trueheartofgold
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I completely understand and know first hand. And I agree with @PJaye, find new doctors. There is no need for the judgmental and critical behavior.
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I completely understand and know first hand. And I agree with @PJaye, find new doctors. There is no need for the judgmental and critical behavior.
I agree with her. Those insensitive bastards don't deserve your patronage and the money that comes along with it. Treat them like any other vendor - if they want your business, they need to prove it by providing you with exemplary service. What kind of BS doctors are they?
NatrulyMe
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They (Doctors) claimed to want help me, but I am tired of the fat jokes (sarcastically speaking). Although, I know they're right...Yet, they know my struggles because they provide services for those suffer with depression (with low income) too. What makes it worse, they always telling me what I need to do with saying, It is going to be tough! And, if you do not do it, you will have diabetes and your body will continue to be imbalance. Like, it is an easy task knowing I am trying to get through my depression and take what life granted me one day at a time...They never say that they have this service (for free) to help me. SMDH.
Moreover, I told one of the doctors that I was overwhelmed. I said, so I need to quit smoking, lose weight, exercise, drive and find a better job! I do not know how to fix it all...This is too much...She looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language and said, try to start walking daily for a few mins...Take it slowly! I guess she realized it was too much info for me...IDK? Anyways, I am going to give it a try, but I know I will have my bad days. Still, I will not give up!
Thank you all for letting me vent. Hugs. You ladies are so supportive and caring. This is what I need to be among at this time (individuals that truly cares and understand along with showing encouragement).
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Evolving78
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@NatrulyMe
Get out there and start walking! It will open up the door to everything else! You don't need anything special to get started. Just go out there and just take a walk around the block. Get some air, get in some quiet time.
Me suggesting walking is not about losing weight. That will come. im talking about the freedom of taking control by doing something that won't cost you anything, no special planning, nothing that you have to put much thought into. You do care about yourself because you are seeking guidance and getting medical advice.
Get out there and start walking! It will open up the door to everything else! You don't need anything special to get started. Just go out there and just take a walk around the block. Get some air, get in some quiet time.
Me suggesting walking is not about losing weight. That will come. im talking about the freedom of taking control by doing something that won't cost you anything, no special planning, nothing that you have to put much thought into. You do care about yourself because you are seeking guidance and getting medical advice.
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NatrulyMe
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Exactly. Thank you.
I Am So Blessed
I'm easy going.
Fast and Pray. Those two together are explosive against the enemy.
I understand your pain. Joy comes in the morning.
NatrulyMe
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Thank you.
keranikki
Natural, 4a, Fine, medium density
@NatrulyMe
Everyone has given great advice! The only thing I have to add is take one project at a time. You have to fix you first before you can fix anything or anyone else. When life gets overwhelming, reach out like you did in this forum. One of us will chime in with an encouraging word, advice, and anything else that is required.
Everyone has given great advice! The only thing I have to add is take one project at a time. You have to fix you first before you can fix anything or anyone else. When life gets overwhelming, reach out like you did in this forum. One of us will chime in with an encouraging word, advice, and anything else that is required.
NatrulyMe
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@NatrulyMe
Everyone has given great advice! The only thing I have to add is take one project at a time. You have to fix you first before you can fix anything or anyone else. When life gets overwhelming, reach out like you did in this forum. One of us will chime in with an encouraging word, advice, and anything else that is required.
So True, my curl twin!
I don't know how you know that this is how I am feeling... Because I voiced this earlier today to someone I really care about... I am tired of helping others when individuals do not return the favor.
Thanks for your words of encouragement and support. Hugs
YvetteWithJoy
On break
Hugs, @NatrulyMe. 
Just wanted to say your LHCF sisters are with you. You have our every support. Most all of us on the forum are reaching for goals, dealing with obstacles, finances, etc.
We'd love to have you at the monthly progress thread if/when you are ready! I'll link it once I can, if someone doesn't link it first.
There is also a thread for those working to lose 100 or more pounds. Love to you, lady!!!
Just wanted to say your LHCF sisters are with you. You have our every support. Most all of us on the forum are reaching for goals, dealing with obstacles, finances, etc.
We'd love to have you at the monthly progress thread if/when you are ready! I'll link it once I can, if someone doesn't link it first.
There is also a thread for those working to lose 100 or more pounds. Love to you, lady!!!
NatrulyMe
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Hugs, @NatrulyMe.
Just wanted to say your LHCF sisters are with you. You have our every support. Most all of us on the forum are reaching for goals, dealing with obstacles, finances, etc.
We'd love to have you at the monthly progress thread if/when you are ready! I'll link it once I can, if someone doesn't link it first.
There is also a thread for those working to lose 100 or more pounds. Love to you, lady!!!
Yes, I would love to join those threads to help keep me encourage and for support. Hugs. I appreciate your kindness. Thank you.
I did it before (lost 104 lbs) and I can do it again... Although, it is more weight to lose, still...Imma do this for me!!
Honey Bee
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Nah, sis. What's the point of e-fam if they won't let you *itch and moan when you need to?
Our job is to build you back up and send you back out to the world with your mind right. 
NatrulyMe
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Nah, sis. What's the point of e-fam if they won't let you *itch and moan when you need to?
Aww, thanks sis!
Evolving78
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I forgot about the products! I was buying Silicon Mix.I wanna buy some Dominican conditioners but I'm torn cuz, are we still boycotting them for how they treating the Haitians?
