Re-Posted: Single Ladies...I Have a Word for You...

[wicky2828]

Shimmie,
Thank you for this thread. Like the other ladies, I needed to read this. I have had a rough time with relationships. I always have questions like is the person i am seeing meant for me or is this person only meant to be in my life for a season??? How do you tell the difference??? The current relationship that I am in right now is so challenging to me on all levels. Thanks for the encouragement that I will eventually meet the person that is meant for me and thanks for the prayers. I will definately be praying for yall!!!

 

[Kiadodie]

Shimmie,
Thanks for this thread. This past year has been a year of turnovers of men for me. It's like I'm weeding out the ones that aren't right for me, yet to be disappointed once again. Everytime I meet a man, I hope that he's the "one" and I get disappointed cause he's not.

I will keep my head up and pray to the Lord that this will be the year that I meet the man that God is preparing just for me.

God has always been good to me in all areas in my life and i know he hasn't forgotten me.

Thanks for the prayers.

 

[Supergirl]

Shimmie,
Thank you for this thread. Like the other ladies, I needed to read this. I have had a rough time with relationships. I always have questions like is the person i am seeing meant for me or is this person only meant to be in my life for a season??? How do you tell the difference??? The current relationship that I am in right now is so challenging to me on all levels. Thanks for the encouragement that I will eventually meet the person that is meant for me and thanks for the prayers. I will definately be praying for yall!!!

I'm not Shimmie, but let me jump in here and help. What kind of man is he? That's the main thing. Is he a man of God. Does he love the Lord, attend church consistently?

You said your relationship is challenging. Challenging doesn't necessarily mean wrong. Relationships have seasons. It is good to see how someone stands up under the storms that are bound to come in relationships. If he is abusive, disrespectful, or dishonors you that's one thing. Those are TRUE RED flags.

If it's not those things, is it a matter of him not wanting to commit to a marriage covenant? If that's it, pay attention to his reasons. Sometimes a man can have worthwhile reasons of substance for wanting to wait. But there's a difference between worthwhile reasons and excuses. What does your heart tell you?

Take some time "off" if you need to. I'm not saying break up with him, but give yourself some breathing room perhaps. In your heart of hearts, is he the man you want to spend your life with? Have you talked to the Lord about this guy? What is your Spirit saying? If he's the one you really want, first get the okay from God which will come in the form of undeniable peace as you think of spending the rest of your life with this man. The next step would probably be the hardest--LET GO! I don't mean quit. I just mean take your efforts, your strength, your ways out of it and let God have control. Let God bring this thing together for you. Remember, you can do it, but God can do it so much better than we can. Okay.

 

[**Tasha*Love**]

^^^^ SuperGirl your post was such an inspiration. In relationships we can sometimes look at things in a negative light (speaking for myself) but you just made me see the positive in my situation. I wish I had more women like everyone here (LHCF) in my close circle of female friends. Thanks for speaking to my heart and mind this morning

 

[choqlat]

What a wonderful post SuperGirl. I needed that...

 

[wicky2828]

Spuergirl,

Thank you so much for your inspirational and thought provoking reply. I can't tell you how many times I have read it and each time I focus on something new in your message. It hadn't occurred to me that I hadn't really talked to God about this man like I should have. Thank you again for the words of wisdom. Please pray for me and my situation...

 

[Shimmie]

I'm not Shimmie, but let me jump in here and help. What kind of man is he? That's the main thing. Is he a man of God. Does he love the Lord, attend church consistently?

You said your relationship is challenging. Challenging doesn't necessarily mean wrong. Relationships have seasons. It is good to see how someone stands up under the storms that are bound to come in relationships. If he is abusive, disrespectful, or dishonors you that's one thing. Those are TRUE RED flags.

If it's not those things, is it a matter of him not wanting to commit to a marriage covenant? If that's it, pay attention to his reasons.

Sometimes a man can have worthwhile reasons of substance for wanting to wait. But there's a difference between worthwhile reasons and excuses.

What does your heart tell you?

Take some time "off" if you need to.

I'm not saying break up with him, but give yourself some breathing room perhaps. In your heart of hearts, is he the man you want to spend your life with? Have you talked to the Lord about this guy?

