My HaiR Is CutE anD YoU Can't HaVe it.
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detroitdiva
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LMAO!! Some people are so rude! It's amazing what ppl say and do jus in the interest of making someone else feel bad or insecure. You didn't do anything wrong. She prop felt that she didn't do anything wrong either. That is so lame, but there a lot of women that are out here like that.
Lady S
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It was a hair store! If you're in a hair store surrounded by fake hair, it's not the same as if you're in a grocery store. But like others said, sometimes people want to be unique. Or she didn't want to admit it was synthetic or something.
I am the exact opposite, 95% of the time when people compliment my hair, I'm like, "It's a wig/half wig!" all excited.
I'll tell them the brand name & the website. If someone likes my earrings and want to know, I'll tell them in a second, too. Especially if it was on sale. I will brag about sale items in a heartbeat. Don't judge, I'm encouraging financial responsibility.
I am the exact opposite, 95% of the time when people compliment my hair, I'm like, "It's a wig/half wig!" all excited.
I'll tell them the brand name & the website. If someone likes my earrings and want to know, I'll tell them in a second, too. Especially if it was on sale. I will brag about sale items in a heartbeat. Don't judge, I'm encouraging financial responsibility.
Mz.MoMo5235
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well i know some chicks buy their hair directly from the vendors and they dont want the vendor to become too popular because if they do the prices go up and the quality goes down....
but this is what i gather from lurking in the lf threads on bhm. its like a secret community lol you have to be like jumped in and what not lol
but this is what i gather from lurking in the lf threads on bhm. its like a secret community lol you have to be like jumped in and what not lol
I AM...
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I do not ask anyone where they got something I simply converse and if the info is offered fine...I however ALWAYS tell chicks where I get whatever. I give them my hairdresser # and let them make their own decision. I see it this way. No chick out there can duplicate my FLY>>>> It takes nothing away from me to give you a name or a website because by the time you cop( if you cop) I have moved onto something else.
NaturalBeauty<3
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i'd def tell. u can have it. I'm growing my own anyways.
For me it depends. I don't have a problem with letting people know that I wear wigs. When I first started I was having a conversation with two co-workers and told them I was tired of my short hair and was going out to buy me some. I think there is a difference between an innocent question and someone trying to call you out. I have another coworker who couldn't wait until we are in a room for of people so she can compliment my wig. :flyingwit I had to take her aside and let her know that that wasn't cool, I know it's not mine and you know it's not mine and probably half the people in the room know, but you don't have to try and out me to make yourself feel better. If I want to tell someone then I will tell them, not you.
On the other hand I really don't mind telling people where I got my hair from as long as I know that's what they are really wanting to know and they are not trying to be funny or cute or embarrass me. With that said who knows of a really good cv flw maker.
On the other hand I really don't mind telling people where I got my hair from as long as I know that's what they are really wanting to know and they are not trying to be funny or cute or embarrass me. With that said who knows of a really good cv flw maker.
MaintaintheSexy
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This story goes back to the timeless notion of Black women lacking sisterhood amongst each other. I am constantly asked where I get hair, clothes, jewels, shoes and/or nail polish from and I always tell. That's just me. Black women need to stop being catty and petty with one another. It's sickening.
sweetlaughter
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I can understand her hesitancy to not divulge where she bought the hair from. I don't wear weaves/wigs but I do know that there are certain people I cannot divulge source info to for my clothes. I have had friends be like oh that's where and then pop up a few days later in the same outfit. But, you know what, I don't like my business out in the street.
DrC
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Sounds like somebody is trying to BE you lol.
nappystorm
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I don't like sharing either. I don't shop at "exclusive" places but I don't want somebody rocking the same thing I am. I guess I have insecurity issues too 
femmemuscle
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Well, according to the way i was raised, you just don't walk up to people IN PUBLIC, and ask them personal questions. and THAT is personal...
It doesn't matter whether a person is in a BSS store, or standing at a subway. some folks are shy, or maybe introverts.
Unfortunately, i'm in this category. Thus, if you come up to me, IN PUBLIC, i am wary. If you come up to me asking a personal question IN PUBLIC, i get pretty annoyed...and shy away.
There are some folks that have no problem sharing info about your weaves, your clothes, or any personal items that you wear. If you are an extrovert personality, that's fine, you may not have a problem with it - but that doesn't mean that others are wrong because they don't share your point of view. remember there are other personality types, and other people who are brought up far more differently than yourself, who DO mind being asked certain questions in public..
