My pastor says Shut up on the pulpit...

[Kinkyhairlady]

He loves to tell stories and he will say he told so and so to shut up and yesterday he said it again and said sorry to one of the members but he had to say it in the sermon. There was another time he was talking about a man who had cerebral palsy and he was doing all the gestures and it was very uncomfortable. He's a good preacher but sometimes I think he offends and does not realize that.

 

[JaneBond007]

He "ain't worth 15 cents."

 

[SmileyNY]

He "ain't worth 15 cents."

 

[Kinkyhairlady]

So do all think it's a sin? Is shut up a swear? I don't know to be honest. I just started going to this church but I do realize some pastors offend and either don't care or don't realize.

 

[aribell]

Not a swear, but rude nonetheless. And mocking someone's movements is unkind. He needs to have people in his life that will give him feedback about things like this.

 

[Shimmie]

So do all think it's a sin? Is shut up a swear? I don't know to be honest. I just started going to this church but I do realize some pastors offend and either don't care or don't realize.

It's very rude and harsh to say that to anyone. He should know better, especially coming from the Pulpit.

He also very wrong to 'mock' someone with a disability. It's not funny and someone needs to 'check him' on that. He is not setting a good example for the congregation and especially not for the children who see and hear this.

 

[Sosa]

He sounds insensitive.

 

[Kinkyhairlady]

It's very rude and harsh to say that to anyone. He should know better, especially coming from the Pulpit. He also very wrong to 'mock' someone with a disability. It's not funny and someone needs to 'check him' on that. He is not setting a good example for the congregation and especially not for the children who see and hear this.

He was not mocking according to him. He was giving a testimony about a man with cerebral palsy and how that man overcame adversary and became a successful motivational speaker and basically if God could use him than he can use anyone. The issue was the acting out of slurred speech and movement and he noticed the silence in the room and said he is not making fun but speaking the truth and we need to know the truth. Idk I really like his sermons and learn a lot but I'm wondering if I picked the right place to worship. I don't want to be wrong.

 

[Rocky91]

But he could have given the testimony without the movements...
As far as shut up, that's really not something I'd expect to hear coming from the pulpit. It'd make me uncomfortable.

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[felic1]

We can discuss how people over come disabilities and have success without making fun of them. Forgive me. I remember Creflo Dollar's wife saying she told him he was a sexist. Telling someone they are wrong is definitely the function of a wife or a friend. You have to call people out on really wrong behavior. Or you may have to change where you go. I experience really rude people at the church I go to. I dare say that they want me to get out. When I go and how quickly I go is up to me. I want to leave at the right time and without anger or bitterness towards others. I guess I have said enough.

 

[Kinkyhairlady]

We can discuss how people over come disabilities and have success without making fun of them. Forgive me. I remember Creflo Dollar's wife saying she told him he was a sexist. Telling someone they are wrong is definitely the function of a wife or a friend. You have to call people out on really wrong behavior. Or you may have to change where you go. I experience really rude people at the church I go to. I dare say that they want me to get out. When I go and how quickly I go is up to me. I want to leave at the right time and without anger or bitterness towards others. I guess I have said enough.

I just started going there so I would not feel comfy saying anything. I hope he's wife says something. The church is struggling to grow and I'm wondering if his comments are what bother folks. Finding a good church is hard.

 

[Shimmie]

I just started going there so I would not feel comfy saying anything. I hope he's wife says something. The church is struggling to grow and I'm wondering if his comments are what bother folks. Finding a good church is hard.

You are faithful. Yes, you are, you are faithful. So much so, that you give folks extended grace to prove themselves. I can see that you do not like to 'judge', but would rather forgive and to be at peace, even with those who are not peaceful.

God is going to bless you to be where you will flow in worship. I thank God right now for leading you to that special Church, which will not be perfect, but because you are there, perfection will flow just enough for you to at peace.

You owe nothing to where you are, you only owe your heart to the Lord. It's so easy to see your heart is with Him. Don't give up on finding the right Church for you.

 

[Ivonnovi]

OP I understand your concerns, and I'd strongly suggest you not ignore your gut feelings.

I would love to hear about how someone with cerebral palsy would have felt about his presentation.

My opinion is that he is not the minister for you. This minister has has character flaws which he can't hid, even when in the pulpit; AND YOU SEE THIS.

 

[Kinkyhairlady]

OP I understand your concerns, and I'd strongly suggest you not ignore your gut feelings. I would love to hear about how someone with cerebral palsy would have felt about his presentation. My opinion is that he is not the minister for you. This minister has has character flaws which he can't hid, even when in the pulpit; AND YOU SEE THIS.

I think I will speak up to be honest. It's a new church 3 yrs old and if his vision is to grow he needs to be careful with his choice of words. He knows his bible and preaches well but he has some things he has to adjust. They have embraced me greatly and I'm more involved in church then I have ever been. I'm growing spiritually so I really am lost if I leave and I don't want that for myself. I'm now in a position that I can voice my concern. I'll see what happens.