (ruin marriages, relationships, etc.)
Why would Christians promote this?
When you think about it, God created our organs (male/female) as a lock and key. They fit perfectly...I've come to believe that sex has a spiritual purpose, to meld the two beings into one, and this is God's Plan. When sex occurs with no commitment (marriage), partners lose part of themselves to that other person..because it's supposed to be a permanent connection. And if they keep replicating this with other people, parts of themselves are all over the place, SCATTERED.
Christians youths need to be taught this.
Satan's goal is to scatter...
In
Matthew 12:30, Jesus says:
"Whoever isn't with me is against me. Whoever doesn't gather with me scatters."
The better armed /grounded in the Word a young person is, the less likely any kind of promotion is necessary to keep them from doing what God instructs us not to do in the first place. The seed would have already been sown in their hearts... through fellowship with God. Where their minds go, their bodies will follow.