MrsBKJ
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My partner and I have been together for over ten years and were due to get married this December but I have put plans on hold because he is really getting on my nerves.
I have helped him with it coped with it for a long time and then ignored it and then tried to help him again but I am really not getting anywhere. He says he will do things and then it never gets done...and I mean never. I just say "Don't worry about it". But i'm gettin tired of saying it and he thinks its funny when I bring it up. He just says "It's a work in progress" but all the little things are really beginning to bug me out, calls are late emails are late or non existent letters I gave up on, he says its because of the six hour time difference and by the time he is up and sorted my day is ending and he cant get around to things...my argument is when I'm asleep you can be doing these things if you promise me them right? He missed my birthday this year we dont do the card and pressie thing...well I told him not to several years ago because I was tired of being disappointed when it was a no show every time. But this year he didn't even call well he called very early the next morning with the six our delay being used again.
Ive told him he doesn't respect me or my time and thats why he does what he does. He was very hurt by that but didnt make any changes.
Any ideas as to what I can do?
Thanks
I have helped him with it coped with it for a long time and then ignored it and then tried to help him again but I am really not getting anywhere. He says he will do things and then it never gets done...and I mean never. I just say "Don't worry about it". But i'm gettin tired of saying it and he thinks its funny when I bring it up. He just says "It's a work in progress" but all the little things are really beginning to bug me out, calls are late emails are late or non existent letters I gave up on, he says its because of the six hour time difference and by the time he is up and sorted my day is ending and he cant get around to things...my argument is when I'm asleep you can be doing these things if you promise me them right? He missed my birthday this year we dont do the card and pressie thing...well I told him not to several years ago because I was tired of being disappointed when it was a no show every time. But this year he didn't even call well he called very early the next morning with the six our delay being used again.
Ive told him he doesn't respect me or my time and thats why he does what he does. He was very hurt by that but didnt make any changes.
Any ideas as to what I can do?
Thanks