Past Relationships

[butterfly_wings]

Hi Ladies

Quick question

I am just wondering do you talk about past relationships with you SO?

xx

 

[Everything Zen]

Yes and in fact we both do- mostly highlighting how bad they were.

 

[bLackButtaFly]

Yes we both discuss them, not in a ton of nauseating detail, but I like to keep that stuff open.

 

[lexi08]

I would only discuss my most recent relationship prior to my SO and my ex-husband. I don't feel anything more is necessary.

 

[ladylibra]

we hashed out all that stuff while we were "friends" (before we actually started dating)... i kinda know more than i think i wanted to.

but hey, it's all out on the table...

 

[foxxymami]

Hi Ladies

Quick question

I am just wondering do you talk about past relationships with you SO?

xx

If you mean like do we talk about them throughout the relationship, no not really.

We discussed the whens, whys, and hows when we were getting to know each other. The topic of past relationships are not banned whatsoever, but there really isn't any particular reason to talk about them now

 

[butterfly_wings]

Ok Thanks

My SO was constantly asking about my ex's and apparently I kept changing my story, I figured out I done this to spare his feeling which he didn't like so now we are both banned from talking about our ex's as it tend to lead to an argument which is what happened yesterday, I think it is best this way all that matter is we are other now the past is the past

Thanks for answering ladies

 

[drasgrl]

When we first started the relationship yes. Now four years in, no because he can't handle it. I don't mind talking about past relationships I see nothing wrong with it, in fact I want to know because I'm curious nothing else. I can't even talk about my old guy friends without him acting crazy so I don't do it anymore.

 

[Phoenix14]

Yes we're totally open with each other.

 

[Ramya]

Yes and it's one of those things that I'm glad we did but I wish we hadn't. i don't need to know everything.

 

[TLC1020]

Not if he don't ask, I told him I don't make a habit of bringing my past relationship into my future relationships. If guys ask what happened I usually say it didn't work out, we wanted different paths out of life.

 

[Syrah]

Hi Ladies

Quick question

I am just wondering do you talk about past relationships with you SO?

xx

No.

...and if I was with a dude who talked a lot about his past relationships (good or bad), would concern me. BAGGAGE.

 

[vestaluv1]

Yes... we were around each others ex's all the time before we started a relationship... long story. I've met a few of his. He's met a few of mine ... The past is the past and the future is the future.

 

[Demi27]

I voted no because I don't really talk about my old relationships. I don't because when I did talk about my old relationships in the past (with other guys I had dated), if something went wrong between us, sometimes they would bring up things that I told them about my past relationships. I decided I didn't want to go through that again. Now, I just keep it to myself. If it's something dire that he just must know, then I will do so.

He volunteers info about his. I just listen, but try not to past judgement.

 

[sky_blu]

Nope! Its a relationship killer. I dont do it and I dont like guys who do it because 1) If they are talking about their ex too much they more than likely are not over them 2) It irks me that you could still think about your ex if your with me because of the reason in #1. They should be over them. I dont like to dwell on the past (well not too much) and its like why??

 

[carcajada]

Yes we do. I DO NOT RECOMMEND ANY WOMAN DO THIS.

 

[MD_Lady]

We talked about the drama we experienced in the past that drove us to each other. There are also times when someone's name comes up in conversation. For instance, if we are making a purchase one of us might say "so and so had that TV and didn't like the picture quality, we should probably pass...".

 

[xxCami]

hmm we talk but to a minimum.
b.c i get angry sometimes.. lol
and he uses what i say against me in the long run..
or he takes something and runs with it.

lol
but I think its hella funny...b.c it be stupid things...

 

[JustKiya]

Yes, usually it comes up in random conversation, as we are talking about something else we get on the topic of ex's - it usually ends up being hilarious.

*shrug* Has never been a big thing - we love each other for who we are today, and our past experiences have shaped the people that we have become and the expectations that we have for a relationship.

We're married, and I think that makes a difference. I never talked about ex's with boyfriends - at all. They weren't going to be in my life long enough to need to know all of that.

 

[DMJ's Mom]

I only talk about my one of my past relationships because that's when I got my girls (puppies) and usually only if I'm telling him a story about them or talking about getting another pet other than that not really. He talks about his more since its the mother of his children

 

[daydreem2876]

No... unless I have having a bad day. My previous relationship was particularly bad and abusive but I do not make a point of discussing it. I have made him aware of the basics. I have my moments about it, he is there to support me, but actually going into detail, I dont because I do not want it to poison this relationship.

I really don't want to know about his last relationships, and frankly, they are none of my business

 

[Poohbear]

we hashed out all that stuff while we were "friends" (before we actually started dating)... i kinda know more than i think i wanted to.

but hey, it's all out on the table...

Same here man, woooo! My current boyfriend let me know more about his past than anyone I've ever been with before, and it has been something else to just take that all in and just accept it for what it is. But I'm glad it's all out on the table and we know the deal as far as the present and future.