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BronzyBella
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Honestly, I found alot of non-blackmen on there to be testing the waters for the first time. It was cool because I liked the free drinks,meals,concerts and interesting characters.I'm still friends with one male from there.
Exactly, exactly, exactly!
I had the same experience. I got tons of emails for some reason and the majority of them weren't from black men. Most of the white men were a little older than me (early 30s, while I was mid 20s) and some of them would admit that they'd never been with a black woman before.
I got the same cliche comments over and over again. A few people said that I was the perfect complexion, which was kinda offensive, because it's like, "okay, if I'm not too light and not too dark, what happens when I tan?". A few of them said that they "like" the Carribean culture (I'm Carribean background but Canadian born. I never said I cook West-Indian food or go to West-Indian clubs/jams, speak patois or whatever stereo-type they have in their head.) Lastly, it would always irk me when someone said, "I don't see color" because if they didn't see color, why would they even bring it up, sometimes repeatedly?
Basically, I spoke to about 3 people over the phone, but never met up with them in person.
dinanicole
New Member
new update.
so im talking to this ethiopian cat.
I think he's pretty cool so far.
will up date...H'es cute to 6'1 and muscular.
mmmmmmm
we shall see.....
so im talking to this ethiopian cat.
I think he's pretty cool so far.
will up date...H'es cute to 6'1 and muscular.
mmmmmmm
we shall see.....
dinanicole
New Member
Ok. so I really like this guy! 
We are going on our first date tomorrow 
to a hookah bar !
I'm excited. We've spoken every day since he messaged me on pof.
Maybe this will go somewhere maybe it won't but I really love the conversations that we have.
The past 3 nights we've spoken for hours on end on the phone and on skype.
I think I have a true blue crush. !!
We are going on our first date tomorrow to a hookah bar !I'm excited. We've spoken every day since he messaged me on pof.
Maybe this will go somewhere maybe it won't but I really love the conversations that we have.
The past 3 nights we've spoken for hours on end on the phone and on skype.
I think I have a true blue crush. !!
Ind. man accused of intentionally spreading AIDS to hundreds
Posted on February 21, 2010 at 8:34 PM
Updated yesterday at 10:36 PM
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A Greenwood, Indiana man is in jail on accusations that he knowingly and intentionally spread the AIDS virus to hundreds of women.
A SWAT team arrested Tony Perkins Friday night on a felony charge including one count of intimidation.
Investigators say Perkins used the web site PlentyofFish.com to find the majority of his victims.
But police didn't know about the case until one of Perkins’s ex-girlfriends came forward despite allegedly receiving death threats from Perkins.
She did not want her identity revealed.
“Maybe I was the angel to stop the anti-Christ. His quotes were, ‘a whore gave it to me, so if a whore wants to sleep with me on the first night, she deserves what she gets,’” said Perkins’ ex-girlfriend.
Perkins is in a Johnson County, Indiana jail on a $9000 bond.
Posted on February 21, 2010 at 8:34 PM
Updated yesterday at 10:36 PM
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A Greenwood, Indiana man is in jail on accusations that he knowingly and intentionally spread the AIDS virus to hundreds of women.
A SWAT team arrested Tony Perkins Friday night on a felony charge including one count of intimidation.
Investigators say Perkins used the web site PlentyofFish.com to find the majority of his victims.
But police didn't know about the case until one of Perkins’s ex-girlfriends came forward despite allegedly receiving death threats from Perkins.
She did not want her identity revealed.
“Maybe I was the angel to stop the anti-Christ. His quotes were, ‘a whore gave it to me, so if a whore wants to sleep with me on the first night, she deserves what she gets,’” said Perkins’ ex-girlfriend.
Perkins is in a Johnson County, Indiana jail on a $9000 bond.
southernstyle
New Member
Ok. so I really like this guy!
I'm excited. We've spoken every day since he messaged me on pof.
Maybe this will go somewhere maybe it won't but I really love the conversations that we have.
The past 3 nights we've spoken for hours on end on the phone and on skype.
