Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

HanaKuroi said:
It will take more length before you can style your hair. You are at an awkward stage. This will pass and you will be loving your hair.

Can you get braids? Then you can have options while your hair grows?

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I was thinking about putting braids in again so I dont have to worry about it for two weeks. I have to find a beauty supply store near where I live. I have plenty of time to do it at this point haha. Some pieces might be too short though I don't know especially in the back. I wanna do crochet braids but I dont know anyone who can cornrow my hair for me since I cant grip or see hahaha
 
I am starting to like my hair again, now that I have figured out the right products to use. It is staying moisturized long and looks fuller for a longer period of time. I am even ok with the length because it will be back before I know it.
 
After running on this beach this morning my hair felt a little dry, and I thought I was going to have to cowash tonight (which I really don't feel like doing). However after sitting in this humid office for the past 6 hours my hair feels back to normal. I guess humidity is all that bad.
 
I wish it would hurry up and be Friday. Since I'm off I'm going to finger detangle, clarify, and do a all day deep conditioner to get my hair ready for my relaxer the following Saturday.

I've been on Pinterest non-stop looking for hair style ideas. I'll have to learn my relaxed hair all over again.
 
why is transitioning to natural so ****** overwhelming emotionally for me? i've been natural before, several times, and it was never an issue. i've BC'ed without any fuss or trauma. now i'm in a relationship and he's fine with me being natural so long as my hair isn't too short and I transition over several months (he doesn't like short hair).

Now I'm feeling all this pressure and anxiety over something I really never took seriously before. It shouldnt' be this difficult right?
 
naija24 said:
why is transitioning to natural so ****** overwhelming emotionally for me? i've been natural before, several times, and it was never an issue. i've BC'ed without any fuss or trauma. now i'm in a relationship and he's fine with me being natural so long as my hair isn't too short and I transition over several months (he doesn't like short hair).

Now I'm feeling all this pressure and anxiety over something I really never took seriously before. It shouldnt' be this difficult right?
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Seems like it is the bf's opinion making it difficult. I'm sure he'll like u no matter what and he'll grow to like it if he doesn't at first. Especially if ure confident with it.
 
Killahkurlz said:
Seems like it is the bf's opinion making it difficult. I'm sure he'll like u no matter what and he'll grow to like it if he doesn't at first. Especially if ure confident with it.
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Killahkurlz lol girl I wish that was the case. When I BC'ed my hair to less than an inch earlier this year in January, it was so difficult for his stubborn self that we nearly broke up. Here was this beautiful angel that he fell in love with so quick with full SL hair and she went bald overnight. He was raised that "a woman's hair is her crown" or whatever bullcrap men are fed from their fathers and never tell their mothers/wives about.

So I'm growing out my hair. I still want to be natural and he's fine with that, as long as I "don't look like a boy". Yes, it's really really hard for me. Because he's very focused on looks and talking about it is like talking in circles so I really don't know what to do about it anymore except do what I want (go natural) but grow long hair (what he wants) through transitioning.
 
naija24 I cant say I blame him. If you're the type to only like clean shaven dudes..you meet a guy clean cut etc..thjen all of a sudden he grows a long Alhaji beard and handlebar mustache, I doubt you'd be too happy esp if he shaves then grows it then shaves and grows continously. People shouldnt be forced to like something imo *shrugs*
But good luck to you two sha. Maybe you'll have to hide under wigs/weaves after BCing or something
 
The twistout didn't turn out well so I grabbed it back into a bun with a curly side swoop left out. All that sleeping awkwardly on bendy rollers for nothing! Lol

Thibk I'll just stick to bunning for now.
 
naija24
If you don't mind me asking..how long have you guys been together? You're young (I think I'm around the same age as you) and this phase of your life should be free not constrained by someone that cares that much about physical looks. I'm sorry I've seen your posts before and you seem like a nice girl but don't let someone else cause you inner turmoil.
 
Cant believe I found an Aveda salon by accident near my house!

This means I don't have to pay shipping charges to try the anti-humectant pomade... :scratchchin:
 
Thinking of rocking this air dried big bun for another week. I like the looks I get with it; especially when you know they are looking for a sock.
 
I had a terrible setback a year ago. Been struggling ever since. Lost 50% of my hair. It's back to MTG and hair vitamins again for me.
 
naija24 said:
Killahkurlz lol girl I wish that was the case. When I BC'ed my hair to less than an inch earlier this year in January, it was so difficult for his stubborn self that we nearly broke up. Here was this beautiful angel that he fell in love with so quick with full SL hair and she went bald overnight. He was raised that "a woman's hair is her crown" or whatever bullcrap men are fed from their fathers and never tell their mothers/wives about.

So I'm growing out my hair. I still want to be natural and he's fine with that, as long as I "don't look like a boy". Yes, it's really really hard for me. Because he's very focused on looks and talking about it is like talking in circles so I really don't know what to do about it anymore except do what I want (go natural) but grow long hair (what he wants) through transitioning.
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I had a similar problem. I bced after 5 months of transitioning so my hair was super short. The ppl.that hated hair, family, couldnt understand that I cut my hair and went natural to grow my hair super long. It took 2.5 years for them to start liking my hair. Eventually i stopped caring. Just explain to him and preach patience to him like we have to do to ourselves
 
I wish they had Suave, V05 and NTM products where I live :ohwell:

Once I finish these conditioners I wanna try Wen :look: Sally's Hair One was a hit with my hair back then so the original thing should be better right?
 
My twist out doesn't look dry for like the second time ever. I guess I figured something out. I need to use Shea Butter or even my whipped Shea Butter (which is thicker) to really stretch out the hair and coat the strands, then I applied ORS Curl N Hold pudding and twisted in flat twists (about 6) to the back. I didn't do those hard rollers, because they are tough to sleep in, so I did cocoon curls like Napptural85's youtube videos.

I look cute! So it worked.

If anyone has tips on how to get my roots into the twist out pattern that my length holds so well.. please let me know. I usually end up with PUFFY roots and twisted out length. I think I get close to the scalp, but I keep product off my scalp, so the only thing I can think of is getting lower to the scalp with the product.

Oh, I did this all from wet hair. I have to bun first, dry it as straight as possible, then twist with heavy shea butter or dare I say it, grease as my first layer, then my holding creme. It's working for me. I think I'm on week 4 with no heat.
 
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When I graduate I'm going to go all out and make myself a nice haircare basket featuring online vendors. I've been working way too hard..sigh.
 
Before going to bed, I ALWAYS moisturize and oil my hairline and sleep on my silk pillow case.

As soon as I wake up, my hairline is always dry.
 
As much as I want to use up some of these products I don't feel like doing my hair. Booooooooooo lol
 
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