phynestone
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http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=24894977>1=32023
I really enjoyed the advice provided by all of the couples.
I really enjoyed the advice provided by all of the couples.
Nice article about marraige
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I am loving this.
Advice? I wish someone had told me in my young life that I didn't have to carry all the weight in my relationship. That was what happened in my failed first marriage. I was a "nobody can do it better than I can" person, but half the time I was wishing someone else would take it away.
Advice? I wish someone had told me in my young life that I didn't have to carry all the weight in my relationship. That was what happened in my failed first marriage. I was a "nobody can do it better than I can" person, but half the time I was wishing someone else would take it away.
caribeandiva
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I'm like this too. I'm changing this right now. Great advice!
phynestone
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A few comments that stood out:
Choose your battles and understand that as you change, your mate also changes. You have to involve yourself in different activities and hobbies so you don't become boring, and you have to realize that you don't marry one person — you marry the entire family.
Supporting each other is really important. It's so easy to be disrespectful. I would sometimes be critical or snide, and he would call me on it. Now I know him well enough not to say things in ways that are going to hurt him. If it's important to me, I say it nicely.
Keep everybody else out of your business. That's huge. If you need counseling, get an impartial person — not someone on his side of the family or one of your girlfriends. When the deal goes down at night, it's just the two of you.
I think I'm going to subscribe to this thread as well. There's a lot of helpful information in it.
Choose your battles and understand that as you change, your mate also changes. You have to involve yourself in different activities and hobbies so you don't become boring, and you have to realize that you don't marry one person — you marry the entire family.
Supporting each other is really important. It's so easy to be disrespectful. I would sometimes be critical or snide, and he would call me on it. Now I know him well enough not to say things in ways that are going to hurt him. If it's important to me, I say it nicely.
Keep everybody else out of your business. That's huge. If you need counseling, get an impartial person — not someone on his side of the family or one of your girlfriends. When the deal goes down at night, it's just the two of you.
I think I'm going to subscribe to this thread as well. There's a lot of helpful information in it.
This is what I need to heed. My husband says this all the time. However, I don't talkoutside of family (mine or his) and typically what I share is no big deal, but he doesn't like it. But isn't that what family does...especially if they're sharing CRAZY unfiltered stuff (which I would NEVER do because I'm not that candid and there really isn't much to say)about their marriages??
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