Southernbella.
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Divine, that really sucks! I agree, you handled it VERY well.
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secretdiamond said:I remember when I was on a 12 week stretch. I went to the salon for a blow-out.. I prob was about 10 weeks or less...
"Don't come back next time if you don't have a relaxer."LOL. I simply nodded my head and went out the door and told myslef, "she ain't seeing me in a WHILE"
So now, I only go to her IF I've had a fresh relaxer and HAPPEN to want a blow-out (if at all). So the last few times I went (the last time was in Nov.), she keeps telling me, "Mami, long time no see. You never come anymore." I just smile and say... "Oh I'm too busy to take care of my hair these days."![]()
Yeah. I definitely think it will be easier this way. I would love to transition now, but I know that Spring is gonna be busy for me so I want to make sure I do this right b/c I really don't want to BC.onepraying said:I think your plan of transing to a texlaxed state will greatly increase your ability to go natural. Taking care of hair totally contrast of relaxed really is a chore...I'm glad you see that and is willing to put aside the time for it when the time comes...it will take just that...TIME..![]()
~op~
sylver2 said:Hey girl..sooo sorry about your experience. That is crazy.
I grew up on Dominican stylists, thats all that I let do my hair and thats the only ones I will allow to touch it now. U get use to that HURT from the blowouts..lol
of course not all can't be good..sigh. I only started having bad experiences when I left NYC.
What a horrible experince to go thru. That was crazy for her to say she is charging seperate for washing/con. Thats included in a touchup. U def held your ground telling her you'll go wash it yourself..
Were they dark Dominicans??
OneInAMillion said:First, DI, I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience, but I'm glad you were able to tell her exactly what YOU wanted. I feel like all stylists need to hear that.
ITA with your comments Sylver. I've had Dominicans doing my hair since I started getting relaxers, so they're the only ones I can really trust with rollersets & blowouts, except my childhood hairdresser (African American) who applies my relaxers. However, the two times I let Dominican stylists relax my hair I was thoroughly disappointed, so NEVER AGAIN. I say this because YES, their hair is very similar in texture, BUT--they like to relax bone straight. My hair is fine, and can't take that. Honestly, when I see Dominican women coming in for relaxers, they want a bone straight look. NOT everyone wants or needs that though.
It's sad, but I had an experience very similar to yours when I moved down south and went to an African American stylist. She screamed on me for going 5 months w/o a relaxer, left it on while doing her own hair, and was angry when I told her to wash it out. Then, when I asked for a rollerset and blowout, she accused me of wanting to be like "the white girls". I walked out of there with no tip.
So, all this to say, you just have to find a stylist you trust and who knows your needs. If I find any stylist that can texturize and rollerset how I like, then I'm there.
Sorry about your experience.
~One
sylver2 said:...Dominican stylists, thats all that I let do my hair and thats the only ones I will allow to touch it now. U get use to that HURT from the blowouts..lol
Divine Inspiration said:Yeah, I've gotten the white girl thing quite a bit too...very annoying. They think you're trying to be white in the first place if you have long hair, but then if you want it done a certain way, then you're "stuck up" or "siddity." I thought things may be BETTER going to a stylist of a different race (less jealousy of hair length, looks etc), but I guess a bad stylist is a bad stylist regardless of what color they are.The next salon I visit will be Divine's Daring Do's that uses ALL the right products and does EVERYTHING right and I NEVER have to wait AND it's FREEEEEEE
Sometimes I just wanna go back to some of the old stylists, walk in the door, turn around, flip my hair over my shoulder, and walk back out.![]()
Divine Inspiration said:Girl, 3 of her black clients came in while she was workin on my head, and they all had NAPE length, DRY hair. I was likeAfter seeing them, I understood why she said what she said...she's not used to seeing a black woman w/ long, thick hair that's not "broken off"...so I knew I wouldn't be goin back anyway, but I definitely didn't want my hair to look like theirs!
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Divine Inspiration said:Stylist: Ok, ok, just relax. We'll just see how it goes. Don't worry girl, I'm not gonna cut all your hair off. I know how hard it is for YOU BLACK WOMEN to grow your hair.
Me:Um, just apply the relaxer, please.
classimami713 said:You gotta love it when stylists tell you what they're gonna do to YOUR hair whether you like it or not.![]()
I'm so glad you stood up for yourself!
Lady_Lioness said:WoW...now that's a damn shame...Good for you girl..leave that lady alone...how is her hair by the way?...Does it look healthy?...you're lucky that she didn't try to mess up your hair.