I need answers y'all. My soul won't let me enjoy good cheap conditioner while black people getting harassed.
rileypak
Wash Week™ Queen
Paging @Aggie and @IDareT'sHairCreeping the internet looking at hair butters. SheScentIt is looking real yummy. Hit me with those recommendations if you got the time.
I'm a fan of the Marshmallow Herbal Hair Cream myself.
Honey Bee
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I had a whole list and then I was like, 
waaaaaaiiiiiitttt, ain't we mad at them? 
Dominicans, I love you, y'all kept my hair fly throughout my formative years and encouraged me to go natural. A+. But y'all messing up my conditioner game right now, like frfr. Act right and stop abusing them people so my hair (and pockets) can be great.
Nah, sis. What's the point of e-fam if they won't let you *itch and moan when you need to?
This, especially the bolded. All day, every day.
YvetteWithJoy
On break
Nah, sis. What's the point of e-fam if they won't let you *itch and moan when you need to?
Amen and amen, sis.
Tagging @NatrulyMe.
NatrulyMe, here is the thread for those losing 100+ pounds: https://longhaircareforum.com/threads/supporting-those-losing-100lbs-plus.110656/
Here is the current month's "31 Days of Awesome Progress" thread: https://longhaircareforum.com/threads/october-2017-31-days-of-awesome-progress.824887/
You might prefer one over the other, neither, or both!
I know you will do it. That you've done it before is proof. I'm still trying to succeed at getting in 64 oz. of water a day. Lawd!
All I can do is INTEND, PLAN, make it as easy for myself as I possibly can to succeed and as hard as possible for myself to fail, do my best, and love myself whether I succeed or not each day at it. If I can FINALLY get disciplined about that, then so much will improve and I can add the next most beneficial thing. 
Aggie
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Awesome
. I really like that stuff myself.
VictoriousBrownFlower
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I'm still super shocked with this Nexxus shampoo. I took out my twists to redo them and my hair was like butter but it also felt really strong. So now I'm starting to think it's the protein in the shampoo that's turning my hair around.
I've always been heavy on the moisture and light on the protein because 1. I thought I was protein sensitive and 2. we're all taught natural hair is dry. I rarely did protein treatments and when I did it wasn't a hardcore one. i'm thinking my hair was lacking protein at that's why this shampoo is doing my hair so well.
As I was doing my hair I was taking random shed hairs and breaking them apart ( I do that occassionally to test strength) and it was super hard to break. Before I started using the shampoo it broke relatively easy.
I've always been heavy on the moisture and light on the protein because 1. I thought I was protein sensitive and 2. we're all taught natural hair is dry. I rarely did protein treatments and when I did it wasn't a hardcore one. i'm thinking my hair was lacking protein at that's why this shampoo is doing my hair so well.
As I was doing my hair I was taking random shed hairs and breaking them apart ( I do that occassionally to test strength) and it was super hard to break. Before I started using the shampoo it broke relatively easy.
Alma Petra
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Which one of the many nexxus shampoos? Does it strip the hair?
VictoriousBrownFlower
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I'm using nexxus therappe shampoo and it does the opposite of stripping to my hair. Since I've been using it my hair gets softer and softer every time I shampoo. Even before my dc my hair feels like butter using this stuff. My sulfate free shampoo was actually more stripping than this sulfate shampoo. I don't know how that is and it still boggles my mind now because the nexxus shampoo doesn't have cones or anything that would falsely make the hair feel soft.
It's an enigma
Alma Petra
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This is interesting. I want to try it. Anything for soft hair! As you said it might be all the proteins!
VictoriousBrownFlower
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That's the only thing that makes sense to me. I know some proteins actually aid in absorbing moisture.
I also love the fact that there's absolutely nothing in it that would cause build up so it could also be that it removes build up causing the other products to fully enter and nourish the strands. It's like my hair is moisturized from within not just coated with moisture kwim.
It just makes me think that sulfates can be helpful at times. It may be needed at least occassionally to remove the buildup from oils and stuff so your other products can work to full effect.
Alma Petra
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Hmmm but it's definitely more than just the sulphates? My current shampoo is a sulphate one and it's not stripping unless I lather multiple times or too frequently. But it by no means is specially moisturizing.
I was wondering if mineral deposits from hard water can play a role in strand roughness. Could that shampoo be chelating? Not that chelating shampoos such as ORS creamy aloe shampoo are moisturizing on my hair...
But I'm loving that idea of moisture from within. I'll try to get my hands on this shampoo somehow.
Anything else amazing from the same line?
NatrulyMe
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Amen and amen, sis.
Tagging @NatrulyMe.
NatrulyMe, here is the thread for those losing 100+ pounds: https://longhaircareforum.com/threads/supporting-those-losing-100lbs-plus.110656/
Here is the current month's "31 Days of Awesome Progress" thread: https://longhaircareforum.com/threads/october-2017-31-days-of-awesome-progress.824887/
You might prefer one over the other, neither, or both!
I know you will do it. That you've done it before is proof. I'm still trying to succeed at getting in 64 oz. of water a day. Lawd!
Thanks, sis!
I ran across the thread of supporting those losing 100lbs + earlier and posted. Yet, I will check both threads out. Yes, it is going to be a struggle at the beginning (for the first couple of weeks)...I have way more weight to lose this time...Meanwhile, all I can do is try and never give up! This is all what we can do!!
DivineNapps1728
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Been gone for ages, but not much has changed; I'm still the bun queen & I'm still scissor happy
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