Ladyhenri
Active Member
(Aplogies for the long post but pls read)
So......
yesterday i had a relaxer after a three month stretch (last relaxer in december) and i had the most horrific experience.
A few of you may know that i had severe dreads/tangles in my hair after not combing for most of the three months. Well yesterday was a day of facing up to the truth. i had untangled a few knots but my hair was filled up with many more knots.
To make matters worse, i had decided to try out a new salon. BIG MISTAKE.
before relaxing, they blow dried my hair to 'extract the knots'. Only they werent extracting, they were tearing at my hair. I could hear it break.
I stopped the woman after trying to bear this for a few minutes, and tried to do the detangling gently( and she kept saying that hair is dead and needs to come out by force) but i quickly realised the tangles in my hair could not be detangled. THey had to be cut out!
After this gut wrenching event, my hair was relaxed with AT One relaxer for sensitive scalps. i had wanted to use ORS but after all the tearing at my scalp, i was advised that i would definately burn.
I spotted a lady with neck length hair getting relaxer applied to her entire head and freaked out. I was ready to race out but was told that although my hair was very kinky they could offer me the normal touch up instead of the full relaxer.I made the lady show me where she felt my new growth started because she seemed to think my entire head was new growth
She relaxed it the way i wanted, (without putting relaxer on previously relaxed hair,) and washed quite gently but i could see straight away that my hair was over processed. I was near tears.
She proceeded to dry my hair very roughly with a towel that felt like a brillo pad and i quickly snatched the towl away and started doing a very gentle pat dry. She rolled her eyes. I asked for a treatment straight afterwards and got a deep condition (15 minutes under steamer with motions) for which they charged the same amount as my touch up
Afterwards they blowdried my hair again.
All through the entire procedure i lost no less than five handfulls of hair.
I was very depressed on leaving the salon, though everyone in the salon kept saying that i had stunning hair.
WTF!! my hair is barely what it was three months ago!
Bu then again i looked at the hairs of all the ladiies in there (customers and hair dressers) and realised that every one had extremely jacked up hair (half concealed by weaves and plaits)
How wouldnt they be bl**dy impressed by seemingly healthy shoulder length hair?
Its been 6months since i joined on here and my progress was really good untill yesterdays events.
I promised pictures every three months and i will be taking some pics this afternoon. Just need to shake off my extreme blues first.
I was ready to cut my hair yesterday cos i felt so down.
MY SO thinks my hair is still lovely and keeps trying to play with it but a few withering glances and sharp words later, he is keeping his hands firmly to himself.
I am sooo depressed right now.
Three things are for sure.
I AM combing my hair every two days from now on
I am Never stretching that long again
And I AM DEFINATELY LEARNING TO SELF RELAX!!!
No more salons for me!
Pls share any tips or experiences that could help me loose this mood
So......
yesterday i had a relaxer after a three month stretch (last relaxer in december) and i had the most horrific experience.
A few of you may know that i had severe dreads/tangles in my hair after not combing for most of the three months. Well yesterday was a day of facing up to the truth. i had untangled a few knots but my hair was filled up with many more knots.
To make matters worse, i had decided to try out a new salon. BIG MISTAKE.
before relaxing, they blow dried my hair to 'extract the knots'. Only they werent extracting, they were tearing at my hair. I could hear it break.
I stopped the woman after trying to bear this for a few minutes, and tried to do the detangling gently( and she kept saying that hair is dead and needs to come out by force) but i quickly realised the tangles in my hair could not be detangled. THey had to be cut out!
After this gut wrenching event, my hair was relaxed with AT One relaxer for sensitive scalps. i had wanted to use ORS but after all the tearing at my scalp, i was advised that i would definately burn.
I spotted a lady with neck length hair getting relaxer applied to her entire head and freaked out. I was ready to race out but was told that although my hair was very kinky they could offer me the normal touch up instead of the full relaxer.I made the lady show me where she felt my new growth started because she seemed to think my entire head was new growth
She relaxed it the way i wanted, (without putting relaxer on previously relaxed hair,) and washed quite gently but i could see straight away that my hair was over processed. I was near tears.
She proceeded to dry my hair very roughly with a towel that felt like a brillo pad and i quickly snatched the towl away and started doing a very gentle pat dry. She rolled her eyes. I asked for a treatment straight afterwards and got a deep condition (15 minutes under steamer with motions) for which they charged the same amount as my touch up
Afterwards they blowdried my hair again.
All through the entire procedure i lost no less than five handfulls of hair.
I was very depressed on leaving the salon, though everyone in the salon kept saying that i had stunning hair.
WTF!! my hair is barely what it was three months ago!
Bu then again i looked at the hairs of all the ladiies in there (customers and hair dressers) and realised that every one had extremely jacked up hair (half concealed by weaves and plaits)
How wouldnt they be bl**dy impressed by seemingly healthy shoulder length hair?
Its been 6months since i joined on here and my progress was really good untill yesterdays events.
I promised pictures every three months and i will be taking some pics this afternoon. Just need to shake off my extreme blues first.
I was ready to cut my hair yesterday cos i felt so down.
MY SO thinks my hair is still lovely and keeps trying to play with it but a few withering glances and sharp words later, he is keeping his hands firmly to himself.
I am sooo depressed right now.
Three things are for sure.
I AM combing my hair every two days from now on
I am Never stretching that long again
And I AM DEFINATELY LEARNING TO SELF RELAX!!!
No more salons for me!
Pls share any tips or experiences that could help me loose this mood