I think I have a true blue crush. !!
Good for you! Keep us updated. I hope all goes well.
GeorginaSparks
Well-Known Member
Yup.....that site is mostly bad news.
Ind. man accused of intentionally spreading AIDS to hundreds
Posted on February 21, 2010 at 8:34 PM
Updated yesterday at 10:36 PM
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Gallery
See all 6 photos »
A Greenwood, Indiana man is in jail on accusations that he knowingly and intentionally spread the AIDS virus to hundreds of women.
A SWAT team arrested Tony Perkins Friday night on a felony charge including one count of intimidation.
Investigators say Perkins used the web site PlentyofFish.com to find the majority of his victims.
But police didn't know about the case until one of Perkins’s ex-girlfriends came forward despite allegedly receiving death threats from Perkins.
She did not want her identity revealed.
“Maybe I was the angel to stop the anti-Christ. His quotes were, ‘a whore gave it to me, so if a whore wants to sleep with me on the first night, she deserves what she gets,’” said Perkins’ ex-girlfriend.
Perkins is in a Johnson County, Indiana jail on a $9000 bond.
I had not heard anything good or bad about the site until I saw this story on the news. That guy must be a serious head case.
NYLegalNewbie
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I think these basic safety tidbits go a long way:
Do not give out personal information beyond your first name until he gives you more information about him. Most guys who are real gentlemen COMPLETELY understand a woman's wariness about being with a strange guy. In fact, the good/nice ones will actually offer up a lot of information about themselves so you can check them out, without you even having to ask. My ex (while he was eventually discovered to be a jerk in other areas) sent me a link to his professional website, which divulged all kinds of information about him (where he was from, his education, current employment, past employment, etc, etc.).
Always meet at a place or in an area that you are very familiar with and is well populated. Try to meet during the day or early evening.
Avoid consumption of alcohol. If you do drink, be sure to drink lightly (one to two drinks, if that).
This should be obvious, but do NOT go over to his place until you feel comfortable with him. And, newsflash, comfort generally doesn't happen on the first date!!!
And finally, make sure your friends know what you're up to. You don't necessarily have to call to check in, but let them know you're going out on a date that night.
'Tis all for now.
Do not give out personal information beyond your first name until he gives you more information about him. Most guys who are real gentlemen COMPLETELY understand a woman's wariness about being with a strange guy. In fact, the good/nice ones will actually offer up a lot of information about themselves so you can check them out, without you even having to ask. My ex (while he was eventually discovered to be a jerk in other areas) sent me a link to his professional website, which divulged all kinds of information about him (where he was from, his education, current employment, past employment, etc, etc.).
Always meet at a place or in an area that you are very familiar with and is well populated. Try to meet during the day or early evening.
Avoid consumption of alcohol. If you do drink, be sure to drink lightly (one to two drinks, if that).
This should be obvious, but do NOT go over to his place until you feel comfortable with him. And, newsflash, comfort generally doesn't happen on the first date!!!
And finally, make sure your friends know what you're up to. You don't necessarily have to call to check in, but let them know you're going out on a date that night.
'Tis all for now.
isawstars
Well-Known Member
I met a hottie on pof. we had great chemistry we met up and spent all day together. i've never felt so comfortable with a stranger before. and well a week after meeting up his ex gf begged him to take her back and he did *sigh* oh well. i've cancelled my account though. all the other times didn't go past texting.
Kalani
Well-Known Member
This is almost the exact same scenario I experienced when I was e-harmony. I deleted my account soon after and lost interest in online dating until I recently read this thread and thought I'd give it a go one more time.
Anyway, there are some interesting people with some crazy profiles! Most amusing profile quote so far "if you were mine, I'd treat you like homework. I'd slam you on the table and probably fall asleep drooling".
It was from a quirky little white dude.BlackHairDiva
Well-Known Member
I didnt have a good experience with POF. But then again I'm using the site fromt eh Canadian side and well...Not worth it. I just have this overwhelming gut feeling the dating scene is better on the other side of the border(USA).
sky_blu
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Ok, from the feedback I see that Im not alone. My friend told me about this site and I signed up thinking there were black guys, which they were BUT they were not the ones messaging me. I only get notes from white guys and it seems as if theyre testing the waters and Im not trying to test those waters yet.
