New *2010* Transitioners Support Thread!

[FlawedBeauty]

lmfaoooooooooooo this is too funny because I thought about just choppin off the front earlier today lol. i started snippin off lil pieces in the front

On the 31st I will be 6 months post. I parted my hair ear to ear and chopped just the front. I left the back in case I chickened out and I did! So I gelled the front back and now I have it in a bun. I MIGHT do the rest next week. You can't even tell I did it. Ecostyler gel is the truf!

 

[pookaloo83]

lmfaoooooooooooo this is too funny because I thought about just choppin off the front earlier today lol. i started snippin off lil pieces in the front

It's like I can't wait! But I wanna wait till it gets a little longer. I'm so confrused!

 

[LoveCraze]

I was this close -> <- to BCing this past weekend. For the first time in my transition, my hair was unruly, a constant battle between NG and relaxed ends. I

Hey ladies. Well I took out my twists on Monday and when I say I was so tempted to grab them scissors and go to town, I am not kidding. My ends are like, "What? What you gone do? You wanna piece of me?" And I'm thinking...Yeah so don't push me!! Ok I'm being silly but for real. Ever since then it has been weighing heavily on my mind to do the dang thang! I've been asking my DH every night is he going to help me do it (kinda playing but also kinda not). He keeps putting it off til tomorrow or the weekend etc etc. But seriously, I'm ready to move forward from where I am.
You know it's time to BC when you have no quams about cutting out tangles/knots instead of working them out like you used to even while sometimes utilizing a safety pin in the process. I will cut a knot in a min now and not even bat an eye. I'm just READY! So giving fair warning to you guys that my BC will be sooner and not later with or without DH help. It will be done.
I suppose my biggest fear is the unknown. I simply don't know what my hair will do. I'm hoping I will still be able to pull off great styles and not be looking Toe up from the Flow up. It's as though I feel the pressure to have to look a certain way and if I don't others will be like.."See that's why I couldn't go natural. Just look at how your hair looks". It's like I'm an example that others will be using to judge if they should continue with their journey. I do youtube so I'm speaking primarily of my subs. But I also know that my mom is looking to see what I'm gong to look like and if it's not right, then she's going to show how she feels from her looks and probably some unwanted comments. Sorry to be so long winded here but this is something that is constantly on my mind.
So Platinum, I know how you feel. Except I am planning to do my BC very soon. I'll keep ya'll posted!

 

[FlawedBeauty]

lol i cant wait either. but i KNOW if i cut it all off i'll be like wtf did i do. when its all wet and first cut it im gonna im gonna be like 'oh this is aweeesome, i feel so freeeeee' , when i wake up in the morning and its all dry and shrunk up to my head i'll probably cry

It's like I can't wait! But I wanna wait
till it gets a little longer. I'm so confrused!

 

[pookaloo83]

lol i cant wait either. but i KNOW if i cut it all off i'll be like wtf did i do. when its all wet and first cut it im gonna im gonna be like 'oh this is aweeesome, i feel so freeeeee' , when i wake up in the morning and its all dry and shrunk up to my head i'll probably cry

Exactly! Here's pics of it after I cut. I gelled the fro part down.

 

[LaFemmeNaturelle]

lol i cant wait either. but i KNOW if i cut it all off i'll be like wtf did i do. when its all wet and first cut it im gonna im gonna be like 'oh this is aweeesome, i feel so freeeeee' , when i wake up in the morning and its all dry and shrunk up to my head i'll probably cry

But it's hot outside so you could be cute and free with a washngoooo

 

[MzK]

Ugh--I hate doing my hair. I'm so style-challenged--guess I'm just scared that my hair won't 'do' what the ytubers/lhcf gurls/pics do. And my flexi-sets.......LMAOOO. *sighs*

I would LOVE to do a wash and go, but I don't think it's coming out right: I co-wash with HE HH, DC, wash out-then detangle with VO5 S&C--wash out. Some shea butter, then....then I get lost afterwards, lol. Am I doing to much/little? What am I missing? I just don't want to get discouraged to the point I start craving a relaxer again...I came too far to go back.

 

[Foxglove]

Hey ladies. Well I took out my twists on Monday and when I say I was so tempted to grab them scissors and go to town, I am not kidding. My ends are like, "What? What you gone do? You wanna piece of me?" And I'm thinking...Yeah so don't push me!! Ok I'm being silly but for real. Ever since then it has been weighing heavily on my mind to do the dang thang! I've been asking my DH every night is he going to help me do it (kinda playing but also kinda not). He keeps putting it off til tomorrow or the weekend etc etc. But seriously, I'm ready to move forward from where I am.
You know it's time to BC when you have no quams about cutting out tangles/knots instead of working them out like you used to even while sometimes utilizing a safety pin in the process. I will cut a knot in a min now and not even bat an eye. I'm just READY! So giving fair warning to you guys that my BC will be sooner and not later with or without DH help. It will be done.
I suppose my biggest fear is the unknown. I simply don't know what my hair will do. I'm hoping I will still be able to pull off great styles and not be looking Toe up from the Flow up. It's as though I feel the pressure to have to look a certain way and if I don't others will be like.."See that's why I couldn't go natural. Just look at how your hair looks". It's like I'm an example that others will be using to judge if they should continue with their journey. I do youtube so I'm speaking primarily of my subs. But I also know that my mom is looking to see what I'm gong to look like and if it's not right, then she's going to show how she feels from her looks and probably some unwanted comments. Sorry to be so long winded here but this is something that is constantly on my mind.
So Platinum, I know how you feel. Except I am planning to do my BC very soon. I'll keep ya'll posted!

