nychaelasymone
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Do you think its inappropriate for a 34 yo person to believe their parents should help pay for a wedding? (they..meaning...the parents want you to have)
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runwaydream
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yes. i dont see why not.
unless this isn't their first wedding. then they should hope but not expect
unless this isn't their first wedding. then they should hope but not expect
It is nice if parents OFFER TO PAY. There is no rule that said they have to pay.
Reminds me of Suze Orman, a woman said she would fund her daughter's wedding, white horses, doves and the whole nine. Well the ecomony is bad and the woman is on the verge of bankruptcy and her daughter is planning this elaborate wedding and the woman is afraid to tell her daughter she can't pay for it. The woman was almost in tears. Yall who watch Suze know how she is, she told the woman to tell her daughter, aplogize but tell she just can't afford it. The woman was going to drain her 401k at age 57, that was the only money the woman was sitting on. NO NO in Suze's book.
Reminds me of Suze Orman, a woman said she would fund her daughter's wedding, white horses, doves and the whole nine. Well the ecomony is bad and the woman is on the verge of bankruptcy and her daughter is planning this elaborate wedding and the woman is afraid to tell her daughter she can't pay for it. The woman was almost in tears. Yall who watch Suze know how she is, she told the woman to tell her daughter, aplogize but tell she just can't afford it. The woman was going to drain her 401k at age 57, that was the only money the woman was sitting on. NO NO in Suze's book.
JustKiya
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Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to expect their parents to help pay for their wedding? Yes.
Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to expect their parents to help pay for the wedding that the parents want, but the 34 y/o doesn't? ie 34 wants a small wedding, no more than 50 guests, parents want a big blowout with 250+ guests? No.
Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to ask their parents to help pay for the wedding? Yes.
Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to accept their parents offer to help pay for the wedding? Depending on the parents current financial situation, it could be yes or no.
First wedding or not, by 34 you should not still be going to Mom and Dad with your hand out, I'm sorry.
Are you going to ask them to foot the down-payment on your house, too?
Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to expect their parents to help pay for the wedding that the parents want, but the 34 y/o doesn't? ie 34 wants a small wedding, no more than 50 guests, parents want a big blowout with 250+ guests? No.
Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to ask their parents to help pay for the wedding? Yes.
Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to accept their parents offer to help pay for the wedding? Depending on the parents current financial situation, it could be yes or no.
First wedding or not, by 34 you should not still be going to Mom and Dad with your hand out, I'm sorry.
Are you going to ask them to foot the down-payment on your house, too? 
metro_qt
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Parents really don't owe you anything after the age of 18.
If they've successfully sent you off to higher education and paid for it, their duty is pretty much done, all they now 'owe' you is love.
Buuuuuuuut.. if a 34 year old is having a wedding, and the parents start inviting their friends, and telling the bride and groom who to invite, and which relatives have to sit where..... well then... to get those rights, they should be shelling out.
You only have input in the way a wedding is run if you're helping pay for it.
If they've successfully sent you off to higher education and paid for it, their duty is pretty much done, all they now 'owe' you is love.
Buuuuuuuut.. if a 34 year old is having a wedding, and the parents start inviting their friends, and telling the bride and groom who to invite, and which relatives have to sit where..... well then... to get those rights, they should be shelling out.
You only have input in the way a wedding is run if you're helping pay for it.
nychaelasymone
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that's my delima....if parents start stating who they want to invite and impeding on the decisions of the bride...than I feel they should pay for those folks....outside of that, it's the child's responsiblity to pay
MD_Lady
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I have a "no pay, no say" approach to wedding planning. People who don't contribute money forget that weddings cost money. If you and your future DH are paying 100% of the wedding costs, you should certainly make sure that your guest lists are covered before considering additions. If those additions would put you above your budget, IMO, you have every right to ask your parents to contribute.
