My friend was seduced by one of her friends...

[firecracker]

Exactly, so as far as she is concerned the friendship is over. She wants nothing to do with him. I agree with her, he took advantage.... I think she should tell him exactly were she stands, because apparently he is hinting he wants more 'sessions'. To clarify, it was heavy petting, not intercourse nicola.kirwan

See I don't get why she wants to end the friendship if he is truly a good friend. She is the one that fell for the okey dokey. She had to know that real friends don't makeout. A man will try anything. Its up to all those involved in the friendship to respect the boundries of friendship. Friendships can be tested and she flunked the test.

 

[aribell]

Hmm...what does "seduced" mean? idk, I don't agree with making out with people indiscriminately, but was she really taken advantage of? That's not a challenge, but a question. I would say he took advantage if he befriended her with the hidden motive of pursuing something sexual or if he intentionally used her trust of him to lower her guard. But was it really that intentional, or was this just two grown-ups doing grown-up things without really thinking about it?

She might be feeling more hurt than she has to be. Perhaps her feelings for him are deeper than she thought?

 

[Theo]

@Theo

Thats so disturbing to me. That's not a friend.

I could not be friends with someone who tried to take advantage while i was sleeping. No way. It'd be done done done, we cant hang out ever again.

Oh I didn't realized I'd been tagged in this thread. I guess my mentions aren't working erplexed

The thing was this dude was the best friend of one of my best male friends so I guess I just assumed he was cool people? I'd just moved to the area and my friend put us in contact. We had already hung out a few times previously.

Dude told me that my friend had told him to look out for me while I was here... but I found out later that my friend told this dude to look out for me but to NOT to try anything of that nature with me, so he definitely is a slimeball. He doesn't know that my friend knows what happened, and my friend was really apologetic about the whole thing.

But yeah... UrbainChic that was definitely a weird experience. He's got some issues... I found out later he'd done this to a few girls in undergrad. Supposedly they called him the creeper

I won't be hanging out with him alone again.

 

[vevster]

I wonder how he's able to act as though it didn't happen while hinting that he wants more.

I imagine that she's hurt that he would put her in that category. It's like she's not even a possible for him when it comes to relationships. But she's got enough to get down with.

Who wants to be used like that? I don't blame her for being hurt. But she should just take note an keep it moving.

Well, he didn't talk about it, didn't communicate but then started back being kinda flirtatious....

See the bolded is the point I wanted to make. She isn't promiscuous and didn't dream that this would be the outcome. Obviously, she took a chance and it didn't work out.

She was extremely hurt and yes, as with anything she needs to move on.

Here is the kicker, this guy is supposed to be a DEVOUT CHRISTIAN, lol .

She truly felt he would not have gone there if he wasn't interested in deepening the friendship.