Make sure you post pics!

 

[andromeda]

Exactly! Here's pics of it after I cut. I gelled the fro part down.

It looks really nice! You would never know that you cut the front!

Hey ladies. Well I took out my twists on Monday and when I say I was so tempted to grab them scissors and go to town, I am not kidding. My ends are like, "What? What you gone do? You wanna piece of me?" And I'm thinking...Yeah so don't push me!! Ok I'm being silly but for real. Ever since then it has been weighing heavily on my mind to do the dang thang! I've been asking my DH every night is he going to help me do it (kinda playing but also kinda not). He keeps putting it off til tomorrow or the weekend etc etc. But seriously, I'm ready to move forward from where I am.
You know it's time to BC when you have no quams about cutting out tangles/knots instead of working them out like you used to even while sometimes utilizing a safety pin in the process. I will cut a knot in a min now and not even bat an eye. I'm just READY! So giving fair warning to you guys that my BC will be sooner and not later with or without DH help. It will be done.
I suppose my biggest fear is the unknown. I simply don't know what my hair will do. I'm hoping I will still be able to pull off great styles and not be looking Toe up from the Flow up. It's as though I feel the pressure to have to look a certain way and if I don't others will be like.."See that's why I couldn't go natural. Just look at how your hair looks". It's like I'm an example that others will be using to judge if they should continue with their journey. I do youtube so I'm speaking primarily of my subs. But I also know that my mom is looking to see what I'm gong to look like and if it's not right, then she's going to show how she feels from her looks and probably some unwanted comments. Sorry to be so long winded here but this is something that is constantly on my mind.
So Platinum, I know how you feel. Except I am planning to do my BC very soon. I'll keep ya'll posted!

You had me laughing (@your ends challenging you to a fight) and nodding my head vigorously. I know how you feel. I've been there with a safety pin in hand too.

Now, I will say this in regard to being hesistant about styling shorter hair and how it will look. Hair pins, plain ones and decorative ones, will be your best friend. I did a flat twist out yesterday that wasn't looking so hot; I grabbed some hairpins and a decorative pearl hair accessory (from Forever 21, iirc) and hooked it up! My guy friend, who saw my BCd natural hair for the first time yesterday was raving, he absolutely loved it and he's generally very frank and honest. When I told him this was a style gone wrong that I had to salvage, he was genuinely surprised.

Also, you're a very pretty lady, so you have that working in your favor. I'm not that pretty nor do I have strong features, and contrary to general wisdom and my own expectations, I actually look better with my hair at this length. It really complements/exaggerates the angles of my face. So, if I can pull it off, I'm sure you'll look great!

 

[FlawedBeauty]

my head too big to be rockin the short hurr lol. i can do big short hair, but not just there short hair. i would love to have some huge shoulder length hair acutally. all curls. ahhhhh...dreaming......

But it's hot outside so you could be cute and free with a washngoooo

 

[ZkittyKurls]

ZKittyKurls what kind of weaves do you get? How long is your hair? My bf hates weaves and wigs and if he sees me putting it in, he will complain but the majority of the time, he doesn't know it's a half wig I have in because it looks like my real hair. If you really care about his opinion, try to get weaves that have a more natural look and don't tell him it's a weave!

well i usually get kinky curly weaves but i guess my hair is like shoulder length and the weave is pass my shoulders like 2 or 3 inches. i pretty much dont bring up the subject and i can tell if hes thinking about my hair cause he will look above my face and i will know automatically so i just start talking about something random to get his mind off it. i think once i cut all the relaxed ends he'll finally get the pic. but that wont be til october! lmao! i have about two more installs left in me. so i usually just keep it in a bun or ponytail and have a scarf on. its just sad that i have to go through so much trouble to make him feel comfortable when im then one always feeling a wreck cause im tryin to make him happy. but i appreciate the advice. thank you!

 

[ZkittyKurls]

ZKittyKurls, I don't have any advise but I'm sorry that you're having aggro from your guy friend. How about braids, kinky twists, half wigs (when he's not around) etc?

thats not a bad idea, he doesnt mind braids. so i will look into that. its so frustrating is all!

 

[ZkittyKurls]

WOW! He sounds really possessive. Maybe try telling him what HE should do with his hair every day Since you don't see him or deal with him that often try not to let it bother you. If he asks maybe just say "you're still on that?" and move on to the next topic...

good luck!

you know you have a point. he is very possessive, but not the crazy kind i think he is more insecure than anything. i will use you suggestion and say that to him the next time he brings it up. its something so little that if it was me i would have been over it by now! lol

 

[ZkittyKurls]

Exactly! Here's pics of it after I cut. I gelled the fro part down.

your hair lookd great! how long have you been transitioning for?