Kalani
Well-Known Member
Okay so far I'm liking okcupid much better than plentyoffish. There are actual some pretty good prospects...or at least so it seems. Time will tell cause we all know what we see on the profile doesn't always tell the whole story, lol! But I really like the features on okcupid. It allows for more control on your searches and who can contact you, and the tests featured are fun and seem useful. Pretty good for being a free site!
Sapphire
kinks n curls girl
POF sucked for me... I received a lot of messages, mostly from white men which wouldn't have been a problem if they were at least attractive. I've given up on the online dating thing all together. I think success with online dating really depends on your location. When I move I might consider trying it again.
NYLegalNewbie
New Member
This is actually rather true. If you live in a big city, your prospects are WAYYY better with online dating.
For instance, if you live in New York, OKCupid is a fantastic site because the site is well known and people really enjoy it as a great free alternative to match.com.
makeupgirl
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I just signed up for pof and since just got 1 msg. The guy is black but looks hood. I'm picky now for a reason now because I'm learning not to settle. I'm hoping I made the right decision to go on this site.
Gemini Division
New Member
POF seems to be hit or miss. I've met a few nice people on there but in general the guys seem to be the bottom of the barrel, just looking for some "fun time", or wicked cute and majorly creepy..... as in they are way to touch feely trying to rush things after one or two dates. In the end, it's free and definitely worth a try. I prefer OKCupid
rayness
New Member
I did not have a good experience on POF. I kept getting messages from White guys in my area wanting to hook up and not for a date either. I was very clear in my profile and I did not have any revealing pictures posted. I have dated outside of my race before but was not looking to be a B**** call. I was dating a man I meet on Black People Meet but the distance hurt us. I just bought a house in my area and I did not want to move and he didn't want to move up here because he had high paying job and a condo that he just bought. It was too bad because this man was beyond fine. We were back and forth between cities. Oh well I am still looking but for men in my area.
Gemini Division
New Member
This exactly. Too many of the guys on POF were major pervs looking for a quick lay.
BroadstreetBully
New Member
Meh, where I am most of the guys are indeed 'bottom of the barrel'. Glad to see it is working out for others, though.
Aisling~Siahbon
Member
I recently created an account there but, I havn't been very active yet.. I did seem that there were a lot of white men, and signle farthers. Even though I have not put up a picture yet Ive gotton some decent messages. I chatted with one guy, he was white he was nice but, he made some sterotipical comments about black people. I didn't like. I've dated more white than black in the past espec. in HS ( lately I can't get a date but I digress) And, I've never really had a lot of issues but, there is def. somthing up with these guys. I haven't put a pic up so, I'm still going to continue to try it.
I put up a profile on international cupid! I'm excited b/c Ive gotten some good interest. But, you can't really do anything unless one of you is a paying member and eveyone that I ve had mutal interest in isn't a paying member either. (I don't like to wast my money) SO, I'm going to see if I can get at least 7 promising interest. Then I might throw is some bucks and hope for the best. I'm excited about this site though
I put up a profile on international cupid! I'm excited b/c Ive gotten some good interest. But, you can't really do anything unless one of you is a paying member and eveyone that I ve had mutal interest in isn't a paying member either. (I don't like to wast my money) SO, I'm going to see if I can get at least 7 promising interest. Then I might throw is some bucks and hope for the best. I'm excited about this site though
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makeupgirl
Well-Known Member
Ok, so how weird is this. I just put up a profile on pof tuesday and I've gotten 3 responses so far. However, one of them is my ex-boyfriend. We've been on and off for 10 years now but wow, it's weird that every dating site I go to we meet each other again. I will always love my ex but we're not together because he's a buddist, at least the last time I checked he was and I'm a born again Christian so as much as I love him, will always love him, I can't be with him unless God says so.