I was having this same problem until I discovered Sally's Good day hair pins (thank-you ladies!) . With these I can roll my MBL hair into a bun without having to use a pony tail holder. A satin scarf ensures that I won't have any puffiness even if I'm in the middle of a stretch. The only thing I do is to rub some extra oil on the area where the hair bends to lubricate it.
This is really helping my breakage!