pre-nup for the average joe?

[beebellkel]

Any ladies who aren't wealthy have pre-nups? Yea it may seem.weird that a female would be the one who wants a pre-nu buttt People can get really ugly during divorce and try to be mean just for the sake of being hateful.sooo I was thinking eventhough we dont have beyonce and jay-z flow that deciding how everything should go while you have a "level head" is the responsible thing to do because my thought process is it will make sure that the process goes by smooth so both parties can move on and heal as quickly as possible. Am I over thinking? Any "average" folk have pre-nups,discussed it or had one and gotten a divorce. Please share your thoughts

 

[LadyChe]

Op, I honestly don't know of anyone without sizeable assets that has a pre-nup. Why bother?
To be honest, most of the people I do know don't have them either, as most of the wealth was gained during the marriage.

 

[ladysaraii]

I believe in pre-nups and I plan to get one if I get married.

I think it makes sense to think about division of assets while you still like each other. Also, I think it makes sense for people who get married later in life b/c you have accumulated more.

For example, I have a house. So that's something I want to make is protected.

 

[meesch]

I am not very familiar with the subject but just as a broad stroke, I would think a pre-nup would be beneficial even when nobody is rich... because if you are divorced, doesn't it mean you basically walk away with what you came in with? seems like a worthwhile endeavor to me... just because most people don't do it because it seems silly wouldn't be a good enough reason for me to be like "eh, whatever."

 

[Bublin]

I think it's worthing thinking about.
I know a couple of women who owned a house, sold it and put in the majority share to buy a house with their husband/partner. When they split my friends nearly lost it all.

Also one of those friends met someone else and bought a house with her current SO. She told him what happened to her and they went to a solicitor and drew up papers stating how much each of them put into the house. Not exactly a pre-nup but it is some kind of security.

If you have children from a previous relationship you also have to consider their future. As much as you love and trust this man, your kids come first.

 

[UrbainChic]

Pre-nups can also protect your future earnings. I'm an advocate, and i've been called unromantic for it ( unsurprisingly only by other women). I like to say, you get car isurance for your car but you don't PLAN to get into an accident, you get health insurance but you dont PLAN to get very sick, so just the same you should get a pre-nup because it doesnt mean you are PLANning for a divorce.

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[B_Phlyy]

Pre-nups can also protect your future earnings. I'm an advocate, and i've been called unromantic for it ( unsurprisingly only by other women). I like to say, you get car isurance for your car but you don't PLAN to get into an accident, you get health insurance but you dont PLAN to get very sick, so just the same you should get a pre-nup because it doesnt mean you are PLANning for a divorce.

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I may not be wealthy today, but that doesn't mean I won't be wealthy some day. I believe in pre-nups and will be getting one should I marry.

And I never thought about the previously owned property thing you ladies mentioned. But that could be because I've never wanted to own my own house.

 

[Bun Mistress]

Very important. I know too many women that have paid out men and they are teachers and social workers. Pre-nup get yours my friend.

 

[beebellkel]

I may not be wealthy today, but that doesn't mean I won't be wealthy some day. I believe in pre-nups and will be getting one should I marry.

And I never thought about the previously owned property thing you ladies mentioned. But that could be because I've never wanted to own my own house.

Truueeee!!!!

 

[tallygirl]

IMO, anyone considering marriage should have a pre-nup. Pre-nups are not only for the wealthy. If your intended spouse has debt and you want to be sure his debt problems don't become yours, then a pre-nup is in order. Also if you have children from a previous relationship and you want to be sure certain assets, etc. are passed on to them rather than your spouse, then a pre-nup is in order. And as mentioned earlier, what if you become wealthy in the future? Then, a pre-nup is in order if you don’t want to potentially share your new wealth with your spose (in the form of support should you divorce).

 

[belleama]

I had a prenup with my first marriage because I had a child before I met him and wanted to make sure that she was protected. Everything I did leading up to meeting and marrying him was for her. She shouldn't be punished later in life just because he and I don't stay together. My daughter and I will be together forever so I have to think about her.

 

[naturalmanenyc]

A good friend and her husband have a post-nuptial agreement (pre-nup but drafted after the wedding). Neither had a lot of assets at the time but she said it was a "just in case" agreement so she did not take all his stuff and leave him homeless in the event of a divorce. lol lol

 

[beebellkel]

I had a prenup with my first marriage because I had a child before I met him and wanted to make sure that she was protected. Everything I did leading up to meeting and marrying him was for her. She shouldn't be punished later in life just because he and I don't stay together. My daughter and I will be together forever so I have to think about her.

Was the pre-nup expensive. What steps do you take?

 

[beebellkel]

IMO, anyone considering marriage should have a pre-nup. Pre-nups are not only for the wealthy. If your intended spouse has debt and you want to be sure his debt problems don't become yours, then a pre-nup is in order. Also if you have children from a previous relationship and you want to be sure certain assets, etc. are passed on to them rather than your spouse, then a pre-nup is in order. And as mentioned earlier, what if you become wealthy in the future? Then, a pre-nup is in order if you don’t want to potentially share your new wealth with your spose (in the form of support should you divorce).

Wow! I didnt know that a pre-nup could protect you from taking on the other persons debt

 

[R4L]

one of my friends wishes she had gotten one. she is waiting for her husband to drink himself to death. He no longer works and she earns six figures and feels stuck.