 

[dede1129]

Yeah that is my thing my head is way to big to be wearing a short style. That's why I am thinking this may be a long transition because I will have to keep doing mini chops so that I can retain my length...for my head's sake

my head too big to be rockin the short hurr lol. i can do big short hair, but not just there short hair. i would love to have some huge shoulder length hair acutally. all curls. ahhhhh...dreaming......

 

[ZkittyKurls]

has anyone been transitioinng and been growing their hair to length longer than they had before when they were relaxed? i notice that my hair has never touched my shoulders since i had a relaxer and now i am shoulder length, i can even put it in a bun when its blown out!! i think thats y i havent bc'd yet, even though i have a weave, im trying to enjoy the time i have with my SL hair. i dunno maybe im being petty.

 

[FlawedBeauty]

thats my plan too lol.

however...as im typing i realize i wear my hair pulled back 95%of the time, which makes it look like i have no hair anyway, so does it really even matter . i guess another factor would be if i had somewhere special to go i wouldn't be able to do anything with it.

Yeah that is my thing my head is way to big to be wearing a short style. That's why I am thinking this may be a long transition because I will have to keep doing mini chops so that I can retain my length...for my head's sake

 

[lust for life]

Okay, so I'm entering into my 15th month in 2 weeks! I was planning on chopping on May 10th because it's my birthday, but,after co-washing my hair, I'm going to wait a little longer.

My longest layer of natural hair is NL stretched, but shrinkage is killing me. My cheeks are too chubby for a TWA.

I'm going to wear senegalese twists during the summer and re-evaluate in August. I might chop at 18 months or wait until the 2 year mark.

 

[dede1129]

I am in the same boat that is why I am weaving it up for most of my transition because I am in the Army and I have to wear my hair up 100% of the time so I leave a lil of my hair out in the front and then bun my weave and it looks natural and keeps my bun nice and full and my hair protected and growing. I am gonna do a length check after I take this install down. Plus I can still style my weave without damaging my hair if I have somewhere special to go.

thats my plan too lol.

however...as im typing i realize i wear my hair pulled back 95%of the time, which makes it look like i have no hair anyway, so does it really even matter . i guess another factor would be if i had somewhere special to go i wouldn't be able to do anything with it.

 

[dede1129]

Again I can relate I have a nice, full face so TWA would not work for me either .

On another note what pretty NG you have!

Okay, so I'm entering into my 15th month in 2 weeks! I was planning on chopping on May 10th because it's my birthday, but,after co-washing my hair, I'm going to wait a little longer.

My longest layer of natural hair is NL stretched, but shrinkage is killing me. My cheeks are too chubby for a TWA.

I'm going to wear senegalese twists during the summer and re-evaluate in August. I might chop at 18 months or wait until the 2 year mark.

 

[Shay72]

StephElise--I've been cutting knots for a minute now .

 

[rben]

I can't believe I've made it to 18 months!

I now am 100% sure that I will never use a relaxer again. It is tempting to cut those relaxed ends off sometimes but my hair has never been this long before - it's currently at brastrap. My natural hair looks so healthy compared to relaxed hair which was always damaged by relaxer no matter how careful I was.

 

[pookaloo83]

your hair lookd great! how long have you been transitioning for?

Thanks! The 31st will make 6 months.

 

[KiSseS03]

Welcome back!

Thanks lady!

I'm 16 months post

95% sure I'll be all natural in exactly 4 months

I hear you! You and me both, it may be in 2 months for me. I think the summer is the best time to chop because you have the option of wet styles like wash n go puffs, when you're newly natural and style challenged.

 

[dorko]

still pushing...

 

[Shay72]

So I was cutting some pieces of hair this morning and of course I my hair. The shrinkage is . I have 4.5 inches of new growth which is short!!!!! I know I'm going 18 months but I'm wondering if I should transition for 2 years. We'll see once I reach 18 months. The only thing that makes me want to bc now is detangling. Otherwise no issues.

 

[MummysGirl]

70 weeks post
I'm putting in pixie braids this weekend for a while.

Shay, shrinkage is amazing! KUTGW

 

[LoveCraze]

I did it yall, and I am so glad I did! Here's the thread about it.
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?p=10784214#post10784214

 

[Platinum]

70 weeks post
I'm putting in pixie braids this weekend for a while.

Shay, shrinkage is amazing! KUTGW

I did it yall, and I am so glad I did! Here's the thread about it.
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?p=10784214#post10784214

Congratulations Ladies!

 

[Platinum]

52 weeks post!!!:superbanana: I can't believe I've been transitioning this long! I'm going to try to hold on and continue transitioning. I'll re-evaluate at the 18 month mark (October) and see if I want to BC. If not, I'll try to hold out for the 2 year mark.

Unfortunately, I noticed that I have a few split ends. I'll have to do a S&D because I'm afraid to go to a shop. I don't want a trim to turn out to be a "chop". I'm heading home this weekend and I think I'm going to get another PS. I bought some hair last weekend for a sew-in but I'm having second thoughts. I miss my Senegalese Twists. Has anyone used the Model Model brand Indi Afro hair?