Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

naija24, I think that's a very lofty goal. On average folks grow 1/2 of hair per month, but some grow more or less than others. In any case, August will have come & gone in 3.5 months, giving a hypothetical growth potential of roughly 1.75 inches, if every millimeter is retained; my guess is that you'd need about 4-5 inches of growth to achieve this style.



Lylddlebit, whyyyyyyyyy?! I can barely pick up a stove top pressing comb without having flashbacks of all the burns I endured during childhood pressing sessions. :nono:

wishful thinking :(
 
naija24, don't get discouraged doll. My nana used to say that a watched pot never boils; your hair will grow & thrive, don't drive yourself nuts fretting over it just take good care of it & let it do what it does.
 
Had an ah ha moment today...my buns look way better and fuller when I do them in the morning as opposed to before bed and it gets flattened from my satin scarf....
 
I have a meeting that I forgot about in 3 hours. My hair is in four celies and full of twist cream and wet! Sighhhhhhhhhh. I do not know what to do. All of the product hasn't soaked in. I hope it has in 2 hours. I went under the steamer to help it along.

I should have a wig for times like these.

I am buying something today.

I can't see any mentions on my IPhone. PM me if it is a must see. Allons y
 
I have a meeting that I forgot about in 3 hours. My hair is in four celies and full of twist cream and wet! Sighhhhhhhhhh. I do not know what to do. All of the product hasn't soaked in. I hope it has in 2 hours. I went under the steamer to help it along.

I should have a wig for times like these.

I am buying something today.

I can't see any mentions on my IPhone. PM me if it is a must see. Allons y


Agree with the bold 100%.

Anyways, at first I had a hate hate relationship with wigs. Now, that it takes me two minutes to do my "hair". I love wigs!!

I can't wait to wear my Giselle wig tomorrow.

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Wash day (1 week) is supposed to be tomorrow...
My hair is still moisturized and my scalp isn't dirty or itchy! Wash day(week ago) I moisturized with Qhemet Burdock/Cocoa Tree Detangling Ghee and on Monday I remoisturized with Amazing Botanicals Aloe Mint Spritz, Oyin Hair Dew(love...but still trying out), and Hairitage Hydrations Queen Mix Butter.

Uhhhm breakage/SSKs....NADA! :)
 
Since I BC'd after 11 months of being a slave to biweekly 2 hour braid outs, I feel so free. Relishing in the wash n go shortness before it grows out!
 
Totally going to surprise my boyfriend this weekend with red hair! I"m really excited! and i will be posting pics. I'm very nervous though because it's a big change and red is really ....vivid? I"m not big on a lot of attention, I just thought it'd be a nice change for the summer while I distract myself from my hair.

Also, I think I prefer not using heat. Since giving it up entirely nearly three weeks ago, my hair feels much softer and healthier.
 
naija24 said:
Totally going to surprise my boyfriend this weekend with red hair! I"m really excited! and i will be posting pics. I'm very nervous though because it's a big change and red is really ....vivid? I"m not big on a lot of attention, I just thought it'd be a nice change for the summer while I distract myself from my hair.

Also, I think I prefer not using heat. Since giving it up entirely nearly three weeks ago, my hair feels much softer and healthier.

I don't think you should dye your hair.

I think you should get braids or a weave. Dyed hair can be fragile. You are taking a risk. You don't want a setback.

Establish a good regimen and buy a red kinky textured wig. Hold off on the dye. I know you use heat so your hair probably doesn't need red dye on top of it.

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I don't think you should dye your hair.

I think you should get braids or a weave. Dyed hair can be fragile. You are taking a risk. You don't want a setback.

Establish a good regimen and buy a red kinky textured wig. Hold off on the dye. I know you use heat so your hair probably doesn't need red dye on top of it.

I can't see any mentions on my IPhone. PM me if it is a must see. Allons y

I'm not using heat until July 30, if that. I reeeeeally don't like braids or wigs. Why is it that hair color is a big no no in this forum? is it different from henna?
 
I'm not using heat until July 30, if that. I reeeeeally don't like braids or wigs. Why is it that hair color is a big no no in this forum? is it different from henna?

I'm not against hair color, I just advise caution with double processing hair. If you are gonna do something, try the Shea moisture line or Garnier.

On YouTube, TheHappyHairShow has a video where se talks about dying her hair. It looked really good.

Please excuse my iPhone; it's trying to get it together
 
I'm not against hair color, I just advise caution with double processing hair. If you are gonna do something, try the Shea moisture line or Garnier.