What is your Spirit saying? If he's the one you really want, first get the okay from God which will come in the form of undeniable peace as you think of spending the rest of your life with this man.

The next step would probably be the hardest--LET GO!

I don't mean quit. I just mean take your efforts, your strength, your ways out of it and let God have control.

Let God bring this thing together for you. Remember, you can do it, but God can do it so much better than we can. Okay.

EXCELLENT! EXCELLENT! EXCELLENT!

One more thing to add. Don't be afraid of being alone. I used to 'fear' this and most women (and men as well) have this fear from time to time. But I've come to realize that it's not a 'death sentence' to avoid relationships. I always have 'opportunites' but I'm not 'there' for them, I 'here' for 'him.'

I've learned to be excited in preparing for the right one. It gives me more time for preparation. (Longer hair, softer skin, more new silk and lace undies --- Oppps TMI --- But you get my point. We have to be ready when he comes. Spiritually ready tops them all, for it primes us as his Help Meet beyond 'suitable'... it strenghtens our bond with each and the Lord.

And God is speaking to him now, at this very moment about me. Yes...He is. And 'he' is also listening to the Lord with an open and full and receptive heart.

 

[amara11]

Wow! Praise God for giving you this revelation. I never thought of that and yet it makes so much sense.

But I love what you said, "he failed yet again.' The devil is exactly that, 'failure' and he will never be anything above that. he is truly 'under' our feet.

Praise God forever and ever. He has made our enemies His footstool and ours as well.

Ummmmmm, is that a loud sound of wedding bells I hear coming from all over the LHCF regions?

God bless you Amara11... {{{{ Loving hugs to you }}}}

Awww, amen sister!

 

[GlamourGirl]

Wow... I receive this word.... The enemy really tried to hit me this week with fear that I was going to die an old, lonely virgin. I remembered what my pastor's wife told me once: whatever the devil says the opposite is true.... God's word cannot lie. His Word is true and His promises are yea and amen. I mean seriously.... God gave me the desire for marriage. I didn't give this desire to myself. Marriage is honorable. Therefore this desire is also honorable and within His general will and His specific will for my life.

Lol you too RelaxerRehab...I had the same thoughts tonight! I was thinking it's lookin like I'ma be a virgin forever! I so needed this word! Thanks Shimmie!!

 

[Belle Du Jour]

A few years ago, I thought I heard God say I would be married by 28. Well, I'll be 27 in July and I have no prospect in sight. I also don't see myself dating someone and getting married in less than a year.

I've never told anyone about what I *thought* was a promise from God. Now, I'm wondering if it was the devil playing me.

 

[Shimmie]

A few years ago, I thought I heard God say I would be married by 28. Well, I'll be 27 in July and I have no prospect in sight. I also don't see myself dating someone and getting married in less than a year.

I've never told anyone about what I *thought* was a promise from God. Now, I'm wondering if it was the devil playing me.

"...He that will come, will come and will not tarry."

Never fear or doubt God's promises. We always have a choice to believe Him or doubt Him. In "Acts 27" the apostle Paul, (amidst a great and deadly storm) said, "I believe God."

Yes, I know what the world 'dictates', but it was never God's original plan for a woman to be without a loving man. It's His will for marriage. And in His will I allow myself to be.

Be blessed and believe God. Ask Him to show you to the point where you can believe and not doubt. If marriage is what you want, than marriage you shall have. The devil can never take this from you. he didn't give it, God did. So that makes it truly yours to have and to hold from this day forward... "Believe God."

 

[Belle Du Jour]

"...He that will come, will come and will not tarry."

Never fear or doubt God's promises. We always have a choice to believe Him or doubt Him. In "Acts 27" the apostle Paul, (amidst a great and deadly storm) said, "I believe God."

Yes, I know what the world 'dictates', but it was never God's original plan for a woman to be without a loving man. It's His will for marriage. And in His will I allow myself to be.

Be blessed and believe God. Ask Him to show you to the point where you can believe and not doubt. If marriage is what you want, than marriage you shall have. The devil can never take this from you. he didn't give it, God did. So that makes it truly yours to have and to hold from this day forward... "Believe God."

Thanks. I needed that.

 

[Shimmie]

Thanks. I needed that.

You're not alone, sweet sister..... Only believe.