guccip1010
New Member
I have a question to ask and i need some opinions. My bf of a year asked me a question. This question turned a bit ugly and we havent spoken for a day (which is rare for us cause we talk every single day). We were driving in the car and he turned to me and jokingly said, "someone (meaning me) told me that after the new year, they would help me clean the house on the weekends." Yes I did say this, but because of recent arguments, i have been reluctant to staying at his house often, so i dont even get a chance to clean. And if i do stay over his house, its' late, and i am NOT about to start cleaning his house at 7,8,9 oclock at night. That's a NONO!
But it upsetted me to hear him say that as a woman, i should have the sense to see if the sheets on the bed, need to be changed, i should do it. And that how I can just come over to his house and sleep on the same sheets thats been on the bed for the last week or two.
I defensively said to him, " Im hardly ever at your house these days, so if you go home and see the sheets need to be changed, DONT wait for me to come over and express to me the issue about the sheets. And that also goes for the cleaning.
I was so heated with him. I have never lived with a man before. He on the other hand has lived with a female before. So, im thinking he was probably used to her ways of keeping a house.
His thing is he is a provider and i should be keeping on point with cooking and cleaning. He also said that because he doesnt see that side of me, he is reluctant to giving me a key. A part of me doesnt care that i dont have a key and another part does.
I've done the cooking and cleaning at his place , in the past, so im a lil confused at his statements. I have no problems doing the domestic things, I actually like doing it sometimes, but if i dont live in the same household as my bf, am i obligated to doing the domestic things? Am i wrong for feeling this way?
But it upsetted me to hear him say that as a woman, i should have the sense to see if the sheets on the bed, need to be changed, i should do it. And that how I can just come over to his house and sleep on the same sheets thats been on the bed for the last week or two.
I defensively said to him, " Im hardly ever at your house these days, so if you go home and see the sheets need to be changed, DONT wait for me to come over and express to me the issue about the sheets. And that also goes for the cleaning.
I was so heated with him. I have never lived with a man before. He on the other hand has lived with a female before. So, im thinking he was probably used to her ways of keeping a house.
His thing is he is a provider and i should be keeping on point with cooking and cleaning. He also said that because he doesnt see that side of me, he is reluctant to giving me a key. A part of me doesnt care that i dont have a key and another part does.
I've done the cooking and cleaning at his place , in the past, so im a lil confused at his statements. I have no problems doing the domestic things, I actually like doing it sometimes, but if i dont live in the same household as my bf, am i obligated to doing the domestic things? Am i wrong for feeling this way?