On YouTube, TheHappyHairShow has a video where se talks about dying her hair. It looked really good.

Please excuse my iPhone; it's trying to get it together

do you have a link to their website? I can't find it anywhere. This would be a good option as I really do love their products.
 
Totally going to surprise my boyfriend this weekend with red hair! I"m really excited! and i will be posting pics. I'm very nervous though because it's a big change and red is really ....vivid? I"m not big on a lot of attention, I just thought it'd be a nice change for the summer while I distract myself from my hair.

Also, I think I prefer not using heat. Since giving it up entirely nearly three weeks ago, my hair feels much softer and healthier.

naija24

Oh wow! Red hot mama! Oh, a vivid red will be an attention getter. :yep: There's nothing shy about that. In fact, if I see you out in red hair, I'm definitely going to compliment you so, you may as well get used to the idea. You'll probably feel your confidence rise up after you get used to it too so, rock on wit cho bad self.

You will have to take extra care of colored hair, like staying on top of your deep conditioning and moisturizing game but, definitely think that colored (and relaxed, for that matter) hair can be healthy with proper care. That's JMO.

In any case, I'll be waiting on pics. :lick: I LOVE red hair. The more vivid, the better (as long as it compliments the skin tone). Shoot. I may wake up as a red head myself one of these days. We'll see. :drunk: But for now, I'll have to limit my red to wigs and pieces....for now.

Wishing you much success. I hope it's for you. Your boyfriend liking it will be a be a bonus. (A BIG bonus. :sekret: ). :look:
 
naija24 said:
I'm not using heat until July 30, if that. I reeeeeally don't like braids or wigs. Why is it that hair color is a big no no in this forum? is it different from henna?

I am just nervous because you are double processed and might have heat damage. You also don't do much to your hair. You let someone else do it. You don't have a set regimen and you don't like to dc or spend time on your hair according to you. You don't have/want time to dc or want to spend 3 hours on your hair.

You should rethink dyeing. Your hair will need more care, not less.

You also seem a bit impatient and impulsive when it comes to your hair journey. This combination usually results in setbacks. Be careful.

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I havnt seen my real hair in about a week and a half. The bits I have seen feel like I am growin out my relaxer all over again Dumb heat damage.
 
I am just nervous because you are double processed and might have heat damage. You also don't do much to your hair. You let someone else do it. You don't have a set regimen and you don't like to dc or spend time on your hair according to you. You don't have/want time to dc or want to spend 3 hours on your hair.

You should rethink dyeing. Your hair will need more care, not less.

You also seem a bit impatient and impulsive when it comes to your hair journey. This combination usually results in setbacks. Be careful.

I can't see any mentions on my IPhone. PM me if it is a must see. Allons y

Wow, I had no idea people on this forum follow others so closely. I"ll keep that in mind next time.

Just to say, I've been using a regimen for near three weeks now. I deep condition weekly and spend about ....1.5 hours on my hair. I don't have time for 5-6 step wash days. I just don't. My main goals after work are seeing my bf or working out.

I don't think i'm "impulsive" at all. I'm not sure what gave you that idea. Impatient? Eh, maybe a little? I mean, who wouldn't be when you're on a forum where girls are rocking hair down to their buttcheeks LOL and it's healthy and shiny and fierce? It'd be nice to get to SL and I'm certain I will by December or next January or so.

I just wanted to do something different with my hair cuz...it's just hair? O_o I feel like before this HHJ, I was so obsessed with my hair being one way that I lost some of my identity (strong I know) when I cut it all off. now that's its growing back in and filling out finally, yeah, i want something hot and wild for summer :D

I appreciate the warning though.
 
naija24 said:
Wow, I had no idea people on this forum follow others so closely. I"ll keep that in mind next time.

Just to say, I've been using a regimen for near three weeks now. I deep condition weekly and spend about ....1.5 hours on my hair. I don't have time for 5-6 step wash days. I just don't. My main goals after work are seeing my bf or working out.

I don't think i'm "impulsive" at all. I'm not sure what gave you that idea. Impatient? Eh, maybe a little? I mean, who wouldn't be when you're on a forum where girls are rocking hair down to their buttcheeks LOL and it's healthy and shiny and fierce? It'd be nice to get to SL and I'm certain I will by December or next January or so.

I just wanted to do something different with my hair cuz...it's just hair? O_o I feel like before this HHJ, I was so obsessed with my hair being one way that I lost some of my identity (strong I know) when I cut it all off. now that's its growing back in and filling out finally, yeah, i want something hot and wild for summer :D

I appreciate the warning though.

