I voted previously cover it up and never gave it a single thought but had an intering experience w/ Dh and wanted to share. Don't under estimate to effect of your tresses on your man. I guess your take things for granted after being married for a while.
So, I wore my hair in its usual braidout, fade to loose messy bun. Wash day is Friday night into Sat. so by Friday my hair is a tangled HAM, cute but HAM, by my standards. Anyway, last Sat., I did a DC treatment w/ avocado, EVOO, honey and 1 egg. My NG has never felt this soft and supple a full week after wash day with no additional moisturizing. So, I’m standing in the mirror detangling my dry hair (I never detangle except in the shower w/ lots of slippy condish). However, my hair was practically free of tangles and there was very little shedding. After about 10 min of easy detangling, I have big, bodacious hair that is still shiny and bouncy. I’m in awe and feeling pretty good about the condition of my hair, when DH sticks his head in the master bath.
Now mind you, I’m supposed to be sprucing up for a coloring session, so he was checking on my progress. He doesn’t get to see my hair down and flowing often so his reaction was “Wow”!
Dialogue
DH: WOW! Love the hair, Ree! I was expecting cupcake girl! (pineapple the braidout and put on a satin cap – wala, I look like a cup cake. Get it? LOL)
Me: LOL! She’s in here somewhere.
DH: Do I get to play in your hair tonight
Me: Sure! I’ll leave it down
DH: (bug-eyed) Really! (face flushes) I look down and flashlight appears in his lounge pants (sorry TMI)
Me: Wow! Is it that serious?
DH: I’ll break it down for you later. Just hurry-up!
So, after coloring dialogue
DH: Wow, I’m not sure who I just colored with. It was crazy looking at you with all your hair out. I feel like I should be guilty. I appreciate that you have to do more with your hair than say my sister (DH is Caucasian). And I love watching the process. And I understand why you cover your hair but sometimes it’s just nice to have you like this. You don’t understand. I love your hair. When will you be done…searches for the word..
Me: Transitioning? Soon, Honey. 6 months or so.
DH: Then you’ll let me play in your hair more?
Me: Sure, Honey. I wish I knew it was that much of a turn on.
DH: blushes… I’m a simple man, Ree….blah, blah,blah
Anyway, the long and short of it is, even though I know DH loves me no matter the state of my hair, I think I will make more of an effort to give him more access to it. Cupcake girl needs a break more often.
A little long winded, sorry