When i was coming up, this word was known as being RESPECTFUL toward others, especially in public.
It's the same as being in the ladies locker room, and i was asked if my boobs were real. Because we're in the ladies locker room does that make it "okay" because we're all women? nope.
It doesn't matter whether a person is in a BSS store, or standing at a subway. some folks are shy, or maybe introverts.
Unfortunately, i'm in this category. Thus, if you come up to me, IN PUBLIC, i am wary. If you come up to me asking a personal question IN PUBLIC, i get pretty annoyed...and shy away.
There are some folks that have no problem sharing info about your weaves, your clothes, or any personal items that you wear. If you are an extrovert personality, that's fine, you may not have a problem with it - but that doesn't mean that others are wrong because they don't share your point of view. remember there are other personality types, and other people who are brought up far more differently than yourself, who DO mind being asked certain questions in public..
When i was coming up, this word was known as being RESPECTFUL toward others, especially in public.
It's the same as being in the ladies locker room, and i was asked if my boobs were real. Because we're in the ladies locker room does that make it "okay" because we're all women? nope.
LittleLuxe
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Exactly. I don't mind pointing someone in the direction of a store but it does irk some nerves when they basically copy everything you do to the letter. But again I don't mind sharing, I think I really enjoy it when I know I'm opening a door for someone to explore something for themselves and see what fits them but when they essentially just mimick...not cool dude, lol.
LittleLuxe
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Lol, did this really happen and if so did you give her the blankest coldest stare of your life?
Someone said this previously and I agree, when it comes to body parts: hair, eyes, nails, BOOBS it's best not to walk up to someone and go "Heeeeeyyyy...where'd you buy that from?"
Now if you catch me on a good day and you want to ask about my shoes...I would be pleased to share and blab on and on (you ladies even have me talking hair like a rhodes scholar to some of my friends) but when it comes to strangers err on the side of overly-polite.
qchelle
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Sorry, I had to come and chime in again 
I see alot of folks saying they don't mind when someone asks them about hair, makeup, clothes, etc etc and I just wanted to clarify.
I don't mind people asking me about all of that stuff either, including hair....the STYLE of my hair. If someone says 'I like your hair! Where'd you get it done?' I'd gladly tell them. IMO, that's very different from 'I like your hair! Where'd you buy it from?' umm, no bxtch.
'I like your azzz, do you do squats? Gimme some tips!'-Suuuuure!!
'I like your azzz, who'd you go to for injections?'-umm, no bxtch
'Your boobs are perfect! Do you wear a bra 24/7?'-Conversation time!
'Your boobs are perfect! What doctor did them?'-umm, no bxtch
The latter of these respective scenarios are implying, imo, that you can't POSSIBLY look that good/look that way without buying some sort of enhancement to 'add on'. I hope this doesn't interfere with the 'sistagirl' rules
I see alot of folks saying they don't mind when someone asks them about hair, makeup, clothes, etc etc and I just wanted to clarify.
I don't mind people asking me about all of that stuff either, including hair....the STYLE of my hair. If someone says 'I like your hair! Where'd you get it done?' I'd gladly tell them. IMO, that's very different from 'I like your hair! Where'd you buy it from?' umm, no bxtch.
'I like your azzz, do you do squats? Gimme some tips!'-Suuuuure!!
'I like your azzz, who'd you go to for injections?'-umm, no bxtch
'Your boobs are perfect! Do you wear a bra 24/7?'-Conversation time!
'Your boobs are perfect! What doctor did them?'-umm, no bxtch
The latter of these respective scenarios are implying, imo, that you can't POSSIBLY look that good/look that way without buying some sort of enhancement to 'add on'. I hope this doesn't interfere with the 'sistagirl' rules
SweetSpirit86
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^^^^
Curlybeauty
New Member
I'm like that woman. Especially about clothes. I hate going somewhere and seeing somebody with what I have on. Granted the next person won't look like me in the clothes, but I'm not going to willingly take that chance. I'm not rude about it either, I usually just say it is a gift and KIM.
femmemuscle
Active Member
yes, i agree.
I asked her politely, not ask things of that nature in PUBLIC, "it's not appropriate".. as i was walking away, i got the eye roll, and yes, all of those women were whispering about my attitude, and how i don't talk at all in the gym, etc.
If you notice that i don't talk "at all" in the gym - why in the hell do you think i'm going to just OPEN UP and talk about anything else - especially that?
anything that is on one's person - is "personal"... thus, i have a choice whether i wish to share or not. Maybe some folks don't seem to understand that.
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