No,

I hate wasting my time. I usually check previous posts before I give hair advice. I don't want to responsible for recommending the wrong thing!

Had I checked your posts earlier I wouldn't have suggested braids or wigs since you ate against them.

I should have said indecisive I suppose, instead of impulsive. I am sorry. I may also be wrong about that. I wasn't sure if you were going natural or transitioning or relaxed. My bad.

I don't know anyone on here that does 5-6 day wash days. Nobody has time for that.

Many women on here with long hair did a lot of research and hid their hair to achieve their goals. It took years and not months.

Make sure you use good products. Dc does not mean leaving watery cheap conditioner on your hair for hours.

I would hate for you to have a setback and have to cut off damage from double processing when you so want longer hair.

It does take dedication to grow our type of hair long. Moisturizing, sealing, conditioning, cowashing, dusting, detangling, deep conditioning, protein treatments, henna, etc. It isn't easy and it won't happen quickly.

You are right it is your hair. I gave unsolicited advice.

Sometimes in order to reach a goal you have to do things to help you get there temporarily.

All the info you need is on this forum. I wish you luck on your journey.

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naija24

That's really creepy. I know I see you in the same threads from time to time, but I'm familiar with you name and that you want to be SL. That's about it and I only know your length goal because you talk about it ALOT lol.

I think you should do whatever is comfortable with you. Before my journey I was hair obsessed. Now it's just hair. Your at a short enough length to not have a harsh setback or if you do get damage, it won't have a profound effect.

I'd just recommend that you a) get a good protein treatment like Nexxus Emergencee b) some Roux Porosity Control and c) shampoo and conditioner for color treated hair. Taking care of color treated hair is hard because along with caring for processed hair, you have to care for the color as well. Be sure to space out the color and relaxer and you will have to be extra diligent with the care.

Just remember dyes dry out the hair a lot.

Oh, go on YouTube and search for TheHappyHairShow

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My hair was mostly dry for my appointment. I wore it up though. I had to keep spritzing it with water and blotting it. It is super defined and shiny now! Maybe I found a new method?

I am thinking about a fingercomber unit/wig. Maybe I will make a wig that is close to my hair and length. I really do need an emergency wig.

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naija24 Maybe, you should try a color rinse like Manic Panic or Jazzing. Sally's has a knock off of MP, but I don't recall the name. A color rinse will not damage your hair and be counterproductive to your hair length goal.

No offense, but I would not recommend a permanent hair color change, because this is the second time that I recall you stating, you don't like multiple steps and/or investing time in your hair care regimen/routine. Your hair will be double processed and will need additional TLC/hair care steps.

I believe the previous two posters were just trying to be helpful!

Taren916 on YT used MP with great results.

HTH!
 
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My hair is double processed and I loved it but it did change the porosity of my hair which required more work and if/when I slacked off I definitely paid the price. I should've been shoulder length already but things are much slower since I decided to do that. I was all over the place about my hair because I wanted it to grow but I wanted to do everything to it and it just didn't work. For me I ended up sacrificing length for color. Now I have a balance but it took a while. My SO hates that I spend sooo much time on my hair but he knows its important to me so its not that big of a deal and I have a one year old and those times that I devote to my hair are like trips to the spa! I wouldn't trade it for nothing. That's why for me my HHJ really didn't start until I realized I needed to back off and calm down and Stop bouncing all over the place. So from my experience if you're going to do it, stay on top of it or otherwise you may regret it later. I will probably dye my hair again one day in the far future because idk if I could get all color combinations by using henna and indigo but I may also be natural or have locs! Lol! Who knows?!
 
hello ladies, so I went to my local Sallys after work and got Clairol Professional Soy4Plex Creme Demi-Permanent Dark Red Blonde and it's demi permanent developer. The lady at the store told me that semi-permanents and rinses won't give me the color that I want. This brand says that it's ammnoia free. I guess that's good.

So I'm gonna take that jump and color my hair this afternoon!! So nervous omg. But whatever.

And I really do appreciate all the advice ladies. It's hard not to be defensive about hair choices sometimes but it's better than not knowing any better. I plan to stretch my relaxers for 3-4 months and I'm not using heat all anymore, so I'm safe there. My focus will be deep conditioning like it was a life or death situation.

I'm debating whether to use the developer or not. It says for "best results" so i guess it's optional?
 
Everyone is loving my TWA........was a bit apprehensive at first. I also colored it last weekend but I have used the shea moisture deep treatment mask and I plan to do light and deep protein dc interchangeably (every other week)....hope my hair thrives!!
 
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