Newbie in distress

[kayjae]

Hi Ladies,

I happened upon this site after endless searching on how to "fix" my hair....I must say just from reading forums over the past few days, I feel like I will get some great advice and even better results. Here is the hair trauma that I have experienced. I have been or should I say had been natural since birth but constantly struggled in my high school and college years with growing and maintaining my very thick and curly hair. Last month, in an effort to "manage" my curls I asked my mom to apply the jfm "texture softener" to my hair. needless to say it didn't work. a lot of my hair ended up straight, some is wavy and the most coarse parts seem as though nothing was done at all. It is a mess with all these textures on my head and I don't know what to do. I miss my old natural hair and want it back. after 22 yrs of natural hair this is the worst thing that ever happened to it. PLEASE help I don't know how to properly care for this mess of straight/curly hair and don't want to further "ruin" it. Any suggestions on what to do to bring it back/grow it out would be great. I wish i found this site before I thought JFM was a great idea. I just figured with no chemicals ever being in my hair that it wouldn't hurt much...but make it manageable....boy was I wrong

 

[tiffers]

Welcome to LHCF!!!

Well, you can always wait one or two weeks and do a corrective relaxer. OR you can slowly transition back to natural OR just chop it all off (bc or big chop) and start from scratch with a TWA (teeny weeny afro)

Until you figure out which route you wanna go, make sure to keep your hair well moisturized and just keep it bunned up so you won't have to think about and stress about it so much

 

[KAT25]

I totally agree with Tiffers keep that moisture up!! Maybe you can use some Scurl or something at night

 

[kayjae]

Thanks Tiffers & Kat25....Im really at a loss as to what to do. I have been trying to keep it moisturized, but should I be doing something different for the straight ends? It is very frustrating. I have been wearing it up in a knot and covering it at night to avoid further damage but coming through what is left of my natural hair is harder than usual with the multiple textures. I was thinking maybe just relax what is left of my natural hair and starting over...I guess transitioning to what I had before. I don't want to do a BC because I obsess over length SO whatever I do I want to maintain length for as long as possible.

 

[drasgrl]

 

[kayjae]

bumping.......

 

[Platinum]

Welcome! I'm sure some to the Ladies here can help with all of your questions.