God --and please know, I don't say that to be facetious!! I'm trying to go by what He has and has not admonished his people for doing in relation to marriage, within scripture as a whole.
Yes. In fact we've already done that --no bestiality, pedophilia, three-somes, etc. Many have made the argument that the marriage bed makes "anything" including those things "clean". Not so.
Yup!
This is a good example --stripper poles started in a place designed to encourage sin: strip clubs. Bringing that into a marriage doesn't change that origin. Also, I'm not equating "skrippin'" with truly artistic art forms that require a pole --such as acts seen in Cirque Du Soliel; however, let's not be "brand new" though!
The feats performed by acrobats in Cirque Du Soliel do not resemble one of "Black China's" routines!
If you're whirling around to some classic Enya or something (humor me here, lol!) looking like some ethereal creature sailing through the clouds and that makes your hubby then awesome, I suppose.
Bringing "strip culture" and all that comes with it (because you can't truly divorce the two, what makes it "sexy" to your hubby is what made it a tantalizing sin in the secular, in the first place, otherwise you wouldn't bother bringing it into the bedroom for the sake of being sexy for hubby!) into a Christian marriage, and saying that being married makes it "clean" --while Lil John is screaming: "Put it in your mouth b----, it's yours!" and "Get that n---- hard!"...eh, I'm going to need a good argument for that.
Same with BDSM, certain role playing (pretending to be a child, rape fantasy, etc.), etc. If what made it "sex'y to the secular world it was born in, encouraged sin, then doing it within a Christian marriage doesn't suddenly sanctify it. That's a horribly slippery slope.
Still, we have to take certain things back --things the church often shuns or refuses to talk about like: certain types of massage, dancing for hubby in general, romantic/erotic poetry (and its skillful recitation between partners), love songs (not lust songs, but actual love songs), knowledge of positions, techniques --stay with me, I'm trying to keep this G-rated here-- and so forth, DO need to be taken back from the world.
Having practical knowledge about how to please your mate isn't sin --it's wise. We can't pretend sex isn't an important part of marriage --we all know it is, and that "vanilla" isn't everyone's flavor (Again, I'm trying to keep it G-rated here, roll with me ).
Trying to carry aspects of "porn culture", "club culture", "sex tape culture", etc. into a Christian marriage and call it clean...not so wise.
I hope I'm being clear
CoilyFields. I'm not trying to be combative, by the way, and I'd be open to good arguments. I've said it on LHCF before that I'm a 25 year-old virgin --by choice. I take marriage and ALL its aspects seriously...which is why future hubby Will.Not.Know.What.Hit.Him.