My girl has been on my phone non stop about the newest man in her life. The thing is, I actually like this one. But 2 months into it sh*t is already starting to hit the fan. She says he's moving to fast and she says it makes her uncomfortable - I personally think THEY (collective) are moving to fast and it is making her uncomfortable.
So we got to talking - drilling down to figure out why she always ends up in this situation. That she meets a dude and 2 months later it seems like they've been together for ever - lawd knows it feels that way for me considering she's on my phone nonstop analyzing his every move. The Conclusions:
She Thinks - It's because guys mistake her boredom for genuine interest. In other words, they present the opportunity for activities, and she takes those opportunities. When the activities run dry, the interest slows down - however all along they've mistaken her interest in activities as an interest in THEM (which is true to a certain degree).
I think - She doesn't know how to be single. She's always in a relationship - phasing one out and phasing one in. Always got somebody up to bat and somebody in the bullpen warming up in case this one doesn't work out. She's broken up with ex'es but never actually CUT THEM OFF. So their's always someone waiting in the cut.
Has anyone here never been single?? Is it a problem??? Is it good to be constantly do a juggling act or sometimes, do we have to close doors and AGREE not to open them up again?? How do we find the balance??
So we got to talking - drilling down to figure out why she always ends up in this situation. That she meets a dude and 2 months later it seems like they've been together for ever - lawd knows it feels that way for me considering she's on my phone nonstop analyzing his every move. The Conclusions:
She Thinks - It's because guys mistake her boredom for genuine interest. In other words, they present the opportunity for activities, and she takes those opportunities. When the activities run dry, the interest slows down - however all along they've mistaken her interest in activities as an interest in THEM (which is true to a certain degree).
I think - She doesn't know how to be single. She's always in a relationship - phasing one out and phasing one in. Always got somebody up to bat and somebody in the bullpen warming up in case this one doesn't work out. She's broken up with ex'es but never actually CUT THEM OFF. So their's always someone waiting in the cut.
Has anyone here never been single?? Is it a problem??? Is it good to be constantly do a juggling act or sometimes, do we have to close doors and AGREE not to open them up again?? How do we find the balance??
...but a friend of mine is like this. For her, it's because she's cute and always needs to have a man. And she puts up with a lot of ish just to say she always has one too. For me, it just can't be that serious.
