Reopening the lines of communication

[mischka]

I've done this before and usually it might have been with a guy that I knew would respond positively from hearing from me again. But now I want to contact someone where I'm not sure what happened between the two of us so he may not want to hear from me. I am this close to using the word "desperately" to describe how much I would like for him to be in my life. But I'm scared to contact him because I don't know what sort of reaction I'll get. Getting totally ignored would be just as painful as getting a negative response, which is probably the main thing that's holding me up.

Have you ever done this? How did it work out?

 

[ThickHair]

I have done it and it didn't work out. I moved on.

 

[mischka]

Did you get a negative response?

 

[ThickHair]

Did you get a negative response?

I actually received a positive response, but no follow up, actions did not equal words. I felt like a fool.

ETA: This is the thread, I wrote about it. http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=360933 Dang that is from the beginning of 2009.

 

[mischka]

Ah. See I think I could live with that. I don't really know why the communication stopped in the first place so I feel like anything I could say about it is just going to look like me ranting and raving about crazy things that never occurred to him but I really feel like I can't just let it go without saying something

 

[BeautifulFlower]

I wouldn't do it. If you're still emotionally attached, you'll do more harm than good to yourself.

Wait till you are indifferent of the response and then contact him. That way...whether good or bad...your emotions remain consistent. If positive, great. If negative, oh well. If nothing, well at least you tried.

 

[Makenzie]

I actually received a positive response, but no follow up, actions did not equal words. I felt like a fool.

Going through this now.

 

[mischka]

I'm probably going to end up debating back and forth about it until the matter is taken out of my hands or I move on and forget about it. I know he's moving out of state soon... blah.

 

[Bmack]

I actually received a positive response, but no follow up, actions did not equal words. I felt like a fool.

Something similar happened to me, but it ended badly and I wish I let sleeping dogs lie. Well, it ended with me being annoyed lol. I had to cut all communication.

Perhaps you can send an general email and see what happens. This way you are not directing it only to him