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Relaxed ladies, do you feel left out when your hair idol goes natural?
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Sistaslick
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I am always happy when someone I admired with relaxed hair goes natural. 
But I've had people (jokingly) try to talk me out of going natural for this very reason though. Almost like I can't be an inspiration to them after that.
But the same thing can be said about cutting hair period, once a longhair cuts their hair-- people feel kinda let down.
This is a good topic though. Personally, I probably feel more shaken up when someone I've looked up to hairwise relaxed or natural cuts their hair period. I guess going from relaxed to natural does involve a cut at some point too , but I wouldn't be salty about someone doing this just b/c they aren't relaxed like me anymore. It is the cut iself, I'm trying to deal with.
There were two major instances I remember on other boards where I felt kinda down. One of the ladies was a long haired relaxed gal and did a BC (hi lovegrowth
) and the other was a BSL long haired natural (hi eboni ) and cut a significant amount of hair. Since I was probably more attached to their hair then they were, a piece of me died (being dramatic here )when they both did the cutting. But they were happy which is the most important thing! and I and everyone else who was like whyyyyyyyyy
got over it! Lovegrowths natural hair is FIERCE and Eb's cut was SLAMMIN'! I just need to stop being so attached to other people's hair 
But I've had people (jokingly) try to talk me out of going natural for this very reason though. Almost like I can't be an inspiration to them after that. But the same thing can be said about cutting hair period, once a longhair cuts their hair-- people feel kinda let down.This is a good topic though. Personally, I probably feel more shaken up when someone I've looked up to hairwise relaxed or natural cuts their hair period. I guess going from relaxed to natural does involve a cut at some point too , but I wouldn't be salty about someone doing this just b/c they aren't relaxed like me anymore. It is the cut iself, I'm trying to deal with.
There were two major instances I remember on other boards where I felt kinda down. One of the ladies was a long haired relaxed gal and did a BC (hi lovegrowth
) and the other was a BSL long haired natural (hi eboni ) and cut a significant amount of hair. Since I was probably more attached to their hair then they were, a piece of me died (being dramatic here )when they both did the cutting. But they were happy which is the most important thing! and I and everyone else who was like whyyyyyyyyy got over it! Lovegrowths natural hair is FIERCE and Eb's cut was SLAMMIN'! I just need to stop being so attached to other people's hair
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sareca
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Nope. Probably because I have natural and relaxed ladies who's albums I love to frequent. So many ladies here have long, beautiful relaxed hair. You'll no trouble finding another one. 
Besides her natural journey might help with your stretches. Or, heaven forbid, inspire you to try natural. I'm 6 months post and I think I've gotten the best tips from the naturals (or transistioners) than relaxed-heads.
Besides her natural journey might help with your stretches. Or, heaven forbid, inspire you to try natural. I'm 6 months post and I think I've gotten the best tips from the naturals (or transistioners) than relaxed-heads.
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shellzfoshizzle
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sareca said:
I agree on this.
mscounselor
New Member
I guess the only way I would be affected is if they stop treating their hair properly. My hair idols were chosen because they have healthy hair no matter what their method of styling. So in a way, my hair idols are here to stay.
I also agree with qtpie if they stop posting on here.
I also agree with qtpie if they stop posting on here.
anatomicallycorrect
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Michelle who?
chocolatesis
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Plenty706 said:
I think I kind of know what you mean. For me, I feel bad because there aren't many sisters around me who are trying to grow their hair. So when someone cuts her hair I feel like I'm being singled out; like other black people are thinking "when are you going to cut yours?" I know this sounds crazy, but I think it's because I always get comments from other women like "I don't care about long hair", "I had long hair when I was younger, it doesn't do anything for me now".
I guess I feel like many other black people think I'm a sell-out because I'm growing my hair long or because I relax my hair. But even so, I just figure I have to be me. If that means I relax my hair and keep it long, then so be it. I have no one to please but myself and God.
MizaniMami
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It hasn't happened yet but I honestly, I think I would kind of feel like "noooo, stay relaxed with me."
Seriously, there are some hair care tips that are universal so I would still look up to them. But then again there are those tips for relaxed hair that are important more for relaxed hair than natural. I guess I would probably have to follow-up on someone else for those tips.
But I have about 6 here lol, I'm greedy!
Seriously, there are some hair care tips that are universal so I would still look up to them. But then again there are those tips for relaxed hair that are important more for relaxed hair than natural. I guess I would probably have to follow-up on someone else for those tips.
But I have about 6 here lol, I'm greedy!
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