Dainah
New Member
Well, after stretching since July 1 (and disovering LHCF the following week), I buckled and went in for a touch-up tonight at a new place on the rec of a sis I met shopping the other day; she had gorgeous hair. Long story short; I left the salon in tears. It seems as though all my hard work went down the drain. Some high points:
-I 'cheated' on my former stylist b/c she would have taken out 1/2 my hair in the neutralizing and combing out process as she likes to start detangling from root to the tip! And also, she was beginning to look a bit shady to me as I don't think I've ever seen her hair longer than 3 inches in the almost two years I've been going to her. She was very nice, though and the business is fam-owned, had no drama and gave speedy service.
-I think this new stylist over-processed my already relaxed hair by running the perm through my entire head of hair. When I pointed it out to her, her reply was that the hair/perm is time-sensitive and that it doesn't matter if relaxer touches the old growth.
-Upon drying, I told her that I'm still suffering from severe p.t.s.d. from former stylists who have been up in my hair and not treating it correctly. She said that I could use a trim and measured out that she would only cut
------- much, but the strands I saw were as long as --------------------much!!!
-stylist THEN said that practically ALL of my hair (with the exception of the new growth) needs at some point to be taken off. after styling, she said that she shouldn't be able to see through good, healthy hair, and THEN she couldn't tell if my hair was just thin after relaxing or just damaged.
An hour and a half later, I'm still tearing up and sniffling like somebody shot my dog. I sure could use some help here. For almost 10 years, I've been trying to get past shoulder length and all the overprocessing, scissor-happy, hair-hating folks have REALLY made me want to give in and up!
PLEASE, will you informed, educated ladies out there explain/advise the following:
-overprocessing. Is what the stylist told me the truth or yet another 'hair-lie'?
-Someone who really knows and administers dustings, or step-by-step instructions as to how to do it myself.
-a GOOD reputable stylist in the B-more area (will travel up to 1 hour) who knows how to give a good touch up? I would even travel to see one of you ladies who self-relax (because you have a proven record/photos and KNOW what the goal here is.)
OR
-Chapter and verse details on how to self relax. I'm awfully inept with the chemicals and really have to be baby-stepped through it.
I'd really appreciate if someone could take me by the hand and lead the novice out of the valley of the shadow of hair death.
Thanks for your time and attention,
-Dainah
-I 'cheated' on my former stylist b/c she would have taken out 1/2 my hair in the neutralizing and combing out process as she likes to start detangling from root to the tip! And also, she was beginning to look a bit shady to me as I don't think I've ever seen her hair longer than 3 inches in the almost two years I've been going to her. She was very nice, though and the business is fam-owned, had no drama and gave speedy service.
-I think this new stylist over-processed my already relaxed hair by running the perm through my entire head of hair. When I pointed it out to her, her reply was that the hair/perm is time-sensitive and that it doesn't matter if relaxer touches the old growth.
-Upon drying, I told her that I'm still suffering from severe p.t.s.d. from former stylists who have been up in my hair and not treating it correctly. She said that I could use a trim and measured out that she would only cut
------- much, but the strands I saw were as long as --------------------much!!!
-stylist THEN said that practically ALL of my hair (with the exception of the new growth) needs at some point to be taken off. after styling, she said that she shouldn't be able to see through good, healthy hair, and THEN she couldn't tell if my hair was just thin after relaxing or just damaged.
An hour and a half later, I'm still tearing up and sniffling like somebody shot my dog. I sure could use some help here. For almost 10 years, I've been trying to get past shoulder length and all the overprocessing, scissor-happy, hair-hating folks have REALLY made me want to give in and up!
PLEASE, will you informed, educated ladies out there explain/advise the following:
-overprocessing. Is what the stylist told me the truth or yet another 'hair-lie'?
-Someone who really knows and administers dustings, or step-by-step instructions as to how to do it myself.
-a GOOD reputable stylist in the B-more area (will travel up to 1 hour) who knows how to give a good touch up? I would even travel to see one of you ladies who self-relax (because you have a proven record/photos and KNOW what the goal here is.)
OR
-Chapter and verse details on how to self relax. I'm awfully inept with the chemicals and really have to be baby-stepped through it.
I'd really appreciate if someone could take me by the hand and lead the novice out of the valley of the shadow of hair death.
Thanks for your time and attention,
-Dainah
