TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
...were you attracted to your DH / SO at first?
Here's my latest dilemma (it's always something)
I tried EHarmony (again) and met a...OK... guy. Put it this way. He was the most attractive of the unattractive guys they sent. He's not totally unfortunate looking and his profile seemed halfway decent, so I decided to give him a try (I ain't getting any younger).
Here's the thing. For the most part, he seems like a nice guy. We get along well, and enjoy each other's company, but I am just NOT physically attracted to the guy. There is absolutely no spark or stomach flip. I don't even have a desire to kiss this guy.... That can't be good.
I am REALLY trying not to nit pick in this case, because he really is nice, but he's not doing it for me. Isn't there something to be said about physical attraction?
My latest list of "fix ups": He has about a 30 pound spare tire on his mid section that I would like to see gone. After my first visit to his apartment (not a home owner), it's apparent that his income is probably lower than I'd like it to be. He also drives a car that is about to fall apart, and though he says he's college educated, the man BUTCHERS the English language. We have had conversations, and sometimes some of the words he mispronounces or misuses makes me cringe.
Am I just a stuck up, picky you know what? I am trying to stick around for a bit to see if he grows on me, but should it be this hard?
Is a well educated, gainfully employed, finanacially responsible, physically fit black man with NO KIDS that tall of an order? I'm not asking for anything that I'm not.... this is frustrating...
Here's my latest dilemma (it's always something)
I tried EHarmony (again) and met a...OK... guy. Put it this way. He was the most attractive of the unattractive guys they sent. He's not totally unfortunate looking and his profile seemed halfway decent, so I decided to give him a try (I ain't getting any younger).
Here's the thing. For the most part, he seems like a nice guy. We get along well, and enjoy each other's company, but I am just NOT physically attracted to the guy. There is absolutely no spark or stomach flip. I don't even have a desire to kiss this guy.... That can't be good.
I am REALLY trying not to nit pick in this case, because he really is nice, but he's not doing it for me. Isn't there something to be said about physical attraction?
My latest list of "fix ups": He has about a 30 pound spare tire on his mid section that I would like to see gone. After my first visit to his apartment (not a home owner), it's apparent that his income is probably lower than I'd like it to be. He also drives a car that is about to fall apart, and though he says he's college educated, the man BUTCHERS the English language. We have had conversations, and sometimes some of the words he mispronounces or misuses makes me cringe.
Am I just a stuck up, picky you know what? I am trying to stick around for a bit to see if he grows on me, but should it be this hard?
Is a well educated, gainfully employed, finanacially responsible, physically fit black man with NO KIDS that tall of an order? I'm not asking for anything that I'm not.... this is frustrating...