ultrasheen
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My sister has been in a long distance relationship for five months. She met guy at a wedding reception. They are both 45. He was in town visiting family and attended the wedding. So, he asked for her # and they went on a date before he left town. Later that same month, he bought plane ticket for her to come visit him. The visit went well they toured the city, and just enjoyed each other's company. He also bought ticket for her to visit the following month. That visit went well until he informed her that she would need to reschedule the vacation he had asked her to take off for a next visit due to finances. So she offered to buy her own ticket and explained that she wanted to show she was invested in relationship too and didn't expect him to pay for everything. He was happy that she wanted to share expenses of traveling and future vacations.
So, one week prior to the third visit with ticket that she bought he seemed to not be responding to text messages as he used to or calling on work breaks. She said visit was okay, but things seemed kind of different and not quite as close as before. She doesn't know if he is just getting "too used to being around her" or if he was distracted by some other financial issues or another woman. She is afraid that this LDR is fizzling out just like one she had about 7 years ago.
I told her to hang in there until they have their next visit Thanksgiving holidays and see how things go, because you can't always gauge a person's reaction to conversations over the phone. You need need to have eye contact to see where a person is coming from. Relationships are sometimes difficult even when you see each other everyday and live in the same city.
Has anybody else in a LDR had experiences where communication slowed down then picked back up? Did the LDR end after communication slowed down?
So, one week prior to the third visit with ticket that she bought he seemed to not be responding to text messages as he used to or calling on work breaks. She said visit was okay, but things seemed kind of different and not quite as close as before. She doesn't know if he is just getting "too used to being around her" or if he was distracted by some other financial issues or another woman. She is afraid that this LDR is fizzling out just like one she had about 7 years ago.
I told her to hang in there until they have their next visit Thanksgiving holidays and see how things go, because you can't always gauge a person's reaction to conversations over the phone. You need need to have eye contact to see where a person is coming from. Relationships are sometimes difficult even when you see each other everyday and live in the same city.
Has anybody else in a LDR had experiences where communication slowed down then picked back up? Did the LDR end after communication slowed down?