Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to
expect their parents to help pay for their wedding? Yes.
Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to
expect their parents to help pay for the wedding that the parents want, but the 34 y/o doesn't? ie 34 wants a small wedding, no more than 50 guests, parents want a big blowout with 250+ guests? No.
Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to
ask their parents to help pay for the wedding? Yes.
Do I think that it's inappropriate for a 34 y/o to
accept their parents
offer to help pay for the wedding? Depending on the parents current financial situation, it could be yes or no.
First wedding or not, by 34 you should
not still be going to Mom and Dad with your hand out, I'm
sorry. Are you going to ask them to foot the down-payment on your house, too?